FDS First Date Questions?

silvernikki · 2019-11-23T00:08:10+00:00

There are some guys who will lie about having well paying jobs just to get girls in bed, so, in addition to everything else, try asking for pictures of his hobbies or things he's done recently -- the last vacation he took, or last concert he went to. That way you can be sure it's legit and not made up to get into your pants.

whycantweallgetal0ng · 2019-11-22T18:55:25+00:00

Questions which don't go too deep but still help you evaluate how he overcomes difficulties in life. Does he place the blame on others for those difficulties?

throwaway4this834 · 2019-11-23T01:33:08+00:00

Ask him if he volunteers either time or money.

totitiganiisuntgunoi · 2019-11-22T18:54:09+00:00

The trick is you want to learn if the guy you are meeting is the kind of man who can and will provide for you, if he is looking for the same things you are, and if he is an interesting person that you will find yourself enjoying spending time with. However you should try to get these answers in a seamless natural way, without making it seem like an interview. Watch not only his answers, but also his behavior.

So for example, somewhere in the conversation you can ask about his job/education and his future professional goals. That should be a direct clue to how much money is making now and how much he may earn in the future. But also watch what he does. Did he pick a nice place for both of you to enjoy a good meal? Does he pay for everything without even flinching? You want to make sure that he is not just capable of providing, but is happy to do so.

With regard to the second point, you can even gauge that before the date. Did he seem responsive to your messages at a reasonable pace. Did he take the initiative to make plans with you? After the date, does he follow up and suggest future high quality dates in a reasonably short time frame.

The last point is of course the easiest one to address since the chitchat flows most easily about things a person is passionate about. So there just feel free to go through a laundry list of hobbies, music/book interests, etc., to look for common ground.

macguffin99 · 2019-11-25T12:38:43+00:00

After dating for many, many years, I have some standard questions I always ask on first dates.

Do you have any children? How many?

(I dated a guy once who had previously mentioned his son. When I asked him if he had other children he said yes, but he wasn’t sure how many. Definitely 3, possibly 4. And, uh, another one on the way.)

And: Have you ever been in jail? Because I would not ever be involved with someone who had.

I also believe that you should never have sex with a man until you have seen his house, because you can tell so much about a person from how they live.

Title	FDS First Date Questions?
Author	bestladee
Upvotes	14
Comments	7
Date	November 22, 2019 6:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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