Ladies. I don’t even know where to begin with this. I read stories on here all the time about older men that go for much younger women because women their own age know their tricks and I think “oh yeah I had friends that happened to.”

Umm... ok me. Hello. It happened to me too. He was never my official boyfriend so for the most part I let it slide way back in my memory and don’t think or talk about it. I usually don’t even remember dating a much older man ever. It makes me that sick to think about.

So when I was 18 or so... can’t recall but technically “legal,” this 26 year old and I in another state somehow became online friends and the grooming began. I was incredibly lonely and had low self esteem and he was very sweet to me and “understood” me (as they do).

When he came to town, he even met my mom to show he was a good dude (but I told her he was younger than he was) and then my dumb ass went to his hotel room. We fooled around and did far more than I was comfortable with because I didn’t know how to set boundaries. He asked to have sex but I was a virgin (which he knew) and I said no and we didn’t but it hurt that he thought it was even on the table. I am painfully aware that could have gone much worse for me. I’m very thankful it didn’t.

I wasn’t even done with my foolish ways though. I almost flew out to see him and at that point my dad (who lived in a different city than me) got wind of it and lost his shit and was like hell no. He couldn’t really stop me but he talked enough sense into me that I decided not to go.

Even so, I was so mad at him at the time because I’d never really travelled before and thought it was my only shot to do so because dude was going to pay for the flight (Yikes, past me.)

My poor father. I made so many dumb ass choices. I can’t imagine what he thought watching me.

I don’t remember when or how I stopped talking to this dude but it’s been a very long time and as I said, he disappeared from my life and brain.

And now... I’m in my mid thirties (and have lived and travelled all over the Us and abroad by my own doing, by the way) and I get the notification that this fucker is following me on Instagram. And he’s fucking married.

Like... WHY?!?

I know the general consensus here is to block and delete but part of me wants to be like... you should be fucking ashamed of yourself.

And it’s so fucking wormy to follow me but not say anything. He could have easily looked at my shit and not followed me... but no... he made his presence known.

TL/DR: a predator I haven’t talked to since my teens found me on Insta and is married now. I want to confront him about what he did.

Also, young ladies, please learn from my mistakes. You have a long life ahead of you to accomplish your dreams. You don’t need men to help you. He is never your only chance.