What does internal validation mean to you?

nigelh · 2016-06-13T15:33:25+00:00

I confess I'm not really sure what the terms "internal validation" and "external validation" really mean but I like me and I approve of me and I want it to stay that way so I try to be the sort of person I respect.

enry-invisible-h · 2016-06-13T05:39:45+00:00

Growing fresh fruit and vegetables.
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GreatRedYeti · 2016-06-13T02:23:05+00:00

We are human beings and social creatures so we need validation one way or the other. The difference is that a man going his own way does not rely on others' approval to provide him with validation.

Find something that you find a worthy cause which does not tie you down in any way legally and would be easy to leave if your desires change. Maybe you want to save for that fishing boat you always wanted so you can spend time on the water for hours on end. Maybe you want to be more involved in other peoples' lives so you volunteer with Big Brothers. Maybe you have been divorce raped and put through the ringer so all you want now is a quiet life in a small home which is your own and nobody else's.

Whatever you chose to do, do it for yourself. At the end of the day, the only validation you need is your own.

CaptainStardust · 2016-06-14T06:04:48+00:00

lol external validation

I say do what you want, but when with friends act in ways that support the group too. I'll never understand how some people want to make things all about them. You're always with yourself, so when another person enters the mix it seems pointless to self-absorbed.

kanji_sasahara · 2016-06-14T13:39:29+00:00

What you're talking about is more intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation rather than validation.

Intrinsic motivation is the desire to seek out new things and new challenges. It is driven by an interest or enjoyment in the task itself, and exists within the individual rather than relying on external pressures or rewards.

Extrinsic motivation refers doing something in order to attain a desired outcome (money, fame, praise/validation). Extrinsic motivation comes from influences outside of the individual.

Intrinsic motivation will always take you farther than extrinsic and it is the latter than has more pitfalls. Of course one needs a little bit of both.

ryeshoes · 2016-06-13T04:48:31+00:00

Clinical, descriptive answer:

Validation occurs internally regardless of stimuli. "internal" validation, at least from what I can glean from colloquial usage are self created rationalizations for perceiving a result as beneficial, profitable, etc.

External validation occurs when the rationalizations are collected from outside of one's mind, and is ranked higher than one's own created rationalizations.

ex: you think you didn't sing well, but everybody told you that you did great, so you listen to the response by the audience rather than your own self doubt.

Title	What does internal validation mean to you?
Author	muscacavalcade
Upvotes	8
Comments	6
Date	June 12, 2016 11:38 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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