Girlfriend makes plans with another guy, need advice on what to do (do I do anything?)

SupALupRT · 2013-08-02T01:58:24+00:00

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Nutz76 · 2013-08-01T22:51:21+00:00

I need to know exactly how you found out they're meeting, or what lead you to believe this is the case.

At the moment she's told you nothing about it and you're not even sure if they are meeting from the looks of it. It's entirely possible you misread the situation and it's a null issue.

Now, if they are meeting and she didn't mention it, you need to make your feelings known. As I said elsewhere in the thread, my gf knows full well where I stand on things like this. It was all discussed as part of qualifying her when we started seeing each other. You clearly didn't do that.

notapussy-punk · 2013-08-01T20:12:13+00:00

Ask her? Duh? Continue from there.

favours_of_the_moon · 2013-08-01T21:37:54+00:00

Let her do what she wants.

Then, do what YOU want.

sniperhiding · 2013-08-01T20:47:49+00:00

For what it's worth, a couple I know, very conservative christian couple, red pill in their outlook on life (but they have no clue about TRP, manosphere, trpwomen, etc.) have a boundary setup. Neither of them will ever spend any one-on-one time alone with a member of the opposite sex, be it out in public or somewhere private. There always has to be another person with them. This includes grabbing a quick lunch at McDonalds during the work day. The exception of course is if it is time with a family member, like the husband and his sister.

They are confident in each other, but it's more about the reputation they have, and respect for each other.

lalalagirl90 · 2013-08-02T02:27:58+00:00

Are you okay with an open relationship, cause your gf just made it one, for herself at least.

slcjosh · 2013-08-01T22:39:26+00:00

confront her and ask why she didnt tell you. if she gives you any bullshit about it, and you know its bullshit, walk. its that simple.

The_PUA_Punanny · 2013-08-01T20:55:32+00:00

If you cohabitate, extricate yourself.

Cohabitation covered here.

You must be the king of your own domain, able to banish oathbreakers.

AlphaPill · 2013-08-01T22:49:28+00:00

I'd say: "Why the fuck are you meeting other dudes and hiding it from me?"

Don't say it like you're worried about her cheating on you (that's beta). Say it like you caught her doing it. After all, why else would she be dating other dudes?

If it turns out that it was a misunderstanding (probably isn't) then she'll know where the line is and more importantly she'll know that your on top of things. A girl who knows that you'll know if she cheats is never a bad thing.

She'll probably try to say something like "he's just a friend" then just stick to the use of the word "date". Respond with: "no dating other people allowed." Her: "but he's just a friend." You: "oh cool, I've had a few females friends I've been wanting to date, thanks for giving me your blessing." Then walk and start dating them until she apologizes.

2013-08-04T00:54:35+00:00

I'm a girl and can I offer some advice?

Just talk to her. That's what we want. Also, jealousy is something that secretly makes a lot of us hot, even if we don't actively seek it (I think it's sexy when someone reads my phone to make sure I'm not messaging other guys).

Ask her if she's interested in him or whatever. I'm a girl who has some guy friends, but most are gay - maybe he is.

fodosho · 2013-08-01T21:34:34+00:00

Leave her ass.... are you kidding me? This is beta as fuck.

khalbrogo1 · 2013-08-01T20:22:51+00:00

If you're not confident that you provide enough value to keep your woman faithful, then your lack of perceived value is the problem that you need to solve.

desire_engineer · 2013-08-01T22:46:09+00:00

Don't let this slide or show how it affects you, situation needs more information before it can be said to be entirely innocent though.

Plan something easy for her to decline(or do) for the same time and offhandedly ask if she is available? If she says no, probe and gauge her reaction, should tell you how devoted to the cause she is... also worth a follow up/interruption call during the event just to get some realtime information.

Heuristics · 2013-08-02T05:52:24+00:00

If she gets to have an open relationship then you do to. So go meet another girl.

lono12 · 2013-08-02T00:04:15+00:00

This is a sucky situation. If you confront her and get into an argument she'll just play her head-games and there's no way you'll win.

Your best bet would be to come out with it and ask her why she's hiding it but if there's something going on she'll just hamster it away and you'll never know.

Do it anyways and just watch her reaction. Also start talking to any females that catch your eye. And remember there's no honor in the dating game. Girls will do whatever they feel like whenever they feel like.

Title	Girlfriend makes plans with another guy, need advice on what to do (do I do anything?)
Author	tellmethetruth5
Upvotes	13
Comments	39
Date	August 1, 2013 8:08 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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