I just broke up with the woman I wanted to spend my life with

TrueChad69 · 2019-04-15T15:54:34+00:00

Fuck that bitch! period! dont ever feel sad for a person that doesnt respect you, have some self dignity and say "fuck her" you have to accept it, accept the situation its Over! dont feel sorry for her dont feel sorry for yourself, this bitch 100% riding a cock right now(sorry if it makes you feel sad but its true) she doesnt deserve your money,time,respect.

you are going to feel shitty for a while this is the best time to go to the gym and imrace the MGTOW fully! that bitch was going to fuck you up eventually through marrige and kids, you really want to be a slave? make money pay for her expenses pay for the kids and work untill you die? you know what?

geab some cash go to a prostitute fuck her brains out. stop bitching be a man be your own boss never date again this is a russian roullete with these bitches today. Be proud of who you are! never apologize for her shitty behaviour or actions! Be true to yourself and stay free from woman fuck hookers only. We got you bro this whole community went throught a shit storm and the common factor is woman. have fun while you are not old with busted knees go travel the world before you die, or you can be a little butch and cry over that stupid penile sleeve you call "love of my life" but be warned by the time she going back to you (and she will they always) she already sucked a few dicks.

your choice bro. have a great week!

Israfelll · 2019-04-15T15:58:59+00:00

In this sub things tend to be blunt and hard truths. I have read thru your post but will key in on this statement of yours "A part of me will always hope she gets over her demons, and reaches out for me once it happens"

You have to understand brother, she has NO DEMONS. She is acting out her true nature and you are trying to make some logic out of something that can not be defined that way. You want to slay her tormentors that do not exist.

She will not reach out for you, not in the way you want. She has cast you aside like so much garbage.

You asked her if she lost all respect for you and her answer was "Duh". Could she make it anymore plain? Disregard how it was in the past. She does not give a shit about you anymore and never will again. Why does not matter. You are done in her mind, toast, finished you can not change that.

She has been gaslighting you and making her actions your fault. And you accept this? WHY?

I could give you some red pill mantras and MGTOW snippets but you are so invested in this …….girl (not I did not say woman) you need to do some hard self reflection and research. I suggest first https://therationalmale.com/author/rationalmale/ Read "The Rational Male" it will explain a lot. It is going to hurt and you will be angry but DO IT before you lose your sanity.

After that peruse https://youtu.be/nPbUIyCUeAw and all of his videos also

This wise man https://youtu.be/4tUGWM47CdE and his wisdom.

Read the side bar.

Do not under any circumstances get back with this girl, ghost her no contact. She will destroy you.

Wake up, or you will suffer.

NietzscheExplosion · 2019-04-15T16:07:53+00:00

The hard truth is. She's moved on with another guy. She will NOT remember anything good of your relationship, she will only talk badly of it(to anyone who cares to ask).

It will be as if it never happened.

After she has been ridden hard... she will reach out to you... the decent guy to pick up the pieces after shes at rock bottom.

Block her on whatever vehicle she contacts you. Call the cops if she has balls to do it in person.

You are free.

Israfelll · 2019-04-15T15:52:42+00:00

She remarked "I dont want to break up, but I want you to change what's wrong, which you have to figure out yourself, until then you can suffer all you want.

That sounds exactly like the post by that woman where she had found somebody better and just because of that, started treating her current boyfriend like garbage. It was reposted in this sub recently, if you dig you'll probably find it. She treats you like that because she doesn't need you anymore.

You need to understand that for her the grass is always greener on the other side and when you're the current boyfriend you're the obstacle that is preventing her from being with somebody else. For that reason she sees you as the problem and justifies it to treat you terribly.

Loyalty, honor, and virtue have never been something that women take as being particularly important. It's something that you value but the women you date will not. It's not just you either, this can be found throughout the animal kingdom. Not uncommon for males to exile females they suspect of being disloyal or having children that don't belong to the tribe. That's because children are expensive and a burden to take care of. That's why men value loyalty and kick women out if they don't have it.

That's why you demand respect from her, as you should, and if she's already involved with another male you're not going to get it. Which is going to throw up natural red flags for you that you should exile her. Which is what you did and should continue to do.

Any male in the animal kingdom would have done the same. You can't be wasting your hard earned resources on a female that does not provide any respect or loyalty towards you.

TheObelisk · 2019-04-15T15:51:53+00:00

Now, try continuing that cycle for the rest of your life. That is what women and society as a whole want for you. Breakups punctuated by ever-degrading relationships and your whole life wasted. In the end, there is nothing they (women) provide which cannot be provided by oneself once you've learned self-worth and self-respect.

gone_for_years · 2019-04-15T15:55:20+00:00

You will remember this day years from now and you'll feel relieved that things turned out this way.

It may not feel like it right now but trust me, you did yourself a favor.

Mefic_vest · 2019-04-15T17:09:19+00:00

Few weeks ago she started acting strange, turning cold to me, accusing me of doing things that are harming us, but refusing to name them.

Dude, she had already checked out of the relationship by this point, and probably had been so for some time. She just found a desire to leave you by this point, and began fishing for a reason to do so.

You just experienced one of the classic methods by which a woman ends a relationship: she places increasing (and often totally unreasonable) demands on a guy until he is the one who breaks up with her; thereby absolving her of responsibility for the ending of the relationship.

I would not be surprised if she already had another guy waiting in the wings, and is now in another relationship.

Once that one ends, she may or may not monkey-branch back to you. For your own mental, emotional and financial health, you must close that door and keep it closed, permanently.

Block her on all channels. Give her no avenue to get back in contact with you. Block her phone numbers, block her social media, add her eMail addresses to your spam list (so they get immediately deleted).

And most of all: tell mutual friends that it is over, and any attempt by them to re-connect the two of you will garner them a similar blocking and ostracization.

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HeavyMeringue · 2019-04-15T18:36:34+00:00

She is never yours,it is just your turn.You need to focus on self-improvement right now (your career,your body etc.)Move on ma'man.

rigoexe · 2019-04-15T17:45:16+00:00

This tends to happen around year 4. It’s pretty well documented on this sub, heard it called the “lightswitch effect” where all of their affection basically shuts down and at that point, she’s checked out and there’s nothing you can do that will change that. So if you’re wondering deep down if this was because of you, just realize it was just her nature finally revealed, and it would’ve happened sooner or later. I’d suggest take some time being single for a while, check out the links in the sidebar and see if MGTOW is right for you.

ass-my-eat · 2019-04-15T18:12:54+00:00

We’ve all been here brother. Forgiven the unforgivable, trusted the untrustworthy and believed that we had found our very own unicorn which was nothing but a viscous wildebeest that gored us straight through our loving hearts.

The pain will seem unbearable at first but it will pass and life will get better. She will plead with you and beg for you to take her back but for your own well being you must not for if you do you will be destined to repeat the same events until you learn to respect yourself.

You are not alone.

Alexius_von_Meinong · 2019-04-15T20:03:45+00:00

"...she went home to her family in her home country..."

Yeah. No doubt she needed to visit her mom. Does anyone here need a translation?

coldfusion718 · 2019-04-15T21:45:29+00:00

When they start mistreating you, they are already cheating or have started talking to someone new.

I was engaged while I was a college student. The girl I was with was an international student. So after her stay, she went back to her country. We got engaged before she left. Things began to change only about 5 months afterwards.

I later found out that this new friend she made was the guy she had been messing around with. The whole time, she told me she was helping him with a friend of hers that the guy liked and asked me not to blow his cover by talking to her friend about it.

When I called her one night, she told me they were all out. So I asked if I could say hi to her friend or to the guy; she refused. That’s when I knew.

She broke things off with me the next day saying that I was being jealous for no reason and that I had no proof. Two weeks later, I found pictures of them going on a trip together (I also found their emails to each other).

Nine months later, they got married. He started abusing her about a year in. They got divorced when she found out he was cheating on her. They were married for less than 3 years.

They’re cheating when they start mistreating you. Always.

xclypto · 2019-04-15T16:09:42+00:00

It gets better, it really does. I did this myself two weeks ago and I know I'll be better off, they always seem to think they can get better men .. all women. You may of wasted some time but you'll gain in the long run. Do you for now, whatever your hobbies - invest yourself into them. Just remember this moment later down the road when she tries to come back.

BiffBiffBiff27 · 2019-04-15T16:30:48+00:00

It's important to contemplate on all the small signs, the inner voice moments you had where some part of you thought "wait, what? Are you fing serious?".. we all have them but choose to wilfully ignore them because otherwise it means confronting the person.

Think of those moments, and remember to trust your instincts next time around. Never be afraid to call out bullshit, unless it's your boss haha.

ZeroBlink · 2019-04-15T17:19:18+00:00

Yeah people vent here often, it's the only place where can cent, before you sober up a little. In general we're of very different mind , we don't really feel affection for women, but that doesn't mean you can't tell a story when you need to.Women especially young , just change too often , I know someone who was tomboyish,hip-hop loving a cool girl,but .... in a span of a year she turned into your typical Gym Thot. (a girl posing in tight gym clothing , getting dudes salivating over her ass). Never take everything for granted, If a tomboy can change, anyone can change on a whim

It's nice that you can find things to replace some of the negativity, like the polish performer and the cute dog. Back when I was still dating I found that taking a long long bike ride after a break up would calm me down.

themanbat · 2019-04-15T17:21:08+00:00

You got out before marriage. It might hurt a bit now, but you won.

MuleFool42 · 2019-04-15T17:37:40+00:00

You did the right thing. If you're going to be with someone then it's got to be someone who comes at the relationship with love, trust, respect, and integrity. Sounds like she had none of those things.

It will get better with time. And you did the right thing by blocking her. That will make the healing process quicker.

Kdjdbsosbei · 2019-04-15T18:40:37+00:00

Dont worry, it'll get better, I broke up to a cheating and self centered woman two weeks ago and I've never felt better. The first weeks she would pop up every few minutes of her somehow already being with some other guy and doing all the things we did. Now I'm doing my own things and just got back from San Antonio to a moto GP évent. I went with some friends and had a blast for a few days and she pops up in my head like last week's lunch.

Alpha_Widow_Maker · 2019-04-15T22:00:05+00:00

She remarked "I dont want to break up, but I want you to change what's wrong, which you have to figure out yourself, until then you can suffer all you want."

WHAT THE FUCK

She's cheating on you. She wants to make it your fault. She doesn't have a reason to hate you so she wants you to come up with a reason.

A part of me will always hope she gets over her demons, and reaches out for me once it happens.

OP I'm not trying to give you shit, but listen to what I have learned from hard personal experience.

IF YOU TAKE HER BACK SHE WILL NEVER RESPECT YOU.

Let it go brother. Give your time to people who appreciate you.

shockred · 2019-04-15T22:05:03+00:00

but I know that if she found a way to contact me again, Id fall down the same rabbit hole, make a new beginning for us, skip through all the red flags and eventually end up where I am now.

Never root through the trash once the garbage has been dragged to the curb. You get messy, your neighbors see you do it, and what you thought was worth digging for is never as valuable as you thought it was.

Israfelll · 2019-04-15T16:18:43+00:00

Op this is she will do to you emotionally if you do not walk away https://youtu.be/mG069j3rlr4 Your Padme is gone. She is not coming back.

boytjie · 2019-04-15T18:38:54+00:00

Watch out for the rebound. Hookers and gym sound good.

sovad · 2019-04-15T20:23:55+00:00

Lost friends as a result of her? Bros before hoes you fucktard! that right there is of the bigger mistake!

robowriter · 2019-04-15T20:27:35+00:00

Hypergamy kicked in nothing to do with you. It's all your fault, blah blah all lies. What is going on is never what she says is going on.

The first pill swallows hard but it gets easier when you discover what's really going on behind the "true love" clown show.

kruggerand · 2019-04-15T15:40:27+00:00

You're in the right place brother, Take your time to swallow the red pill.

MGTOWVanguard · 2019-04-15T19:17:43+00:00

Been there bud. It's going to suck. Bad. Spend more time working on yourself. Enjoy what you have, spend time on hobbies. If you don't have any, find some. Do what makes you happy, something that helps you focus. Shooting helped me. Have to focus on the shot, nothing else matters.

Biggest thing to remember, it will fall apart for her. She will try to contact you. Do not fall for the bait. Just keep on keeping on and it will get better.

Magnar96 · 2019-04-15T22:56:17+00:00

If she tries to contact you again, force yourself to remember than "Duh 😂", if she had sad that to me it'd be one of the things that'd make me angry, forcing yourself to remember the worst parts is the best way to avoid that path again.

Israfelll · 2019-04-15T17:46:35+00:00

Sorry bro, hate to be that guy but this ain't your blog.

Title	I just broke up with the woman I wanted to spend my life with
Author	Ialwayshadblueeyes
Upvotes	75
Comments	53
Date	April 15, 2019 3:30 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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