Are lesbians hypergamous?

Lord_Perseus · 2013-06-19T04:43:42+00:00

Hard to say re: hypergamy. I do know that there are more than a few lesbians out there who either are red pill or would be receptive to red pill ideas. I've heard a lot of them say that they like being friends w/ men b/c in terms of relationships etc, they deal w/ a lot of the same bullshit we do.

Eloni · 2013-06-19T12:06:38+00:00

Interesting idea. We could test TRP theory by checking how gay/lesbian people work.

TRP would predict that for example lesbians try to attract by looks first, and then slowly learn that attitude matters more. Similarly it would predict that gay guys try "gaming" first and then realize looks matter more.

But. One thing you must consider that lesbianism is sometimes not a simple inborn orientation but a reaction to the all men are pigs feminist propaganda. This sounds unlikely, as in theory orientation is supposed to be genetic, but several lesbian feminists said openly that it was mainly their learned desire to avoid male chauvinism that driven them to women, so... maybe both genetic but also a choice, dunno. So anyway this could complicate the situation because I am sure that the lesbians who are lesbians precisely to avoid relationships with dominance oriented people i.e. men, they will not game, as game is a form of dominance.

I also have a theory that the in/famous Lesbian Bed Death is basically both partners waiting for the other party to initiate dominance. Prediction: BDSM lesbian relationships don't LBD.

whiskey_bearfist · 2013-06-19T20:44:21+00:00

i have a female friend who I would call bisexual. She has had a girlfriend for some time. my friend (S) is the more feminine entity in the relationship with the other (B) being a somewhat stereotypical "dyke".

i can definitely sense the hypergamy in S. she treats the other girl more as a buddy, and sends me like.. topless pictures and shit that would piss off a boyfriend.

she was previously kinda slutty and only had male partners in her teens and early 20s. i think she is employing the same dating strategy she did with the males, on the female. and the somewhat passive dyke girlfriend she has now isn't hitting the right dominant buttons to keep her sexually aroused, so she is searching for that elsewhere.

my question is how the more masculine female in a lesbian relationship feels about her girl behaving in a way that a RP Man would not tolerate. it may just be that B is being really passive and just taking the abuse like a betamale would, or they could have a more open relationship concept.

interesting question though.

James_Coook · 2013-06-19T01:34:32+00:00

"They rarely tend to be %100 monogamous with their partners"...is this true? I have always wonder about this. Its sounds reasonable given how horny / willing to have no strings sex guys are relative to girls.

DaddyMonster · 2013-06-19T04:41:42+00:00

Dunno. The closest thing I can think off is "lesbian bed death", wherein the girls "become best friends" and lose the tingles. That's one explanation anyways. How related ghis to female hypergamy is debatable.

thecajunone · 2013-06-19T06:01:30+00:00

Yes and no. It depends. I see hot lesbians trade partners all the time. The ugly dikey one's tend to stick together.

TheDoctorMouse · 2013-06-19T07:59:55+00:00

This research article doesn't necessarily answer your question perfectly, but it may help. It's very interesting. For gays and lesbians, go to Table 6 (page 11 of the PDF, "95" of the journal it was taken from).

tl;dr, 29.1% of gay men claim to desire sexual variety in the next month compared to 5.5% of lesbians (though interestingly, while 30.1% of bi men want more variety in the next month, 15.6% of bi women desire sexual variety in the next month. Wowie-zowie!).

Title	Are lesbians hypergamous?
Author	kratol
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Date	June 19, 2013 1:25 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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