Met her at the club, we did know each other through a shared social circle before. We hooked up that night. We met up multiple times afterwards, had Sex everytime, but did do normal stuff as well ( going out for dinner, going to the club ). We didn't meet often, every 1 or 2 weeks.

One Week ago after I tried to arrange another meeting, she answered with "Of course we can meet, but I want to inform you that I am not looking for a physical relationship. I am not feeling well at the moment ( she had depression a few years ago )" . I asked what she considered a physical relationship, and she told me there will be no sex.

I still arranged a meeting for end of this week, due to several reasons ( Big social circle, including djs / nightlife staff, fun to be around, high energy... ). I will try to escalate anyway again or at least find out what the problem is.

I still wonder what the subliminal message is behind "Not looking for a physical relationship"? Is it a shit test? I ignored it and acted like it didn't bother me. She knows I have options. There are 3 scenarios in my opinion:

  1. It is really due to her mental problems ( I know, red flag, but as I said it makes sense to keep her in my social circle, even without sex )
  2. I fucked up in anyway ( Do not think so, she still is open to meet me, sex was good )
  3. It is a shit test and she just wanted to see my reaction

Guess I will find out end of the week - looking forward to your input anyways :-)