I've heard this saying so many times in my life. "oh, we had a rough patch there, but now things are great, i love her."

how many times have you heard this nonsense.

even the few marriages I know that didn't end in bitter hate or divorce, had HUGE issues and 'make it or break it' moments. many had infidelity even. I know two women, both have been loyal for a while, but its not by choice. they are just too post wall to get the type of men they'd like to fuck. but both will tell me how them cheating 20 years ago in their mid 20's was GREAT for the marriage and she was glad to get it out of her system.

...known many brides who do have loyalty, but it usually only comes after 1-2 fuck-tastic affairs POST marriage, and the wall smashes the loyalty into them, not by choice but by survival.

...I'm quite confident now but I can look back at my 20's and see I had some wavering confidence. much of it rooted in the belief that i must have something fundamentally wrong with me that i'd never be compatible with any woman longer than 12 months. turns out i wasn't compatible, because I had common sense.

I can look at any other relationship. coworkers, boss, friends, best friend, ex lovers. I just do NOT fight or have drama in my life. i just don't. i'd say i'm about the easiest person to get along with in terms of temperament with pride in my ability to communicate VERY CLEARLY to prevent bullshit and just issues that arise when you don't say what you want. I have maybe one fight a year. or issue. and yet i look back and even women i adored and did everything right, drama.

that was my first real red pill. why didn't women like peace.

man struggles to survive and thus the concept of settling down because of safe haven, hoping he gives up some freedom for a lineage and family that outlives his death bed. it can never be a given reality.

men have to realize women are always one accident or shortage of cash from bailing. Briffaults law, they are constantly looking for what's next and if you can't provide it, you're worthless, no matter how hot you are. they will literally throw 30 years of marriage away for a few grand if she knows for sure the husband of 30 years can never provide said benefit going forward.

it's why there are "rough patches". it's just women angry at themselves for the beta cuck they did marry and constantly consumed by their hypergamy if they can or cannot do better than said schmuck.