[UPDATE] AITA for saying I would wear my mom's wedding dress on one condition?

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*Edit- Repost due to word count.

Hey guys, it's that 80's Bride with an update for you. Before we begin, let me just say that is crazy how my first post blew up. I never expected this response. Thank you guys so much for weighing in with your opinions.

A lot has happened since I made that post nearly a month ago. To begin with:

  1. No, BF still hasn't proposed. But that's okay. I know it's going to happen.
  2. Some of my friends figured out it was me behind that post. When I mentioned the kerfuffle with my mom, one of them said, "you wouldn't happen to be the one with that one AITA post, would you...?"
  3. While we aren't engaged yet, BF and I did talk about what we want our wedding to look like. While we have a couple of ideas in mind, he was onboard with the 80s wedding idea and joked that if I was to wear my mom's dress, then he wanted to find a replica of his dad's tuxedo and grow his hair out into a mullet and 'stache. Guys, he is a keeper if ever there was one. But seriously, 80s wedding is now in our top five list of wedding ideas. And when we brought up the idea with the people we want in our wedding party, they were all enthusiastic for the idea. So it looks like out That 80's Wedding might be a reality now. :)
  4. That leads me to my Mom. I sat her down and we got to her dress. And some of you were right... she thought that I would just be using her dress as a prop in a tacky theme wedding, instead of treating it as her treasured possession that it is. We did get to talking about we could pull it off. I brought over some bridal magazines and pointed out how the dress would look next to the more modern bridesmaids. I actually did start doing my own research and made a pinterest board to show her how I envisioned this new 80's wedding would look like, and not going to lie, she was pretty impressed with the amount of research I did into a time period she lived through. The "bridezilla comment" came from the fact she thought I was going to dictate what everyone was going to wear... turns out she was referring to a few more infamous cases including the bride who wanted orange suede, Louboutins, and soda hats at her beach wedding. Again, I had to tell her I already ran that idea with the prospective bridesmaids already and they all loved the idea.
  5. The most important update. I actually tried on the dress while over at my parents for Thanksgiving. It actually fits... it's a bit tight in the belly but nothing that cutting out booze and burgers for a couple of weeks can't fix. I looked a little overdone in it, but I loved it. There is no way I am going to want to turn it into a new dress now. I want to preserve it, but this is coming from the diehard history buff. While I may go dress shopping as well, this dress is a solid contender to be my future wedding dress.

TL;DR: Still no proposal, but when we do get there we may actually be having an 80's wedding!

Edit: Stupid me forgot to take pics! GODDANGIT!

Edit #2: I am really sorry guys. This was the closest I could find to something that looked like my mom's dress. For starters, her puff sleeves and skirt were more poofy and the latter would definitely be because it looks like she had on a petticoat underneath that day. But here is the closest I could find to the overall dress. The hem of her skit had some kind of frilly detail as well. And here is approximately what the back most resembles. The butt bow is a bit smaller than the OG, but the skirt and train has a similar trim. Again, I'm really sorry guys. Kids, take note, always have photographic evidence because you never know when you're going to need it.