How far do you go with men before exclusivity/defining the relationship?

AstridRavenGrae · 2019-11-02T07:09:59+00:00

I’m comfortable with physical affection - kissing/hand holding - after a few dates when I start to feel a connection. Anything before that will be a polite hug and goodbye if it feels right. I only meet men who know that I am looking for something serious before we even get to the date.

As soon as any talk or joking about sex or sexual innuendo comes up I tell guys upfront that I need to get to know them first before I am comfortable with that. I don’t really have a time limit on sexual intercourse but I do need a conversation about exclusivity and to know what they are looking for from our partnership.

If that sexual joking or innuendo comes up before we even meet or just after the first date I shut it down immediately as I’m not available for a quick hook up.

what sort of physical affection do you allow the men to do with you until that?

I don’t ‘allow men to do’ anything with me anymore, I set the pace and amount of physical contact available to them.

FlavFal · 2019-11-02T11:18:25+00:00

After I met my fiance and we had our first date I told him I wanted to get to know him better so we spent almost 2 months hanging out as "friends". After I decided it was time I asked if he wanted to be my boyfriend and he gladly accepted. That day we kissed for the first time, 52 days after we met and after 6 dates. I also expected exclusivity the whole time, if he had gone on dates with other women I'd have dropped him.

I felt a lot of sexual desire for him since the first day, but I didn't act on it and waited to see more of his personality.

rad_daphne · 2019-11-02T19:26:55+00:00

It's easier to do nothing but goodnight kiss, handholding and maybe cuddle up on the couch to watch a movie several weeks into dating. If I go further I won't stop.

Title	How far do you go with men before exclusivity/defining the relationship?
Author	prettyexcitingnews
Upvotes	10
Comments	7
Date	November 2, 2019 6:48 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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