Many years ago, when I was still active on a dating website, I talked to this girl. She was young, petite and timid. I liked talking to her and it seemed she liked talking to me, but she never responded positively to my request to go grab a coffee. So after a few tries I let things die down. I forgot about her.

A few months after that I was riding a train I never usually take. It was very early in the morning. A girl stands up to get out. She looks at me and smiles. She gets off and after a minute or so it occurs to me, it was her! That evening she wrote me on FB (which I was still actively using back then) telling me she believed she had seen me. Again, nothing came of it, so once again I gave up and moved on. This was probably 8-9 years ago.

Just last week I got a message from an unknown phone number containing just a single emoticon. I think you would call it the "sorry" emoticon; a crying yellow face with two hands folded in front of it. I did not know it was her, so I asked her: "Who is this?". She explained. Not only did she explain, but boy, was she sorry. "I never gave you a chance". "I was so scared you would not like me".

I remembered vaguely who she was by her name. Of course, I play along and say it is fine and I am happy to hear from her. Then she sent me a photo of her. I remember this was the photo she used on the dating website all these years ago. We talked a bit about life and the things happening in it. A few days later she asks me for a current photo of me. I will admit, I have lost some hair over the years, but I have lost fat and buffed up quite a bit. "Wow, you are even cuter now!". (I don't think I was ever cute and very rarely did any woman tell me I was). So I ask her for a recent photo.

And I got two.

And at this point I knew the time I wasted talking to her was worth it, because all my beliefs had once again been confirmed. She had become a landwale. Her once cute face was now hidden under a thick layer of fat. Her once beautifully visible collar bones were now covered in wrinkly fat skin. You would not look twice at her if you were to ever meet her. Mind you; this woman is now 34. She does not have children. Imagine how much more she will blow up if she ever gets around to getting pregnant.

I told her she looked as beautiful as ever. I even told her she looks so fresh! She loved it and started telling me about her boyfriend. "Here we go", I thought. "She has a boyfriend, why is she talking to me?". "Well, I have a boyfriend, but he does not want children. He is an older man." But of course, she wants the resources. She loves feeling in control of him as generally older men will not easily break up with younger women. Most women dating older men know this. I have seen it time and time again. The older men are much more tolerant of the crazy even if it is only because of the young body they can sleep next to.

A few days later she told me he was no longer her boyfriend without telling me if she had broken up with him or not. It was obvious to me that she is wanting to attempt to monkey branch. Do not throw out the old shoes before you have new ones, right? I get it, but this strategy is just so transparent to any guy with a brain it almost becomes laughable.

Then she started writing about how only the sex with him was good and inquired about my sex life. I told her I do not place much value on it anymore to which she responded: "Oh I am sure you will if a woman were to undress in front of you!". I thought: "Perhaps, but certainly not you!" lol. Of course I played along again. I played dumb. She then said: "You should just go into the city tonight and fuck a woman! It will make you happy!". I am guessing she meant I should come over to fuck her, but again I played dumb.

Yesterday she asked me if she can come visit me in my house. Of course not. I do not want you to know where I live. I ignored it and today she asked if we could go grab a coffee and talk. "I really want to talk to you so much. Do not be scared!" (total projection). I am ignoring her for a bit more and then I will write her I am out of town until next week.

I am so going to waste her time :-)

UPDATE: After reading through all responses I understand there are two schools of thought. 1) Go on. Have fun. Waste her time. 2) Do not waste her time because you are wasting your time in the process. You got an ego boost out of it (of course I did!). Watch out for bf and the law.

I guess I agree with both points of view. It is very tempting to "do unto her as she did unto me", but for real; Although there is minimal effort from my side, I think I am better than that and I have MGTOW to thank for it. I do not want to lie to her. I wish her well. I have decided to just let it water down.

I will be out of town over the weekend for real. If next week, she contacts me to try and meet up again I will explain her the partial truth; "It is not her, it is me." and "I am not good enough for her". We truly are in different places in our lives. Of course I will not tell her about MGTOW.

I am so done with it all, I no longer cherish thoughts of revenge. I want to be left alone. I want to work for me, but only as much as I need. The rest of my time I want to fill with reading, hiking and traveling. And yes, honestly, even a minute spent on revenge is a minute too much. I could put that minute to better use.