I'm asking a few places this question

ConstantChinner · 2018-06-21T21:10:04+00:00

You really want to shake the feelings of wanting to feel love by a woman? Get into a relationship. After she treats you like shit and cheats on you, instant cure.
Semi sarcastic there. I would say fake it till you make it. Eventually you will lose desire for romantic love. I now know it is not possible to find a woman that will love and care for you the way you are capable of loving and caring for them. A woman can not love and definitely can not love unconditionally.

Fabianstrategy1 · 2018-06-21T21:14:55+00:00

Same way people quit smoking, drinking, drugs, etc. Realize you are only a man, and that you might fail a few times. Take it one day at a time, recognize that these thoughts are the "addiction" talking, and that the "addiction" does not care about you, your life, your happiness, or well-being. It only exists to consume and reward you with a short term high, which is never as good as the time before.

ThrowawayGhostGuy1 · 2018-06-21T21:10:51+00:00

I’ve had enough shitty women and they’re all the same to a certain degree. You’re eventually part numb and part hateful and spiteful to them.

drizztdourden420 · 2018-06-21T21:59:28+00:00

"I got other issues like I don't work or drive and I live in a group home,but add girls not wanting me and I just want to die......"

Couple of things. First, if you live your live in relation to what other people think of you then you'll never be happy. You have to be happy with yourself. How do you do that? By taking responsibility for yourself. Get your shit done that you need to get done. Aspire to something and be ultra successful at it. When you are successful you feel better about who you are as a person. And guess what, when that happens, suddenly everyone wants to be around you because you made something of yourself and you have your shit together.

My advice. Listen to your own voice first. Focus on yourself, put yourself first. Be selfish if you have to. Don't let anyone try to stop you from becoming a self made success. They're just parasites that want to drag you down in their own misery. Strive to be the best possible version of yourself that you can possibly be. Pursue that with a single-minded determination like you've never driven yourself to since you've been alive and walking this earth.

Also, give yourself a break along the way. You're going to make mistakes. But mistakes are opportunities to learn how to do better. So when you make a mistake, don't wallow in your misery and expect someone to help you. Take responsibility and own it. Always.

If you really want attention from women, then being a grown ass man that knows what he wants, has his own car and house and money, will make them start trolling for you like you've never seen. Women leverage their looks from the time their 17-26 or so. Men leverage their success from 25-40. So don't worry about getting attention from women until you give yourself the proper attention and make something of yourself.

There is no better feeling than that of accomplishment. Set out to do big things and get them done. That's the path to happiness. If you do, you'll realize that worrying about what a bunch of barely pubescent tween girls thought of you when you were 15 was stupid and unimportant. Never give anyone the power to judge you. The only person that gets to judge you is you. Fuck everyone else.

BooDoug · 2018-06-21T22:24:16+00:00

Youtube angry feminist videos for a day.

WolfgangBreitweit · 2018-06-21T22:34:09+00:00

Learn about women. Try to understand that they are not made for love, compassion and care. Once you’ve understood them, you won’t feel any urge to be with one together anymore. And don’t confuse love with sex drive.

cycloneous · 2018-06-22T01:47:51+00:00

OP, simple, stay busy. Seriously, do things that will occupy your mind. I am in class practically 6 days a week, and I'm always doing something. I took up martial arts and gaming. Keep it simple, just a thought.

DWShimoda · 2018-06-21T21:34:34+00:00

I got other issues like I don't work or drive and I live in a group home, but add girls not wanting me and I just want to die, I lay in the bed depressed as you can get.

I think that "wanting a girlfriend" is NOT anything like -- or remotely near -- being your CORE problem.

No, your core problem is that you are living (if it can even be called that) and entirely useless, boringly pathetic, parasitic "life" -- one where you are not responsible FOR anything, never DO anything to justify or maintain your own existence* -- certainly nothing productive.

Unless they were to give you a swift kick in the arse -- shove you out onto the street to be forced to actually start to fend for yourself (and thus gain at least SOME satisfaction/confidence in life from doing so) -- then there really is nothing** anyone can do to "help" you.

* Do you even cook your own food? Lift the spoon or fork to your own mouth? Wipe your own ass after you crap?

** Well in terms of your biological sexual desire, I suppose castration might reduce your desire; unlikely that it would help with the rest of your (whinging little "victim") issues though.

uh_huh_ya_dont_say · 2018-06-22T00:57:58+00:00

I remember when I was young and first felt that feeling of wanting a woman. I can’t imagine it’s easy shaking that without having been with a handful of girls and learning the pains and destruction they cause.

The happiness you have without a woman, the freedom and security in your life, is something I would trade you in a heartbeat.

I don’t know if I could really give good advice. But I can warn you. It will not be worth it. Even sex looses its original appeal after you’ve had multiple partners and especially sex with the same person a thousand times. There were times I had sex with my ex wife that I wished I could have been golfing or playing video games instead. She was an emotional terrorist and I played my role in silence and fear for years.

The grass is not greener. The stove will burn you if you touch it. The feelings you get of desiring a woman will likely bring you misery. Imagine loosing the activity or hobby you love most and how that would make you feel. Whenever you have that feeling of wanting a woman, think of loosing that hobby. Think of loosing your friends. Think of her making you not want to be with your family. Especially as an incel, if you land a woman, it’s likely she will strip you of your freedom and wealth until she realizes you are of no more use to her and then monkey branch, leaving you broken in a way you cannot fathom.

Be happy. You have every potential of living a full and successful life. Don’t bring a woman into it that may change that. Go your own way, because you choose to, not because you’ve previously been incel. Work on your body and mind my dude.

Good luck

SimplyKaz · 2018-06-22T10:43:32+00:00

Get hurt, and then you'll see that it really isn't fucking worth it. You're giving up so much of yourself for so little it's pathetic. You wouldn't trade a brand new $100 bill for a crumpled, smelly $1 bill.

If you're a virgin, go hire a hooker. That's all a woman has to offer and when you see how much work you're putting in and how much abuse you're standing for, you'll see that it just isn't worth it at all. It's not worth your very limited time or resources.

Women can be replaced with a set of good friends/family, a pet, a hobby and a hooker every once in a while.

howdoistopobsessing · 2018-12-09T12:21:22+00:00

Maybe what you really want is hookups, since romantic love is kind of bullshit. Start with getting with some less-attractive girls (preferably don't validate fat girls).

I'm asking a few places this question

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Waaaaah, Waaaaah... I "never had a chance" -- and everything -- including ALL personal choices, addictions, fuckups -- are someone else's (parents/society/fate) fault!!!

**How does that do anyone -- especially YOU -- any good NOW?**

ROTFLMAO... ironic.

Riiight.

Title	I'm asking a few places this question
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Date	June 21, 2018 9:08 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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