Amy is black woman that has dated a number of men from varying backgrounds. She is discouraged to learn after completing a profile for online dating, that she is not given preferential treatment that white women receive on the platform. After discussing the issue, a consensus is quickly reached. She must lower her standards if she wants a man to be loyal and not leave his family. She realizes that black men, en masse, have rejected family life, duty and honor and are enjoying the decline.

A poster mentions that he's noticed recent pairings between Asian men and black women. He posits that these women are settling for provider relationships. The reasoning is clear, these men still hold family values, are highly aligned to societal values and therefore are often successful, loyal and unlikely to leave their families. They hold lower positions in the SMV, and are matching with other lower SMV races.

Amy believes she's entitled to

  1. Hypergamy : This is number one, because she's unwilling to settle for "fugly" men. It is highly unlikely that she means less attractive. What is likely a more accurate descriptor is that she's looking for masculine men.
  2. Monogamy (assumed)
  3. Resources in the form of a man who "isn't lazy"
  4. Security in the form of a man who "won't leave"

This is a somewhat complex interaction taking place that I'll unwind for you a bit.

  1. Women are generally unaware of hypergamy, they operate either totally unaware of their capability to destroy their own family, or at least believe a man they find willing to commit to them they will love forever. I cover this in my post Schrödinger's (n)AWALT which is pinned on my profile.
  2. Most men are unaware of how hypergamy functions.
  3. Men who are aware of how hypergamy functions, generally choose to interact with women in a vastly different way.
  4. It is often said to these points that a man "can choose to love, or understand women."
  5. Therefor we can conclude that women choose between naive men, who will love them in naive ways, or men who understand women, who love them in pragmatic ways.

So for Amy to pledge to any man that she is looking for a loyal man who can provide, what she's ultimately looking for is a naive man. We would call this man blue pill. Yet she wouldn't tolerate a man with such a disposition, and the truth is, he wouldn't, and doesn't tolerate her either. She is unwilling to engage blue pill men within their mental fantasy schema.

Many pragmatic men deduce that women must be colluding or purposely conditioning men to believe that they must operate in this mindset to exploit them en masse. But I don't find this conclusion at all believable, and address this again in Schrödinger's (n)AWALT. Most women, are not openly hypergamous, they are not self aware, they operate naively to their own capabilities. To expand this out would be to rewrite my post, so if you do not share this view with me, I recommend you read the post and then continue from here.

Amy on the other hand, is self aware, and very aware of her own capabilities. And she's not even cunning enough to conceal it. Women who have reached self awareness are not capable of loving a man in the way that a naive man or woman loves. And not only does she demand that she is entitled to that love, but that she won't accept it from the very men even capable of giving it to her.

Using the oft mentioned roller coaster analogy that women want a rollercoaster which spontaneously builds itself, without any such direction, to experience the thrills on, yet feel safe enough to ride it, Amy instead demands that the roller coaster actually be dangerous, yet safe, at the same time. She derides roller coasters for either being safe, or dangerous, then demands that the market allow the sale of both types, yet enforce safety on the dangerous ones, only to her benefit. It should let her experience the thrills, get the benefits, but then should she want or need safety that it is available at her disposal. You know, should her experiment fail.

And those failures would either be that Tyrone actually becomes Ted for a bit, hunkers down, opens up and tries to start a family with this woman, who would clearly set fire to her household the moment this man became anything manageable. In this case, she'd demand the state and gynocentricity hold him responsible for the transgression of becoming safe and instead either deride him in an openly hypergamous manner by trading up, cheating or emasculating him for being anything less than her penultimate hypermasculine hypergamous ideal or because he "became abusive" after she started operating in a covertly hypergamous way, because, while she demands to feel safe, she must also be excited. And this catch22 is simply not her problem, next!

Or maybe Tyrone stays Tyrone. And he does things Tyrone does. He never becomes safe. But she demands safety along with the excitement, and so she contents that she must have access to the state and gynocentricity, next! "He ain't no real man!" Rest assured, should she find a provider to replace Tyrone, we all know that Tyrone is still going to be involved with Amy, and she'll come up with ever increasingly complex reasons why that make no rational sense.

She couldn't ever acknowledge that maybe, maybe, Tyrone's more civilized alternative Ted, just like Billy, has a pretty good read on Amy. That she's not the type of woman you have a family with. And even less masculine men like Billy know better. In fact, only the lowest SMV men are willing to risk their lives on a group of women who impulsively signaled to the world they were unwilling to offer ownership of themselves to men and were beholden to no one but themselves, declaring only the biggest and hardest swinging dick was going suffice.

Fair enough. And so they brought the biggest and hardest swinging dicks, and left their legacy across the ghettos of the United States.

Yeah and it seems like Asian women are more willing to trade financial security over a man's attractiveness than a black woman would. Some of these really cute Asian women latch on to the fugliest white guys I have ever seen, and I can't imagine any black woman who wasn't similarly fugly dealing with that.

Amy believes she's entitled to attractive black men, who are also successful and nurturing. She doesn't overtly state she wants a nurturing man, she just believes the hard men she wants, will take responsibility and do things, that require a nurturing disposition. She is oblivious to the fact that many white men would have no issue whatsoever dating, marrying and raising a family with a black woman. But many white men figure out quickly that black women share Amy's attitude (a large minority of black women though, as evident below). And in fact, black women were the first race to enter open hypergamy. She unwittingly perpetuates her race's stereotypes in this very post, as she demands everything, offers nothing, and openly derides less attractive men who would offer her stability, despite her knowledge that it is highly likely that should she decide to have a child with Tyrone, that she will end up a single mother on welfare. She is absolutely clueless to the fact that she is the very reason the problem even exists.

But Amy isn't the only black woman trying to find a man that doesn't leave her sitting in a house full of children. Amy's situation is complicated by the fact that she's

  1. Entitled
  2. Openly hypergamous
  3. Self-aware
  4. Unwilling to settle
  5. Solipsistic

Hypoagency does not require entitlement, though it typically creates it. Hypergamy doesn't require a woman function in such a demonstrably low class way that she openly advertises it. She doesn't believe in love the same way anymore either, since she is self aware. Her love, is closer to arousal. She demands a real man.

Despite this, she is unwilling to compromise and unable to even conceptualize that other black women are willing to settle. As heavily as the deck is stacked against her, the very men that offer the stability she claims to want, are invisible. She can see only hypermasculine men, and high betas. And we all know, even the high betas will not suffice.

Black women highly value provider traits, it’s just the means for black men to provide have been severely limited by white society. Women tend to gravitate toward the most successful men in the community. In a resource poor environment, the dope dealers and the pimps are the ones who have the most money. The drug/ prostitution game is violent and ruthless - and many black men went to prison or died, which made black men scarce in some communities. So, more women flock to the men that are left, the men left learn they don’t have to do much to be alpha in the community but be breathing, and become lazy and entitled rather than motivated to do better. Hence my entire post.

Anyone that knows even the basics of drug dealing is that the vast majority of these guys don't make a lot of money. Your average black male with a bachelor's degree is going to outearn 90% of dealers. But what percentage of those men (roughly 15%) are tall? And what percentage of them, are mentally strong enough to be able to man handle a masculine woman like Amy (Around 20%)?

Let's remove the highly speculative mindset element here of calculating what percentage of men have abundance mentality.

The math for "a tall man" is simple. In statistics, 2 & 3 deviations to the right encapsulates 13.6%, 2.1% & .1%. So 15.8% of men are not just above average in height but tall. 34.1% of men will be of average to above average height.

Let's simplify this and say she's willing to consider a man who is just not short instead, and say that she'd trade off for a guy who is just instead in really good physical shape, really good, highly masculine. Let's just make it even simpler and say she "doesn't want the 62% of men that are overweight."

You can't honestly do the math any such way and come up with any reasonable number. The more honest you get, the smaller it gets.

So using some pretty lenient math here, she's looking for a 3.8% man (that's just a black male who is not overweight and with a degree), a top 5% man. Is she even a top 20% woman? Even a top 50% black woman?

Frankly, you can see here she's looking for some percentage lower than 1%. This hypothetical man is what I've been calling a hyper-masculine composite. And it is reserved for alpha widows. Which this woman will never admit to, but that's a side point.

This is a great look into the mindset of a woman when you remove civility from the discussion. She's a low class woman speaking in ways that betray the subconscious, that men and women do a great deal of mental work to smooth as they speak and type, attempting to conceal. Because we all wear masks. Not Amy though. In male SMV interaction, we call this DLV. Black women have a substancial minority who do this, as part of their default mode of operation. And so it stands as no surprise that they are considered low value socially, romantically and sexually.

What her survey of the SMV really says is this. "I hate the fact that the most attractive man I see in my world is a drug dealer." To even debate this point shows how women view the world. This is the incongruence that providers can not rationalize. They believe the drug dealing man is invisible to a woman looking to start a family, when instead, he is invisible. That the drug dealer is more preferable.

So what will be? Are black women just low class hoodrats that don't know a good man when they see it?" Or is it that provider traits aren't appealing to women?

Will it be racism, or the red pill? How are a supermajority of women different, while not being different? Oh that's right, no study has been done on this (that is hyper specific enough) and even if it was done it'd be part of the replication crisis.

OK Cupid on black women having the highest response rates : Whether it’s due to talkativeness, loneliness, or a sense of plain decency, black women are by far the most likely to respond to a first contact attempt. In many cases, their response rate is one and a half times the average, and, overall, black women reply about a quarter more often that other women.

It would appear that other black women are thirsty, and so Amy is in a substantial minority.

And so, from this, we can observe The Deal.

The Deal

Men sacrifice polygamy (male value), and embrace monogamy (female value). Women sacrifice hypergamy (female value) for loyalty (male value).

Men take ownership of women (male value), women take ownership of their children (female value), and under one household they share resources, the nuclear family(male value).

What's the problem?

Fundamentally, hypergamy doesn't care.

Both optimize their goals by limiting the impact of either gender maximizing their goal.

Amy will accept only her fraction of 1% maximized solution, and Tyrone is maximizing his biological imperative. She wants him to run a suboptimal program so that she can maximize her strategy. This does show that if such a thing happens at scale, that women will actually lose the war here. Such a thing is obvious when you read Amy's pleas for help, that are actually masked by her contempt, anger, bitterness and entitlement. She obviously hopes that she and other black women can have functional families in the face of such abysmal likelihood of ever achieving such a thing in the post open hypergamy cultural decay of the black community.

This can only be achieved with a female value system if we discard a patriarchal value system. Amy's real solution, is to move to Norwegian countries where she can sleep with whoever she wants, have the government foot the bill and dump her kids at daycare most of the day while she posts on the internet about it. Oblivious to the fact that she's actually talking about the destruction of a patriarchal value system, asking for a patriarchal value system to coexist within her gynocentric catch22.

Meanwhile, men can have only two orientations, pragmatic (RP), or naive(BP). Men who are pragmatic accept and understand hypergamy, and therefore, they conclude that loyalty is not a true trade in the arrangement. It is only illusory. And so they can either entertain fantasy while they roll the dice, or demand a woman enters into a no-loss deal by her bringing income that meets or exceeds his or is enforced by strict social decorum and status as is such in ultra high status society. Where operating in the manner in which Amy operates, would result in her being thrown outside the walls and gate of the community. And in fact, she'd have never been let in to begin with. Such communities operate as a form of long term, ultra elite vetting mechanisms. And it may be in the future, these are the only forms of male security available.

Nevertheless, a woman at best, believes she can or will be loyal.

A self-aware woman, who takes a second swing at bat, believes she can. A woman who has never confronted herself (the temporary state of a unicorn) believes she will be loyal. Again, the basis of my oft mentioned n(AWALT) concept in this post.

And a pragmatic man, is unwilling to offer monogamy for "I think I can be loyal."

Plenty of pragmatic men decide to roll the dice, for traditional conservative family arrangements if the woman is naive and not self-aware. We can call this "non-westernized." Or to be excruciatingly specific, n=0 with a pleasing orientation and a belief in romantic love, as opposed to an understanding of love based around arousal (which is hypergamy). Amy loves in a way in which is approximated as arousal. This isn't wrong, but it's certainly suboptimal for any man who would choose to take a risk. Any such man taking a calculated risk with her, has either balls of steel or shit for brains. But probably just catastrophically low SMV.

At best pragmatic men can roll the dice on a woman based on the understanding that she is hypergamous, but not openly so. And so, that bet is based on the understanding that he leaves a strong enough imprint on her, that her self interests remain within the household. Then he takes ownership of her, while she takes ownership of her children and they attempt to subvert evolution itself, in the goal of achieving the male and female dream, independently of each other, under the same roof. Red pill application of the blue pill dream, and as we all know, the likelihood of that outcome being positive, is very low.

Instead, Amy seeks to achieve the outcome of the woman she could have been, insisting that men offer the deal they were willing to offer her before, after that contract became untenable. And not even that, with men who offer the financial stability that is required to run a family, which is above and beyond any such claim to love for love itself. A family with a woman that has replies such as this to outline who she is in character and composition.

I love how men’s reactions to slight challenges from women is to go full retarded and stop participating in society. Y’all are a mess.

Amy will continue to avoid any such self rationalization of settling, and therefor be subject to the downsides of being self-aware and with her only remaining option being dualistic strategy while using the state as a surrogate father.

The New Deal is to enjoy the decline.

Open hypergamy dictates a male response that is to reject monogamy and practice polygamy. Either legitimately through open relationships or casual sex or by cheating (dark beta game).

George Carlin once joked "and the poor... just there to scare the shit out of the middle class!" If any women of other races are paying attention, this is a peer into the future.

And Norwegian counties show clearly, that this will not just be a black issue. It looks like being a single mother will be the new normal over the next 10-20 years.

If you think Amy is happy, then you go girl.