I thought of something while replying to this thread:

Long story. Really need some hardline perspective on GF cheating.

Here's what I came up with:

  • We know that female nature is essentially solipsistic.

  • That means they're mostly concerned with how things and people affect them, be it physically or emotionally.

  • In other words, their worlds begin and end with themselves.

  • Since they have relied upon men for survival throughout the eons, women have a natural tendency to externalize responsibility for the things that affect their lives.

  • Thus, they tend to place that responsibility upon the shoulders of men.

  • Ideally, if one has responsibility, one should have power.

  • Therefore, if you give in to a woman's frame, you become a tool for her to use. She has power, but not responsibility, while the opposite is true for you.

  • The key then, when it comes to having women in your life, is to make them submit to your frame.

  • I'd like to think about it as creating a sphere in which you, the man, is the master. This is an analogy for maintaining a dominant frame.

  • You allow the woman and her little sphere into your larger sphere. Putting it another way, she latches onto you.

  • While her sphere is part of your sphere, her actions affect you, ie the larger sphere which she is now part of. Thus, her actions rebound on herself, since she is essentially part of you.

  • Therefore, if she does stupid things to you, they'll affect her in a negative way. If she does good things for you, they'll affect her in a positive way.

  • Thus, she will adapt her behavior to serve you and your interests, since she doesn't want to ruin things for herself.

  • Essentially, your perspective becomes her perspective.

  • By working for yourself, you also work for her, since she is part of your sphere.

  • Remember though, that power should be paired with responsibility. Since she is part of your sphere, you are also responsible for her.

  • As long as the terms of the symbiosis are upheld, a good relationship is likely to ensue.

Thoughts?