Here's a perspective for you: I'd say I am an upper-beta male that disguises well as an alpha. I am 26, have money and a great job. I hook up on average with an attractive new girl a month, and have 1-2 regulars at all times when I am single.

I am very outgoing and direct when you first meet me and in social circles. I am challenging and mysterious and you know there are many women vying for my attention. But then when you become my girlfriend, get to know me 1-3 years down the road, I have a soft, gooey center. I truly only love one woman once I fall in love, and treat her as my family/my blood. I am not out to play games or hurt her. I am still desired by women around me, but you have learned that I would never do anything with them to hurt you.

In both relationships I have been in, both with very hot women, although totally different, a similarity remains -- when my edge is lost, the relationship struggles. However, how can I truly have the same edge when I don't believe in it? Before, I was truly seeing other women and I kept you guessing. Now, I am not.

I think the "ideal alpha male" we all talk about on here always keeps some sort of mystery and appeal even years down the road. You never know.. he could be seeing another on the side, and that intrigues you.

I've witnessed 2 successful marriages in my life. The first, they met very young and the man was definitely not an alpha. He became sort of the alpha of the marriage and she loved being the housewife. The second, the man was very very beta and soft spoken, and the woman a loud mouth.

Has anyone ever witnessed a successful marriage or long-term relationship with this "true"/"uber" alpha male?

I'm not sure if I've ever met a true/uber alpha male.

I've met guys that can get unlimited amounts of chicks, but then settle for a boring relationship with a hot girl where they learn to become a beta, and have all the normal shitty relationship problems and turn out to be in a 99th percentile shit marriage.

I've met guys that can get unlimited amounts of chicks, but then they are total assholes to their significant others, and eventually the woman grows resentful.

I've never met the guy who is the seeming alpha, and then can transition to being fully confident and happy with himself when he gets down to marriage, and keep her completely intrigued past year 3, without being a backstabbing asshole.

Does my "edge", or my drive for life, need to transition from being on a quest to meet and hook up with beautiful women to being on a quest to fulfill an inner passion and accumulate wealth? The problem is, I've never really felt passionate about accumulating wealth or an instrument or hobby. I've only really felt passionate about acquiring affection from women. And now I only have one that holds the key, whereas an alpha, in many Red Pill definitions, drops the first woman that isn't showing affection for an extended period, and moves to the next. I can't do that in a relationship, where I do in the single life.