As someone who has been a part of TRP for a while or so now there are a number of things I have observed as being interesting and potentially valuable. Particularly for those who are rather new or still starting to implement TRP ideas into their daily lives.

One of the things you are going to simply have to accept is this: The girl you are with, particularly if you are in a LTR or a blue-pill style commitment based relationship, is going to seen as more valuable to you than she really is. You will ignore her bad behaviours and flaws and focus on her good qualities. You will remember all the good times you had together. Even if these qualities and good times aren’t as good as your mind will make the most to be.

The human mind is quite peculiar. It will makes something average seem special and it will make your average memories seem incredible. To avoid becoming a slave to a woman or being trapped the horror that is one-itis you must understand a few things:

  • She is not as good as you think. It is impossible for us to not some project inflated qualities on a woman that we have chosen to commit to. It is a way for you to justify your commitment to said women. “She is the best”, “she is so amazing”, “she gives the best head”, “she is so smart”. Most of these statements wouldn’t hold up to any real examination. This is because they are projections. The level and prevalence of the projections varies but they are primarily the placement of false positive traits onto a woman. It is also its of favouring positive traits over negative traits. If a formula existed for this kind of thing is would be the following: Projection level and intensity is equal to the level of loneliness and/or inexperience in men. This is how we can explain the blue pill beta’s accepting of his average post-wall woman in contrast to a red pill man who is well aware of the reality.

  • You must Detach - One of the most important ingredients to living a successful and happy life with women is to be able to detach from them. You must be able to have a clear set of personal objectives or goals to which you are spending your time and energy. Speaking from experience, the only times in my life I find myself down or focusing too much on women is when I don’t have clearly defined goals or something that I am working towards. It can be as simple as going to the gym three days a week while working or achieving mastery of a martial art. Whatever your goals, be they simply, complex, short or long term, they are vital to you being able to detach from women and improve yourself and make an impact in your life. The importance of having an objective or goals is they allow you to improve your worth to society. This will result in you gaining respect for yourself and your self esteem. Understand: women will never help your self esteem or self worth, they will only test it, trying to break it down. Once this is done they will leave you at the precise moment you least expect it. Women can be the masters of poor timing.

  • You must De-value - It doesn’t matter if the girl is amazing. Is your sweetheart. It doesn’t even matter if she is a god damned unicorn. You must not pedestal her or make her more important in your life than you and your goals. If you fail at this and make here your world you are giving her the ultimate power any man can give. You are giving her control of your emotional state. Allowing a woman to influence your emotions is perhaps one of the biggest mistakes a man could ever make. This is because women by their nature want to test you. This is why frame is a concept that is of critical importance for men. It is a way of handling women's attempts to influence our emotions. Devaluing a woman is critical because it brings you back to reality. It stops you from pedestaling a women or making her the focus on your life. Once this is done, you will be able to cultivate a nothing to lose mentality, which in my experience is something gives you extreme power.

Summary: What we can say from all of this is that a fundamental factor in being able to find happiness or at least some kind of peace is being able detach and devalue women. The core of this is to bring yourself more in line with reality. For as hard as it is to accept, it is our relationship with reality and the world around us, 'as it is', that is arguably the most important relationship we will ever have. Being able to see reality gives you a sense of control and understanding. The world becomes clearer. Once you have your shit in order and aren’t afraid of losing anything or any girl, you will have tremendous personal power.

I myself am continuing daily to implement the strategies outlines here in TRP. There are things you will agree with and things you won’t. But being able to have tools to improve my life and see the light means I will forever be grateful for finding this sub.

Here are some relevant quotes:

“There are two different types of people in the world, those who want to know, and those who want to believe.” —Nietzsche

" True passion can only be achieved when the man is willing to walk away at a moment's notice” — Pook

“Power isn’t financial resources, status or influence over others; power is the degree over which you control your own life, and right now, if I’ve just described you, you are powerful”. —Rollo Tomassi

tl;dr: It is important that you are able to detach and devalue the women in your life. This will allow you to have a clearer picture of reality and be more in touch with it. Having a strong relationship with reality and cultivating a nothing to lose attitude is arguably the keys to happiness in dealing with women.