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[–]BeefL0g 5 points5 points5 points 10 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Hit the gym, work on you.
When I'm in a relationship and she isn't in the mood I just leave and go do something else. Usually hit the gym or hang with friends.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I hit the gym frequently. I appreciate the response. I'm talking more about after a night of drinking/partying and it's time for bed.
[–]2Sepean3 points4 points5 points 10 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You're not alpha enough and your frame is weak. Maybe there's even oneitis creeping in. This goes beyond how to handle her "not being in the mood" or communicating to her what she needs to do.
You are becoming less and less attractive. Your SMV is dropping. You need to get your shit together and man up. It is you that is failing.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I hear that. What should I do?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
That's why I'm asking for help. If my frame is weak, I'll maintain frame when she rejects it. But I'll also become less affectionate towards her. I'll give the relationship another month or so before I end things. She's a great chick but I've absolutely learned to always be ready to end shit.
Thanks for the kick in the balls
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's oddly wonderful how much a little dread game does. Occasionally I'll mention that a new girl started working where I work and all the guys are fawning over her. Or bring up the fact that a new chick was working at the coffee shop we go to. Or just throttle down my time. Or simply deviate from normal activities like occupying yourself with something else when she walks through the door instead of rushing to her like a lap dog. And incidentally, she begs me to put my dick in her mouth.
[–]SatisfiedLife0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I agree completely, a little dread goes a long way. Generally, all the dread I have to use is as simple as going to the supermarket with my LTR and flirting with a cashier, or even her being aware other women are eying me.
[–]2Sepean0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Frame goes beyond when she rejects you. Frame is about being invested in your goals, visions and desires and being ok that other people might be inconvenienced by them. Are you asking her where she wants to eat, or just worrying about if she'll like your choice? Stop that. What you want is what you want and that's what you're doing. You don't need her approval or acceptance. This goes for everything.
Also, remember that she shit tests you. Regularly shit tests should be passed with A&A, amused mastery or just ignored - do not engage them seriously. If she asks you to fetch her something that she could just as easily do yourself, don't. It's a shit test. If she says she needs you to be this and that, don't fall for it. In general you should not take what she says about you seriously. Most of it is shit tests. Don't argue or engage her head on.
Cultivate interests outside of the relationship. Keep your friends and hobbies, even pick up new ones.
Keep on gaming her. Dress and groom well, flirt, tease her, push/pull, rapport breaks, kino, all that stuff.
Dread is fine too. If she's a good girl and you're exclusive, don't actually flirt with strangers, but don't be afraid to talk to girls. If she's trying to control you or deny you sex, then ramp up the dread though.
[–]Endorsed ContributorStories_of_Red1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
my beta instinct is to get super pissed/passive aggressive.
Do you get pissed at the other 3.5 billion women who have no interest in blowing you, or do you simply move on in life, indifferent to their disinterest?
Same thing here. Boring sex=dump her.
[–]Endorsed ContributorUrsusG2 points3 points4 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This.
Instead of jumping through ever higher hoops, dump her and get a fresh one. She'll be eager to blow you for the first 3 months like the old one did.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
In addition, what is the red pill way to deal with a situation where you are super horny but the girl is not in the mood for sex.
Go bang another girl who wants it.
Problem solved, the non-horny girl will either be gone, or else she will suddenly become horny.
Either way, you have a horny girl.
[–]420purpleunicorn0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When women get into LTR their sexuality changes. They go from wanting it to not wanting it unless they're already having it. So rather than ask her for sex, start making out. tease her. Then tell her to suck your cock :D
she's simply stopped giving me blowjobs.
She isn't attracted to you anymore, she doesn't want to please you anymore.
What is the red pill way to let her know she needs to start blowing me more?.
next time you want it, take your D out, grab the back of her head and guide her to your D. words aren't necessary, only confident actions are.
Take her whenever you want, she'll get the tingles from you dominating her. Her "mood" doesnt matter, her "mood" is fluid, it changes, you can change it. If you can't make her horny, then yes, use dread, she'll use sex to keep you if she thinks she might lose you.
[–]1Sir_Distic0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Withdraw attention from her. Start spending less time with her. When she gives a good blowjob then throw her a compliment. She'll associate praise with satisfying you.
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