Did what felt empowering and right for me. Did it follow TRP way?

El0vution · 2020-05-03T15:19:17+00:00

You should never act butt hurt. Also, did you actually DO your own thing that 3rd night? Or did you just sulk?

myfirsttimecoding · 2020-05-03T15:33:45+00:00

You fucked up if you actually didn’t have things to do because it just makes you seem like a child. Answer the other guys question. Did you actually have things to do or was the little baby angry he didn’t get any action and had to think of some shit to occupy yourself with as punishment to your wife?

Easy fix to this problem is just withdraw your attention. Why pay for a service you don’t get? Don’t let your currency go to waste

Whisper · 2020-05-03T17:12:39+00:00

The TRP way is "whatever we have discovered is consistently effective".

Did your choice of actions work?

JustArtist8 · 2020-05-03T16:04:15+00:00

I'd have done the same

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-05-03T18:25:36+00:00

A. For unmarried guys, this is where I point out that if you're maintaining sexual relationships with multiple women, this shit doesn't happen.

B. For the OP, why are you two "waiting" for later. She teases you, you say "Nothing says 'I love you' like right now." Srsly. A quickie after the phone call would have solved this for her.

C. Also, this is why I prefer young women. Guess who never falls asleep or bitches about how their back hurts, or whatever? Do you think any of my girls ever 'gets a headache'? No. Why? Because for girls in their early 20s, it's ALWAYS "Go Time."

hoopingblob · 2020-05-03T15:25:49+00:00

I don't think you did anything wrong. And it didn't sound butt hurt either. It's okay to say no to someone especially when they are playing games with you.

It's important that you do something tho instead of standing there. But to answer your question: no you did everything right.

Chadster113 · 2020-05-03T17:31:10+00:00

Sounds like she is controlling you with the promise of sex. And from your post history it looks like you might be having other troubles with your relationship as well.

urbanfoh · 2020-05-03T18:36:47+00:00

I disagree with your response being butthurt.

You signalled that fucking you is not to be taken for granted. And who cares what you did in that time, even if it was just relaxing. She understood that she is to treat you with basic respect or you are not willing to spend time with her.

DOJITZ2DOJITZ · 2020-05-03T21:04:09+00:00

Wow. The level of spontaneity in your relationship is dizzying.

When I turn into a horny predator towards my girl, she gets turned on and it’s happening within minutes. I can do this without words.

If she’s teasing you, she’s alpha.

If you want to turn things around, you need to work on your intent and timing.

cadaemos · 2020-05-03T21:05:13+00:00

If this is your wife, then the frame probably hasn't been set right years ago. Doesn't mean ur unhappy btw.

To answer your question. Just in general you only use your energy for what's useful to you. If she is wasting ur time/expectations (isn't useful), then you put in less energy. If theres nothing nice on the tv, you go read a book.

Dont try any reverse psychology trickster bullcrap. Ur going to do what's useful to you or what you like. Don't be butthurt or mad either. Be your own king.

Be pragmatic and chill urself. She will come, believe me thats how women work.

din_far · 2020-05-03T16:39:14+00:00

Then Saturday all day teasing me about makeup night, and nothing happens, she falls asleep.

Nothing happens? She didn't spread her legs and told you to put it in? And WTF is "makeup night"?

should I have agreed to another go and potential (possible) let down ?

If you are the man, then you need to recognize that it is your responsibility to initiate sex. It sounds like you are waiting for her to initiate, which is a certain recipe for relationship troubles.

If she's not attractive enough to fuck without makeup, find another wife, or create enough fear in her mind of losing you (aka dread) that she actually makes that effort. Right now, she makes no effort because she's knows you won't run away.

What is the actual problem with you initiating sex?

2020-05-03T15:37:12+00:00

Why would you turn down sex if you want sex?

You got butthurt and got revenge by turning down the thing you’ve wanted all weekend. Not only did you not get what you want, but by turning her down when she tried to initiate, you basically punished her for trying to have sex with you. Keep doing that and see if she keeps initiating.

Does acting like a bitch still feel empowering?

Also why is the sex all up to her? You are living in her frame. You need to push forward and initiate instead of just being reactive and waiting for her to decide whether or not you are going to have sex.

This is basic stuff that is covered in the readings. Read more, you won’t regret it.

BloodSurgery · 2020-05-03T21:09:10+00:00

You should check out the married red pill subreddit

MrBlack096 · 2020-05-03T22:00:58+00:00

Reading between the lines here: the letdown was a probably on you. Like Uncle V said a quickie would have solved this. No time like now to satisfy your sexual urges with her. She wants to be desired. The “talk” about makeup is just like her weird way of being insecure

catsdontsmile · 2020-05-03T17:24:28+00:00

Jesus Christ, makeup night? She needs a special night to wear make up?

theaskingdude1337 · 2020-05-03T17:08:38+00:00

If she is already your wife try some new things. Just take her on the kitchen or somewhere else. You guy's don't have to wait like 1 week and to prepare the makeup, candles..... Initiate the sex, grab her from behind and let her feel your boner (it makes her feel good and desired). That's it.

Try a little bit more dominance. We don't know how the current situation is in your house or for how long u are married.

Do you always wait till she wants to habe sex? How often do u have it?

Annapolis_Duck · 2020-05-04T06:08:39+00:00

You’re dumb AF OP

PulmonaryArchery87 · 2020-05-03T15:21:16+00:00

Talk shit

Title	Did what felt empowering and right for me. Did it follow TRP way?
Author	canadiandancingbear
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Date	May 3, 2020 3:01 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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