[Update] I [34/m] found condom wrappers in our trash can. My wife [34/f] and I don't use them and I'm wondering how to approach this.

12,673 points•1,068 comments•submitted by The_Real_Scrotus to r/relationship_advice

Link to previous thread here.

Opinion on whether I should talk to my wife or not was pretty even and quite divisive at times. Ultimately I decided to talk to her for a few reasons. She wasn't exhibiting any other suspicious behavior that I could tell. I know her pretty well and I think I can read her reactions to things well too. And she's my wife, she's been honest and faithful, as far as I can tell, for the 15 years we've been together. I owe her the benefit of the doubt. And finally if she was cheating, she was getting away with it, so maybe bringing this up would shake something loose and I'd figure out what was going on.

I brought it up pretty casually. Just "Hey, I found condom wrappers in the trash can outside, any idea where they came from?" We discussed it pretty calmly. She didn't have any idea where they came from and suggested some of the same theories that you guys did and that I had thought of myself. There was no indication she was lying or hiding anything. She understood why I was concerned and didn't freak out and accuse me of not trusting her.

So that's pretty much the end of it I guess. I don't see any further evidence that she's cheating and I'll chalk it up to one of those weird things that happens sometimes. I'll probably be on higher alert for odd behavior for awhile, but that's really all I can do. Sorry it's not the fun drama-filled update you were all hoping for.