Am I wrong in thinking that the desire for a wife and family never goes away?

2017-03-01T20:53:39+00:00

I miss waking up my kids in the morning, time spent with them, I cherish the little time I have now. I never want a wife again. Ever.

ArthurVonL · 2017-03-01T21:14:38+00:00

There is always going to be that subtle pull of biology. You just have to recognize if for what it is. It isn't something you want, but rather something in your programming.

not88 · 2017-03-01T20:26:23+00:00

Yes, you're wrong. It's gone away 100% for me.

captainsaveahoe69 · 2017-03-01T21:24:14+00:00

Yeah it goes away. After 20 years of marriage lol. Trust me it's just a fantasy.

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2017-03-01T22:08:29+00:00

Divorce cured it for me.

2017-03-01T21:14:53+00:00

All women I have met were not worth the sacrifice. And now that I am in my 30s it won't be any better. Let them deal with the wall and getting pumped and dumped over again.

lonewolf-chicago · 2017-03-01T20:40:51+00:00

Yes you are wrong. Risk/Reward is calculated + Pros/Cons then add 3Xs Experience + Social Trends and Womens' Behavior/Attitude = MGTOW (No Thanks!).

When you are driving down the road in your Ford Ranger with 100,000 miles on it, you don't feel like you made the wrong decision while passing dozens of Chevy Blazers on the side of the road requiring a mechanic and getting hauled off in a tow truck.

As MGTOW, Every time you hear about or see someone in a failed marriage, getting divorce raped, getting falsely accused or driven crazy with stress because of a cunt, your decision gets reinforced.

I would argue that anyone that has been a MGTOW for a year, likely doesn't have an urge to get married and have kids especially if they were one of those poor saps on the side of the road getting their car towed.... we wave as we pass the suckers and we keep on trucking and winning, baby!

Returnofthemack3 · 2017-03-02T00:09:18+00:00

not really, no. The edgelords in MGTOW will say otherwise, but come on, it's a biological imperative. As a man, it's entirely normal to have a stake in society and want a decent wife and children. I'm lucky that I don't want any of that, but I have enough self awareness to know that it's not a normal state of being. MGTOW might be the sanest option in the current cultural/socail climate, but it's definitely not a preferable option. I think a lot of people would agree that having children is a very important thing, and it's a goddamn shame that it's become non vialbe in today's society.

2017-03-01T21:42:50+00:00

I can safely say after having one that I've been permanently cured of the wife part.

2017-03-01T22:34:58+00:00

I feel like you have to replace it with an even better perceived pursuit.

Mojo_666 · 2017-03-01T20:36:09+00:00

It's gone for me 100% but I got the Tee-Shit, I seriously wake up happy every day having gotten through it all relatively unscathed and with a good number of years still ahead of me.

Two_Jews_One_Latke · 2017-03-01T20:53:43+00:00

Oh it goes away. Read enough horror stories about divorce/custody battles/financial rape and enough awesome stories about financial prosperity/independence/great adventures, and you'll be wondering where that feeling ever came from in the first place.

2017-03-01T23:03:24+00:00

Dear God... I would blow my bains out before getting a family and a wife. That is Hell on Earth!

2017-03-01T20:34:03+00:00

I don't feel that bullshit whatsoever.

2017-03-01T20:54:58+00:00

You're right, in a way.

Feelings fade away eventually for most of men though.

Zombocom1911 · 2017-03-01T21:25:46+00:00

Never even had it to begin with. Not even a bit. God's honest truth.

iamanarci · 2017-03-01T22:43:52+00:00

I want to be a billionaire. I can't. Will the desire ever go away?

jcazone · 2017-03-01T23:37:54+00:00

You want a wife because you think that's the only way to have a kids of your own. Read this before getting a wife which can at any time remove the kids from your life. http://abcnews.go.com/US/straight-single-men-wanting-kids-turn-surrogacy/story?id=16520916

Hopefully, in the near future men can have kids without a women uterus. They(men scientist ;) ) are working on it.

2017-03-02T00:48:35+00:00

It's in your biology and social conditioning. Let the want go in then out like a thought.

goadsaid · 2017-03-02T03:09:54+00:00

No real desire here. I am proud to say that my father (a divorce lawyer) unknowingly red-pilled me by age 12. He would say, well this poor guy I am going to court for will lose his kids unless the woman either has cocaine in her system or turns out to be a serial killer. Or, well, this client is a woman so I don't have to do anything to win. Honest story. Some of the details he's told me would even make this board cringe - and maybe even not believe me.

2017-03-02T06:42:14+00:00

I'm still trying to figure out why any man wants that stuff. Especially kids. Like, why?

IslandicFreedom · 2017-03-02T09:09:06+00:00

MGTOW for me is a cautionary way of life.

It does nothing to diminish my inherent desire to have a truly decent life partner who just gets me.

MGTOW is the realisation that the way I think life should be is not "reality". These things that I feel are my god given right and purpose on this planet are not guaranteed to be delivered.

Essentially it's the man up and make another plan, do something else because life out there isn't accommodating to what you want.

I think in time either one of three things will happen.

I meet a unicorn.
I carry on always having to consciously consider the pros and cons of where I am, single and without "the dream".
Eventually "the dream" diminishes over time until I have no more need for it.

2017-03-01T23:46:15+00:00

I sometimes wonder if not wanting kids was a mistake. Kids are awesome. But a kid means a wife so....

Onkel_Adolf · 2017-03-02T00:22:00+00:00

We have all been conditioned from birth to think we MUST find a mate and reproduce. Society was built by men for the comfort of women and children.

2017-03-02T00:45:45+00:00

Worst case scenario just have a baby mama instead of a wife.

aanarchist · 2017-03-02T01:37:24+00:00

not wrong, just the red pill teaches you to have a sense of pragmatism about it.

2800fps · 2017-03-02T02:28:08+00:00

I don't know what that's like, I never wanted either thankfully.

2017-03-02T03:05:39+00:00

Wow, I came here to say exactly what you wrote in the text box. You read my mind.

2017-03-02T07:03:48+00:00

In western civilization its too much to ask to be able to watch your son grow up and play Legos with him.

plutosheen · 2017-03-02T09:02:42+00:00

I feel the same. Then I jerk off and everything is ok after I cum.

mofono · 2017-03-02T09:35:49+00:00

I've never been divorced, and I constantly desire women, family, children, etc, but I suppress these desires.

pilledwillingly · 2017-03-02T15:28:13+00:00

It's all personal and individual, man. I have 0 biological pull for wife or kids and I'm 30. Some of us have to fight harder for this than others.

iwanttheblanketback · 2017-03-02T16:03:03+00:00

That seems about right. You realize what you desire isn't reality finally. You can never go back to thinking about women or relationships the way you used to after that. It was all just a fantasy.

Title	Am I wrong in thinking that the desire for a wife and family never goes away?
Author	ManGoingHisOwnWays
Upvotes	38
Comments	43
Date	March 1, 2017 8:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/5wyh26/am_i_wrong_in_thinking_that_the_desire_for_a_wife/
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