Hi all! As some of you have noticed, I have been away for the last few months - it is really due to so many things all combined into a messy ball. There has been some big shifts in my personal life and I knew my values and perspectives of life were changing.

One of these changes were particularly concerning to me - since I actually thought that the way my values have changed and developed would come into direct conflict with the RPW, since I did notice many oppositions to it here.

I've decided to become, to coin my term, a Domestic Woman or Domestic-Oriented Woman. Which means basically, I believe in working full-time, but this work is split between outside work/career and my housework. I see them as equal, one earns money and the other earns time. This is a lifestyle as an adult woman, regardless of where I am married or not, or have kids or not. The idea is that, if I'm not living alone (which means I live with a partner or family in a bigger home), that I dedicate time to looking after the home and meals, not squeezing it in along with full time outside work.

I believe, as a traditional woman, that men should be the providers and protectors of their families and wives. While there are no children still, domestic work won't take up all of the weekdays so women can still pursue their career passions part-time alongside the domestic work and make helpful monetary contributions, though it isn't their sole responsibility. The home is their main responsibility. Here are just some of my values and reasons for becoming a Domestic Woman.

  • In a first world country where there is more economic stability and support/backup from the government, this is definitely possible, moreso than any other places in the world. I've been doing this for years, with my single father and younger sibling.
  • Earning time is something valuable that women can do. It leaves weeknights and weekends free from any other extra domestic work, making opportunities to have quality time with each other, socialise or even work on hobbies. The Domestic Woman can also look after the errands around the house as well and be there for extended family or sudden important situations.
  • It may not look as 'modern' or 'independent' to some, though this is for someone traditional. If a Domestic Woman can prove she is resourceful, thrifty and can create her own flexible options for work, her traditional partner would know she is reliable and creative, she can make do with situations, good or bad. Work more in emergencies or work less when there's children.
  • It still allows you to save for the future. If you live with a partner or family, that is one set of rent/mortgage to pay and not two. The tax paid is also lessened with the threshold. If you know how to be thrifty, you can save almost as much as a full-time worker does because you don't have the extra rent/tax/bills/space to pay. Not to mention, being able to support and care for the breadwinner also motivates them to succeed more as they have less stress and more down time at home.
  • It can also be healthier, with less stress on time for the couple or family and having more homemade meals is also healthier and cheaper for all involved.

This is just the way I have lived and have decided I will continue to live, even if it isn't the norm. It is very, very traditional.

If this is not for you, that is fine. You can live how you live, I won't tell women how to live their life and not everyone is the same. If you enjoy juggling it all and find that a great challenge, then all the power to you. If you really enjoy your career and you want to hire a cleaner/houseworker to care of that - then that produces the same outcome, you just did it a different way and that's fine!

However, if you are a woman who've always felt a calling to your home, you've wanted to be able to do your housework properly, serve your partner or family - you've felt the social pressure to just make it all on your own and be by yourself and just work, work, work outside - know that that doesn't have to be the case. There is a different way, I am living it and I want to show the way. I want to help all the Domestic Women out there who want to balance their lives and live more truly to their traditional calling. You just have to be smart and creative about it and have some resilience to society and the judgements - but you can do it.

That Stepford Gal is here for you and she's back for good.