An absolute horror story here

Hello there, Ive lurked a long time but decided to come out with my story of how my Ex wife cheated on me. Heads up, this is almost a novel.

I dated this girl for almost six years, since we were both 18. I moved from my minimum wage pizza job to a parts counter at a dealership making well over 50k a year. I bought my first house, all while we were together. I paid for the wedding out of my pocket, and bought and flipped cars to afford it for two years. All throughout, she kept neglecting herself more and more each day.

Well, we married in november of 2017 and all was good, almost like a fairytale. But it lasted two weeks. That was when she really started to change. She suddenly told me that she wanted to be able to mess around with other women, that she wanted a threesome, etc etc etc. I tried my best to comply with her wishes but her infidelity caught up with her first.

The first time I caught her she was almost PROUD to tell me that she was sexting a man from west Virginia in order to make herself horny so that we could have better sex. I lost my shit, screamed and yelled at her as to why she could do this to me. Mind you, Im only a month into marriage at this point. TLDR, we went to counseling and therapy where the therapist told me that I needed to pay more attention to her(Kinda hard when youre working 60+ hours a week because she doesnt want to work).

After months of trying to trust her again I urged her to take the trip to Florida that she had been hounding me about for weeks. She insisted on going alone for a week to stay with her grandmother. I had huge red flags at this point but stuffed them down out of sight with the thought process of “Im not going to be able to trust her again unless I give her space to show me I can.” This will end up being a huge mistake.

Sorry guys, trying to shorten this as best as I can so its not a novel.

Anyway, she comes back from florida and we prepare to take our “Honeymoon” to Hawaii. After she returns from Florida shes become very attached to her phone to the point that i’m getting very worried again. Shes laughing and giggling on her phone all the time, takes it everywhere, lays it facedown etc. At this point we havent had sex in almost three months. Its april. We go on the honeymoon, and it mainly consists of her laying in the condo room for a week on her phone while I drive around Maui in a rented Mustang Gt Convertible. I had a blast, still no sex.

Fast forward to May 18, 2018. Im laying in bed with her reading a book, and I happen to shift and see the purple devil emoji on her chat screen on her phone. Something is not right, theres only one time you use that emoji. I lay back down and just try to shake it off, trusting her, but in about 6 seconds I HAVE TO KNOW. I pop up and say “What was that chat honey?” She shows me a different screen and I grab her phone and pop back to the other chat. What I saw was my entire body melting out through my toes. She was sexting and videochatting and talking with this man about some of the kinkiest shit I have ever seen. She talked down on me to him, told him I was emotionally abusive, told him she was ready to leave me and missed the time she spent with him in FLORIDA. I was broken, devastated, destroyed. She shrugged it of, rolled over, and went to sleep.

The next morning she woke up, and went out with friends for a while. I was mentally in the worst position I could be in and I couldnt take it anymore. I shouldn’t have been alone. I started messaging my friends, my closest family that I loved and trusted and telling them how much they meant to me and that I really appreciated their love and friendship. One of my best buddies thankfully recognized the signs and called me nonstop over and over until I answered. His words? “Don’t fucking do anything stupid asshole, im on my way to your house and you had better be ok when I get there” That friend saved my life that day by recognizing the signs and knowing WHY I was saying goodbye. He left his 80,000 a year job in rushhour traffic in Atlanta to drive a hour to my house to make sure I was ok. I Honestly cannot ask for a better friendship. I Gave him all of my guns that day and had him hold onto them until I wasnt a threat to myself anymore.

Fast forward again!

Its June 2018, I am back in counseling and therapy with my ex wife and nothing is really changing my mood about this situation. I go to work everyday, come home, clean, go to bed. After talking to many trusted family members and spilling my guts to them, I decided I was faced with only one option. I had to divorce her. I talked to a few lawyers, listened to their advice, and made my plan.

July 18, 2018 I told my ex wife that when I got home we needed to talk about something, which she didn’t seem to mind. I had been letting her think that I had forgiven her at this point. I got home, asked her to come to the basement before she started dinner. She sat down, I sat down and said “This isnt working, and your cheating is something I cant deal with. I’m filing for divorce, thats final and nothing can change my mind. You can stay at the house until you find somewhere to go but the house was mine premarital and im keeping it.” That night turned into a nightmare and she ended up leaving with a friend.

The next few months were followed by getting texts from people I knew of screen shots of her tindr, bumble, and fetlife accounts, how many people she had fucked, etc. She would text me and beg me to take her back and she would be the best wife ever, she would beg and plead and cry. She broke into my house and faked a suicide attempt by taking (5) Ibuprofen 200mg. She fucked my best friends groomsmen(I was best man).

We were officially divorced a year and a day after we married, and I gave her a very nice settlment agreement out of the goodness of my heart which she ended up fucking me with. I paid her insurance, Gave her my brand new car to drive(which she wrecked), and phone bill. I gave her 90 days after the divorce to get financing on the car and get it out of my name. She ran up her credit cards and failed to do so. She also told joint friends that she was going to trash my car before I got it back because she knew she couldnt keep it. So I offered her a free paid off car, rigorously maintained in exchange for the new car back so I could sell it. She declined my offer and on Janurary 4, 2019 I ended up reposessing the car from Tampa, FL. In the middle of the night 30 days shy of 90 days.

Multiple lawyers and months later, I paid her a little shy of $4000 that I seriously struggled to get for her troubles to get her out of my life completely. I left out a few details, but i’m already at two pages on this and seriously doubt anyone has gotten this far in the story of my mistake of a marriage.

On a good note, I have met the most wonderful woman in the world who means absolutely everything to me. Shes funny, beautiful, smart, loves sex, and pays attention to all of the little things in life and in a relationship. I would not trade her for anything in this world. I guess some good comes from all the bullshit in life. I still cant believe that she has put of with all of the ex drama throughout most of it and shes a fucking trooper for that.