What was your reaction when you found out you got cheated on?

Red_Pill_Dynamics · 2018-09-28T16:48:21+00:00

In this day and age if you're in a LTR/marriage chances are you'll be cheated on.

If not physically, emotionally for sure. There's just too many platforms & options for women now.

It's really not a matter of if, but when.

febreezing_hobos · 2018-09-28T16:35:44+00:00

I was 17 or 18. I was staying at my parents place for the summer, and she had a school dance that I wasn't allowed to go to because I didn't go to her school. She had her "guy friend" come to pick her up. He was dressed nice, and seemed like a cool dude. She was all gussied up (she never would do that for me). They went out and she didn't come back until after breakfast the next day. Me being the simp that I used to be let it go for a while, but we eventually broke up. Guess who swooped in? That's right, guy friend. The best part for me was telling him she would do the exact same thing to him. HE said "We're in love, that wont happen." I ran into him 2 years later and he said he should have listened to me. It happened EXACTLY like I said it would. We actually became good friends for a while after that.

lol_throwaway303 · 2018-09-28T17:28:56+00:00

I was 34 yrs old. My fiancee and I moved together. Two weeks later I found a letter from a friend of hers. I knew that he was one of her former lovers many years ago. But she claimed that they are just friends now. The envelope was a bit transparent. So I was able to pick up a few words from the letter inside. I instantly knew that she had a love affair with him. When she came back home, I talked to her and she admitted cheating on me. I made her clear that she will have to make a choice. So she decided to break up with me and to pursue her relationship with the other guy. Deep inside my heart broke. Outside I remained calm. I packed a few clothes and left home the same day. I stayed for about two weeks in a friends house. Then I had a moving company pick up my stuff at home and I moved to another part of the city. She asked me to stay friends, which I refused. I rejected any contact with her. I was totally devastated and depressed. I was in pain. I lost a lot of money too. That was my last relationship. Since then, about 20 yrs ago, I live by myself and had no relationship. I had a few dates after the break up. But this ladies were so odd, that I preferred of not getting laid and to have a peace of mind.

Mithos301 · 2018-09-28T15:54:56+00:00

I was just getting into college (18 at the time). The first night I was there, my girlfriend (dating 2.5 years) was meeting with people in her building on campus. I went to bed in my dorm since I was exhausted. I woke up to texts from her last night, apologizing and coming clean that she cheated on me, making out with a room full of random people as a 'dare'.

That next day was my birthday, so safe to say that was a rude awakening. AWALT

_why_do_U_ask · 2018-09-28T16:38:10+00:00

I found out when looking at IRC logs on Christmas eve 1997 she was in an emotional affair. I was in disbelief since for about a year we had more sex and connection time on all levels since we had first met 12 years prior. I had been not a good person prior to that for a year do to job stress.

I had done what I needed to and I thought all this was because of my change. It became clear within a month I was a proxy to her online lover as the physical part. The one line I still recall "I think of you when we have sex" I was so far in love it was no believable, then it was and it got ugly.

We were married I have two kids 8 and 5 and I did not want them to be from a broken family. I worked hard and later she tried to keep the family together. We stayed married and still are married. I trust her now but suffer PTSD from 1998 and the emotional impact it took over me.

She kept drinking and I stayed to be the parents, by 2001 she got a DUI and stopped drinking. In 1999 I emotionally checked out of our marriage stay faithful and worked, raised my kids and lived as much of a normal life as I could.

Just this year it all came flooding back on 09/04/2018 when she did something that triggered all of what I had suppressed came back to me. I am still trying to figure out what I plan on doing. Kids are grown and out of the house. The kids turned out well which was my goal and both are in healthy relationships and claim growing up was fond memories.

193229 · 2018-09-28T15:56:54+00:00

I'm 32 as well, I was 26 when I found out. I didn't really learn the truth until she'd already played a lot of mindgames so it was a very confusing time. I also lost all my friends during the fallout as the other guy was in that group so I found myself alone.

So a lot of depression, loneliness, grasping for something/one to hold onto. Cried on an okcupid ONS during sex, very embarrassing (years later she got nasty and mocked me for it when I didn't want to hang out.)

The main reaction was a red to black pilling that continues to this day.

BoskOfPortKar · 2018-09-28T16:05:24+00:00

[deleted]

badaboomxx · 2018-09-28T17:11:04+00:00

At first, anger.... but after a couple of minutes I just realize that there is no point in being angry, I just went to the topic at hand, took my stuff, leave her stuff and my mind was sent on "get away from that relationship" at that time. Then after the second try to get married and the same thing happened, I just went my own way without realizing it.

Raggs2010 · 2018-09-28T17:24:18+00:00

For me it was over two decades ago. I had filed for divorce and then found out she was with a coworker of hers. Also she was pregnant by him. The Judge made her state out loud in court that the baby was not mine. Honestly when I found out I was not hurt. I was somewhat relieved that the psycho had latched onto someone else.

Stellacoffee · 2018-09-28T17:45:23+00:00

She had me pick her up from this couple’s apartment who were really nice people, I had been introduced to them a few times. Apparently they had thrown a party one evening and I couldn’t attend due to work so my girlfriend at the time and her gay friend went. Weeks later she went out while I was at work and asked me to pick her up from that couples apartment so she gave me the address and because I’ve never been there didn’t expect a thing. Days later we got into a heated argument and she kicked me out of her place so I went to her friends place who she went to the party that night. We drink and get hungry so I ask to use his google maps to find somewhere to eat. I notice he has these addresses saved and ask why. He explains he likes to document for what ever reason all the parties he’s been too. I ask if he has the address of that couples he went to. He shows me and based on some hunches I began to expect lately I compared that address to the address my girlfriend gave me that day she asked to get picked up. Two different addresses! I wait a day, go to her apartment to pick up some stuff. She begins to be all apologetic about the other night we fought, tries kissing me and grabbing at my belt. I pull away and pull out my phone. Show her my evidence. She immediately gets angry, calls me names and tells me to get the fuck out. I leave. Felt like a damn detective putting together the pieces

lie-deflector · 2018-09-28T15:53:08+00:00

I was out of town working. Eventually found out via observation on my days off that she was seeing at least one maybe two other guys.

I told her over the phone that it was over and I kept working lots which helped me cope. I was super blue pilled back then so it was pretty traumatic for me but now I really wouldn’t expect much else.

BoskOfPortKar · 2018-09-28T16:02:00+00:00

"Close" Friend is an INFRA-RED Flag.

Mephitus · 2018-09-28T17:15:12+00:00

As weird as it might sound, I was relieved. It meant that the BS she had been putting through made complete sense. She was already checked out of the relationship and completely unwilling, or unable, to accept responsibility for her actions. She still thinks I don't "know" even though I brought up some tertiarily related concerns (she has narcissistic personality disorder, you NEVER directly accuse them or they go apeshit) that caused her to make a false sexual assault claim against me as an obfuscation tactic.

deadBeefCafe2014 · 2018-09-29T00:29:14+00:00

I considered printing out all her emails and pictures, calling 911, then blowing my brains out all over the stack.

I had my son to consider. I wasn’t going to let her actions rob him of a father or the rest of my family. And he’s turning out pretty cool. I hope one day he chooses to live with me full time.

The Full Story

throwaway12394847 · 2018-09-28T18:41:11+00:00

My girlfriend and I joined the military. She went in 6 weeks before I did. We met up at the same training base, and by the time I made it there she had already slept with another dude. We were separated for a total of 12 weeks, but she couldn't keep it in her pants.

BNSoul · 2018-09-28T20:47:52+00:00

My last girlfriend cheated on her boyfriend (a marine) with me, of course I didn't know anything about the other man she said she was single and had been abused by her ex... I was duped and lied and manipulated to hell and back, this girl was a covert narcissist and a sociopath. After I found out (and almost got a stroke) I basically ghosted her as soon as I got full custody of our kid -yes, we had a child while this military guy was deployed- absolutely ridiculous that she could live a double life just like that, women have so many options they're getting (even more) crazy in the head. Last thing I've heard the marine took her back recently... I can't believe there're so many "men" so desperate to kill their self-respect like that for a destroyed, free-for-all vagina, Jesus Christ.

Im_Talking · 2018-09-28T22:14:54+00:00

I was 49. The marriage was over anyway; we were like brother/sister taking care of two kids (8,12). I found out when I cam home unannounced and she was on the phone gushing like a school girl. She was saying "No, you're funny, really funny". The guy was feeling all inadequate about himself. Pathetic.

I remember how she said that sex was over since it was the coldest sex she ever had. Little did I know she was having sex elsewhere. All I thought at the time is that she tells me this yet she just lays there like a starfish.

I was relieved though. She was toxic to me.

Funny thing is the new guy had 4-5 properties, had no kids, died of cancer a few years ago and left her millions. (sigh)

rota991 · 2018-09-28T21:08:47+00:00

I was 27, we were together for 5 years and just got engaged. She became distant, I became suspicious. It turns out, she was cheating with an old ex. I was devastated, I gave her everything and was so good to her. We went our separate ways, I took the dog an am thankful for him. He got me through some dark times and continues to do so. My view of women has changed forever. I don’t view life through rose colored glasses anymore. I’m in my 30s now and rarely date. My family doesn’t understand, they think I am lonely. To be honest I am but I prefer the peace of mind that I am not going to have my heart torn out again. I rather put the time and effort into myself, my hobbies and my business.

DaveC111 · 2018-09-29T04:06:09+00:00

10 years of marriage. She started acting weird and staying out late. I was finishing my PhD. I was distracted but started trying to fix things. Didn't know what was wrong, though. She eventually pulled a character assassination on me. Really messed me up. Then I found out she was cheating on me with one of my best friends. All the pain went away pretty quick. I have never tolerated losers in my life. The 2 and another 'friend' that knew and didn't tell me hit the loser wagon and were sent off. No point in letting trash affect you. Get over it and move on. Found out later they were terrified I would come for vengeance. Lol! Who would waste such a good life on trailer trash?! There are so many better things to do than waste it in jail over adulterers! They now have themselves to deal with... I can't think of a worse punishment than that!

Anon48529 · 2018-09-29T07:55:10+00:00

Was with her for 3 years. She knew chad for about 8 maybe. She said initially that she 'used to love him' and got frustrated when he went to visit a girl but never went to visit her. She told me 'dont worry about him, were just friends'. I used to joke early into our relationship that he was boyfriend number 2. Def knew that if I gave her an ultimatum to stop messaging him (he lived in another country) she would probably break up with me. After all, what kind of a boyfriend would I be if I told her to stop chatting with obvious chad?

We broke up. She rebounded to him THAT DAY. She was almost certainly cheating on me emotionally, and probably sexting or sending pics. She told me 'Im going to see him, and were going to have sex' (like I couldnt figure it out, she had to explicitly tell me). She was very confused when I was hurt by this.

About a week after we broke up she had me take sexy pics with her. Stupid me thought they were for me, probably had me take them so she could send to him.

About 3 weeks after we broke up we were having sex and she asked me 'can you feel it'? It was then that I realized she was using me as sex practice so she could be good for when they had sex in a few months. I was still white knuckling the whole situation till then. Thought if I played my cards right maybe we could get back together. That day I went over to visit her, happy to see and probably fuck the girl that I wanted to spend my life with. Left her house knowing I could not love her anymore. Basically felt 70 years of love ripped out of my heart in an instant through her fucking vagina. "Can you feel it". What a heartless cunt. SJW types are always good to people, right?

See, when a girl breaks up with you, or cheats on you; in her eyes your value is straight ZERO. You probably 'deserve' to be cheated on in her fucked up brain.

Last time I ever listen to a womans bullshit manipulations ever again. "I love you" my DICK. Just another catch phrase for women to grab your heart and keep it focused on them while they use you as a launch pad of infinite support, free meals, putting their emotional trainwrecks back together so they can do another day, keep them tip top shape so when chad comes along they'll at least seem semi-not crazy, cuz even chad wont fuck crazy. Worst thing a guy could do is trust a women when they say all that garbage. "I love you" "I choose you" "Youre my guy". All horseshit. Its just YOUR TURN.

If you read this all say 'fuck her' 'you dont deserve to be treated like that' or something lol.. Funny how all the girls I talk to say this is just a rare case and not AWALT. Too late stupid cunts, I understand your disgusting nature now.

2018-09-29T10:08:52+00:00

Believe it or not. To me it happened at a very young age. 13 years old. She started to become distant. We would fight for no apparent reason. At some point we got to the inevitable "its not you, its me" bull crap. She wanted a break up and i was completely fine with it. I wasn't effect at all for such a young age. This didn't sit very well with her.

Over the next few weeks she would send the most vulgar emails i've ever read in my entire life. I was shocked that such a young girl at age 13 could write that stuff. A week later i found out, i was replaced by another boy. They had been seeing each other when we we're "boyfriend and girlfriend".

kaczan3 · 2018-09-29T13:54:11+00:00

"Poor guy, now he also has to suffer with her."

Title	What was your reaction when you found out you got cheated on?
Author	purpandicular
Upvotes	41
Comments	58
Date	September 28, 2018 3:50 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/9jo4ha/what_was_your_reaction_when_you_found_out_you_got/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/what-was-your-reaction-when-you-found-out-you-got.484139 https://theredarchive.com/post/484139

Comments