Blue Pill Dad

Evers89 · 2013-05-09T14:32:28+00:00

You'll cause an issue in your home. Keep your bullshit out of the household. Your dad will resent you and your mom will challenge you daily. Not exactly the best play in a home. They're your family and ultimately your final support. I wouldn't try to disrupt that for the sake of being more domineering.

Start changing your life around and your attitude will slowly change enough where they won't put you down.

dropit_sphere · 2013-05-09T16:40:25+00:00

Rather than trying to out-alpha your dad, I would go extreme beta toward him.

What do I mean by this? I do NOT mean adopt lame beta traits. Everything anyone here says in terms of self-direction, exercise, etc. is spot-on.

What I mean, I guess, is to start treating your dad as alpha, rather than trying to become beta. Start addressing him as "Sir" (don't be weird about it). Refrain from laughing if your mom makes a joke at his expense. Be particularly observant to do what he says.

Basically, adopt the frame you'd like your son to adopt if you were your dad.

Edit: I also endorse pretty much everything in this thread.

banalredditing · 2013-05-09T14:05:32+00:00

Red pill isn't about arguing more. Also, might want to consider not trying to alpha your dad.

And thats awful vague about how you have bp dad. Hard to see if you're even right about that.

roe_ · 2013-05-09T16:19:13+00:00

Pushing boundaries and testing your parents is a natural part of growing up.

Generally, the frame you want with them is demonstrating an ability to accept and properly exercise responsibility. Assuming they're reasonably sane, they will tolerate more boundary pushing if you establish a history of clear thinking and rational action.

It's more important to establish a dominant frame with your peer group then it is with your parents.

Coyy · 2013-05-09T16:13:57+00:00

Your parents are the only ones who love you unconditionally. Remember that

Dreidhen · 2013-05-09T21:24:17+00:00

Incredible advice in this thread.

If your Mom and Dad get along, why ruin that OP? That's their dynamic, they settled into it, and it works for them. If it doesn't, that's their problem, not yours.

Being Alpha isn't about dominating others. It's about mastering yourself.

Want to challenge the rule of the house? Rebel?

Man up and get your own place. Or don't complain.

[deleted] · 2013-05-09T16:03:13+00:00

There's two sides to this in my mind. On one hand, as a child you have a very deep and very real issue disrupting the dynamics of your relationship with your parents. Your mother and father are your guides in life, and you don't want them to start seeing you as someone who is hostile towards them or as someone they need to control. I get that.

On the other hand, that transition from teenager to adult is crucial in a parent-child relationship. Sometimes you have to be honest with your parents about things so that they will see you differently and stop treating you like their little boy. You're leaving the nest soon, and if you're not leaving your parents with a completely honest portrait of who you are, it'll become too easy to start hiding things from them and start playing a part when you're around them. It sounds like you've already started doing so, and the weight of that only increases as you get further and further away from the child they think you are.

[deleted] · 2013-05-11T00:35:25+00:00

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jngshin · 2013-05-09T18:42:53+00:00

just be a good son, sounds like they deserve it

The_Dinosaur_Club · 2013-05-10T04:24:44+00:00

If you have brothers and sisters, set the example by dropping everything when your dad asks you to do something. Spend more time with your dad. You'll be out of the house soon so it's a good idea anyways. Re-paint rooms, mow the lawn, work on cars together. Make it clear that you've moved out of childhood and you're occupying your father's male sphere. Back it up by being responsibe and dependable. Treat your mom like a woman i.e. be affectionate not confrontational. If she's being unreasonable, smile, say you'll check with dad first, then do whatever bullshit she wanted you to do as if it was your dad who got you in line for her. Soon she'll just go to him when she wants you to do something, freeing you up to just have an affectionate relationship with her. Only men can raise sons.

Title	Blue Pill Dad
Author	goingawaytomars
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	May 9, 2013 1:46 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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