Men that have escaped the plantation, what kind of mental warfare did you suffer at the hands of your ex?

Raggs2010 · 2018-02-08T01:44:49+00:00

My ex did that. She worked 2nd shift and would start a fight every night when she got home. I would go to bed early to avoid her but that did not deter her. In 1995 I had a bad case of the flu. I could see the infection in my throat literally growing. When she came home she started yelling, I asked then begged for her to take me to the hospital. That did not stop her from yelling. I got in my car and drove myself to the ER 20 miles away. I was admitted, medicated and that was the best night of sleep I had in several years. She tried to find me. There was a closer ER that she checked. Less than a week later she wanted to see a movie, Get Shorty. Afterwards we went to a Home Depot to get something. She started ripping into me. I was barely able to walk and told her that. She didn't stop. I sat down on a shelf, she didn't notice and kept going. A worker there was following us due to the noise. He helped me to the back employee area. I put up with this for two more years. I was young and stupid.

Cr0ssedPaths · 2018-02-08T00:48:26+00:00

I could write a book on the mental gymnastics it took to create the obstacle course of sadness. Bold face lies, the justification of the lies, envy of everyone around her, resentment of my success, inability to stay faithful, and an ever rotating list of demands.

rippierippo · 2018-02-08T05:23:23+00:00

My mind is permanently shut off of all emotions due to extreme mental abuse, silent treatment, gas-lighting etc... many suicidal thoughts...for two years constant. My ego was broke and my mind literally died -- all passions and desires gone. No s..x for years. No friends..Shortly after marr..ge, at workplace I was bullied and more bullied due to lack of self-esteem which was broken at home. No one to share my concerns. Social anxiety and crippled my mind for two years constant. And expanded sensitivity due to constant alertness because of previous abuse etc. Put up with this for years and went into spirituality and Red pill and MGTOW at last, now peace pervades but still the trauma of old hangs there but at least I am at peace with women because I have nothing to do with them and they can not be changed. Slow recovery but feel that it is best that ever happened to me because it taught me many things and showed me the true nature of women and the purpose of them. Now feel no desires for them also aged so no more cravings for s..x either. I would not advise anyone to fall for childish and temperamental women which are very dangerous kind...if you are soft guy, please avoid...marriage totally. you can not handle the tests and abuses mentally... Anyways as a guy, one needs to take care of himself otherwise you are screwed. If you rely on women, expect abuse..women never respect someone who can not benefit them in some way...period..

elementalwalruss · 2018-02-08T01:47:24+00:00

Possessiveness and jealousy beyond belief! To the point if I went to leave the house to go to the store she would burst into tears. My behavioral modification was so much I forgot who I was and basically lived for her and her issues. She cheated on me and is now married to some other guy and I know he is going through the same thing, she was and is a sociopath and good fucking riddance.

roxon89 · 2018-02-08T01:05:55+00:00

Mine would do that same move frequently. She also had a unique ability to ignite an argument just as we were getting into the car for a lengthy drive. Always made for super fun road trips.

1Badshot · 2018-02-08T06:05:20+00:00

If I knew where she was buried I would dig up Ann Landers, piss on her bones, and bury her face down with a traffic cone shoved up her ass. My ex did the argue before bed thing, but every time I tried to end it she would bring up some Ann Landers advice column where she said married people shouldn't go to bed angry.

That's the perfect time to go to sleep! Not 2 hours later when you're both exhausted and have called each other every name in the book. Divorced her 10 years ago and will never go back to the plantation.

Devilsgun · 2018-02-08T01:30:22+00:00

You're seeing now a veteran of a thousand psychic wars...

So many crazy bitches, so little time.

The pieces I've duct-taped back together are battle hardened, though

mgtowmaniac · 2018-02-08T04:57:59+00:00

I become completely overwhelmed and exhausted just thinking about it. The complete absence of logic, the extreme narcissism, the constant lies, character assassination, disrespect, and flat out hatred. It is truly amazing I'm alive. And that was only one year of marriage. I was wise enough to divorce her, before she destroyed me completely. Took me nearly 10 years to recover from the psychological abuse. Woman would ask me out and I would literally have a panic attack. I was mgtow for 5 years, before I ever heard of mgtow.

Neem3r29 · 2018-02-08T07:09:05+00:00

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110_percent_THC · 2018-02-08T08:56:59+00:00

Physical violence. Throwing objects at me. Hitting me with objects. Scratching me. Pointing an air gun at me. Threats. Pitting me and friends against each other. Verbal abuse. Lies. Tearing me down. Immasculation. Holding my wallet and debit card. Demanding passwords to everything. Cheating. Shaming me for watching porn. Using my daughter as a pawn in her sick game. These are just a few.

BPD. Stay away. Far, far away.

Edit: By the way I made her do all of this with my despicable behavior. Her actions and choices are my fault. Sound familiar?

goldfish1691 · 2018-02-08T13:00:58+00:00

My last "serious relationship" was full of her using her depression and trauma to get me to take care of her. Buy her everything, let her use my car, etc. Anytime I didn't she would threaten suicide and sometimes actually try. She cut herself all the time but some nights she's inhale a whole bottle of pills. I'd have to choke her and call an ambulance while restraining her.

On top of that she loooved to cheat the instant I was busy or just not around. Every time she either lied if I didn't know about it, or if I did know from mutual friends or looking at her phone (my phone that I paid for and let her use), she said she was raped.

So she was constantly being raped and trying to kill herself. Took the third "rape" to get me to leave. Of course first she maxed out my credit cards, I had to leave school and lose a lot of money breaking my lease with her.

I was a stupid, stupid man and I'm only 23. I guess I'm happy to have learned early. I still have flings and I'm entirely incapable of trusting or respecting any woman when it comes to emotions or hardships. They will never understand what I have been through, or the worse that many other men have.

randomroxks · 2018-02-08T13:15:43+00:00

Called me abusive, despite being a beta cuck. Called me cheater for fapping to porn. At one point in marriage, I was so sexually frustrated that I would fuck the crevice between mattress and bed. And this is no joke. Go through my credit card bill. Won’t allow me to have any woman co worker in my car for lunch. And yes, hitting me, multiple times. Despite being beta cuck at that time, one thing I could not let go was if someone made a lousy argument. I always swatted that with a precise counterpoint. That led to multiple physical violence.

Crisgocentipede · 2018-02-08T15:44:41+00:00

Being made to endure these long phone calls till 4AM. Had been in a long distance relationship for 6 months. It tired and exhausted me mentally and physically. After all that, I said no more.

Made to drive 2 hrs each friday to see her on the weekend and drive back early monday morning. Never once did she meet halfway or visit me. She would flip out and manipulate me in texts and phone calls. One time she hung up on me and I was tired of her crap and she called back whining, "you didn't call back!!!" At that point the relationship changed. I wanted to see her less and less. I grew tired of her crap. I left her in the most suiting way possible. A text.."WE ARE DONE!!" I ignored her after that. She kept trying to get me back and even had the gull to say I had aspergers. Then I ignored her even more. That was in 2010. That was the last long relationship I was in. It forever changed my life. I dated after that and concluded there was nothing better then that. I went years after that being single. Strangely I felt alot better being single.

Finally I googled, "being single forever" and found Nacho's messageboard MGTOW and the rest was history. I was red pilled and have not looked back

2018-02-08T00:28:40+00:00

How did it exactly look like?

NeverNeverLandIsNow · 2018-02-08T18:45:27+00:00

I got yelled at once because she had a "dream" where I cheated on her and she was screaming at me at 3 AM in the morning.
Anytime I tried to have a conversation about issues we had she would always start crying or say "I just can't handle this right now" so nothing ever got hashed out because her fifi's were so sensitive you couldn't have a fucking conversation. Funny thing is years of that caused my emotions to just flatten, I didn't care about anything.
She would lie to me about paying bills, she would say she paid something when she didn't and if I called her on it somehow it was always my fault even though we agreed that she would handle certain bills. Marriage is a toxic cesspool for men that has extremely high risk and usually negative reward, DO NOT GET MARRIED. I would feel safer riding my motorcycle on a busy highway in an ice storm than I would gettting married or even dating again.

Title	Men that have escaped the plantation, what kind of mental warfare did you suffer at the hands of your ex?
Author	Neem3r29
Upvotes	38
Comments	28
Date	February 7, 2018 11:59 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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