Hey. I'm 19 and I have been dating this girl for about a year and a half or so. I figured this subreddit would give me really good advice going forwards so I'll paint my situation.

She's really nice, the sex is good, but it's clear we aren't meant for each other. I like to get my hands dirty and she is afraid to go hiking for more than an hour. We argue lots and generally have very different plans for life.

This is stupid, young naivety on my part, but I ignored every red flag (there were lots). Whenever she was swoon at the idea of getting married I would always match her enthusiasm. She liked to talk about one day having kids and how happy she would be with them and how much she wants to be a mom. She gets excited over things like a new kitchen set or new makeup. I even agreed to fucking convert to Christianity for her (I couldn't in the end). Yes, I should have left long ago but being young I really liked feeling wanted and it was kind of a form of validation.

But now, I feel like I'm in too deep. Her family is like my second family, we do everything together and we even have plans to move in together for the school year. This is all happening so fast and I wish I could have seen it coming sooner. She has gotten too comfortable with me and if I'm being honest she has let herself go. She doesn't make an effort to conduct herself in a respectable manner and she doesn't eat healthy like she used to. She always pressured me into eating junk with her and I agreed and I basically lost my good physique I had worked so hard for. I'm not as physically attracted to her anymore and I feel bad for saying this but I'm nearly entirely emotionally detached, I have fallen out of love.

I see a lot of guys here talking about their relationship situations and what not. But I want to say this: don't ignore the red flags or you will end up in this situation. I'm happy I experienced this because I know my next relationship will be so much better, but at the same time it sucks.

If anyone out there has been in a similar situation comment below. This is going to be really tough and tbh I don't really have a plan but I'm really worried of what she is going to do. I also am basically breaking up with her family too which is an added bonus to my already messy life.