New to this community; can anyone tell me if my mindset fits in here?

Knotyeti · 2016-09-29T20:18:07+00:00

Welcome home brother.

2016-09-29T20:32:09+00:00

May your red pill rage pass quickly, welcome. Head to the right side bar and browse the wealth of info.

lostapwbm · 2016-09-29T20:27:37+00:00

I've had my fair or relationships and flings but honestly I believe that the costs/efforts required to attract and maintain a relationship far outweighs the benefits.

You've pretty much got it in a nutshell.

Congratulations.

nigelh · 2016-09-29T22:10:00+00:00

If you've done the cost benefit analysis on relationships and realised it is loaded against you and decided to step off the roundabout you are MGTOW. We come in all sorts of shapes, forms and ideologies but what we have in common is living our lives for ourselves and for our own approval.

Mitchell78 · 2016-09-29T20:29:02+00:00

Yep, the juice ain't worth the squeeze as they say.

Inverse_Mirror · 2016-09-29T21:37:36+00:00

Sup bro

2016-09-29T23:05:35+00:00

i don't think criticising women is wrong. but im not anti-woman

im just anti-financial dependant. i can cook, i can clean, go get a fucking job and handle your bills

2016-09-29T20:31:46+00:00

I'm a lot like you, tried my hand with women sevreal times only to be disappointed. So welcome.

My-Name-Is-No-One · 2016-09-29T20:58:09+00:00

Welcome. I hope you find challenge and inspiration here, enough so to take your hard-won freedom.

Men have been pissing away their lives on women and droning along to the status quo of biology and civilization for thousands of years now, and we're just fortunate to live in a time and place to see it for what it is, to communicate with each other, and to live as free, autonomous men, rather than servants and slaves :)

2016-09-29T21:24:27+00:00

Everything in life is the result of benefits outweighing the costs. That's how nature balances itself. When the benefits no longer outweigh the costs, then it's time to move onto something else. The only men who still care about dating and marriage are the men who are either unaware of the costs, or deluded into thinking it's a normal part of life.

Bartand · 2016-09-29T22:32:59+00:00

You can hate them and still be attracted to them. But personally it is more the society that is destroying men like what the feminists does. Not all woman are feminist but I don't take chance, no worth the risk. I see MGTOW as a protection.

victor_knight · 2016-09-29T22:40:10+00:00

You're in the right place.

User-31f64a4e · 2016-09-29T23:05:40+00:00

It's not that most of us aren't attracted, or haven't fraternized (and maybe still do.)
It's just that MGTOW have realized the game is crooked, and either don't play or only play on a limited basis.

If MGTOW weren't attracted to women, we would be in some gay subreddit or some asexual tumblr or something.

Your attitude that you are inadequate is incorrect.
When women insist that all relationships revolve around them for their benefit, it's not on you. It's on their flawed, entitled attitude. If women could be partners, you would do just fine.

2016-09-29T23:10:12+00:00

Yes you fit in.

Most of us hate female behavior and unfortunately believe this to be instinctual on their part BUT just like you most of us are still attracted to them at least physically.

A lot of us hate women. Personally I mostly just pity them and just go my own way.

You are not inadequate - it is women who have made you feel that way. I'm sure you have something going for yourself. Even if you just barely take care of yourself that is still more than most women.

2016-09-29T23:14:19+00:00

Same thing with me in every single thing youve just said. Literally everything. Lets take this step together friend.

2016-09-29T23:50:04+00:00

lol, dude, I'm in the same boat. I'm just not cut out for the dating scene, being in any sort of relationship with them + the fact that there are more cons to being with one in the first place... I'd rather just take my chances and live solo!

FritzLn · 2016-09-30T02:02:47+00:00

you guys keep prefacing your statements as if we're going to silence you like the rest of the subs. we don't give a fuck if you hate women are not. this isn't a safe space. you're free to be a man here

verynormalsimple · 2016-09-30T02:02:52+00:00

Yeah, that's what the community is for.

BTW why do you think we are against women ? Is that the stereotype MGTOW has out of here ? MGTOW is like "live and let live" we care about ourselves and about other fellow men. Meanwhile women can go do whatever they want as long as they don't step on our shit and don't try to change our laws and rules.

2016-09-30T02:19:44+00:00

Welcome to the clubhouse; that's your La-Z-Boy over there.

Cedar70 · 2016-09-29T20:22:50+00:00

You've got it .. if it's not greed, it's need .. let 'em flail.

redsfan277 · 2016-09-29T23:06:51+00:00

hahaha inaquencies/mindset?

Sure brah. Keep working on yourself to attract a female that will just as easily stab you in the back.

We dont hate women we hate the fact that they are treated like they are angels by other manginas or white knights.

We treat women like just another human being -- we get upset when they game the system and take away mens ability and hardwork.

We simply are open minded to discuss things here about women that we see in society and not let them get away from all their bullshit when they just say 'oops sorry' and make a cute face

npjobs · 2016-09-30T00:17:29+00:00

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Mysological · 2016-09-30T01:02:40+00:00

I have hobbies that have these stages "costs/efforts/heartbreak"

Yet unlike with women, I always feel an overwhelming sense to try again.

It's not you "not getting on with women" it's women not getting on with you. They don't even get on between themselves. Mothers and Daughters even talk shit about each other.... ok, so my old man would talk shit about me - but at least it was to my face.

You don't have inadequacies - that behavior stems from listening to women.

pbtrpterodactyl · 2016-09-29T21:54:41+00:00

I'm new as well. The only universally common theme Ive notice is that marriage is a bad idea. I personally believe the problem lies in excessive government intervention, not in the nature of women.

soelc3 · 2016-09-29T23:08:13+00:00

the costs/efforts/heartbreak required to attract and maintain a relationship far outweighs the benefits.

Care to expand on what led you to believe this?

exit-stage-right2 · 2016-09-30T03:16:05+00:00

You are in the right place.

DownUnderSolo · 2016-09-30T04:46:04+00:00

I'd say I'm similar. I still respect and am polite to women just not interested in compromising on freedom or increasing portfolio risk. Also my interests overlap with only a small percentage of women.

I've had my fair share of LTR and flings through uni, mostly good experiences but something I can live without.

Noomene · 2016-09-30T01:57:48+00:00

I believe that my behaviour stems from my inaquencies/mindset

Then this clearly isn't the place you're looking for.

If you feel you are the problem, then 1- you need to see a psychiatrist and 2- you need to join PUAs or MRAs.

Title	New to this community; can anyone tell me if my mindset fits in here?
Author	npjobs
Upvotes	56
Comments	36
Date	September 29, 2016 8:16 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/5547a3/new_to_this_community_can_anyone_tell_me_if_my/
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