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| 17 | Sad that more women will never find FDS now that it’s on a new platform.I’ve messaged modmail to let team know it’s no longer private, none of the mods have been active in months publicly or have wiped their accounts so they might not be aware. It might have been acquired via r/redditrequest possibly by the last mods on the list but I’m not sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/22 10:24 PM |
| 63 | Sad that more women will never find FDS now that it’s on a new platform.Waiting for a mod announcement now, what an interesting development… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/22 12:26 PM |
| 20 | STD testing before intimacyYou tell them ‘I only want to be intimate with someone I am dating and whom has had a recent, extensive STD panel done’ Ideally they are bringing this up proactively when you are discussing exclusivity and sexual intimacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/22 08:04 AM |
| 8 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂I cackled so loud at this that I had to then share to five different people at work who kept asking wtf was so funny. Fucking brilliant 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/22 01:53 AM |
| 75 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?Not even so much finding the person - it sounds rude but people and relationship partners are all pretty interchangeable. What you aim to find is the connection and interactions that suit you and your needs within a relationship. And if those aren’t fulfilled then that person is not your person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 03:35 AM |
| 271 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?At this point, everything about my partner - his actions, his values and his behaviour over the past two years has indicated to me he is a HVM and that it is a core part of his own self-satisfaction to be one. The way he treats me is always that I am a/the HVW in his life. I’ve never had to ask, push or ‘communicate’ for anything I need, he just continues to be a wonderful partner and a spectacular human being. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:41 AM |
| 17 | Her cancer diagnosis causes HIM anxiety so he leaves - now she’s considering stopping life-saving treatment to coax him back home.True words right here. Hopefully she sticks with the treatment and doesn’t play games with her health to win him back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:29 PM |
| 27 | Her cancer diagnosis causes HIM anxiety so he leaves - now she’s considering stopping life-saving treatment to coax him back home.I can understand his stress over the situation, yes it IS stressful for your partner to find out they have cancer. But you don’t fucking ghost your wife when she’s sick, fucking vile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:28 PM |
| 13 | Her cancer diagnosis causes HIM anxiety so he leaves - now she’s considering stopping life-saving treatment to coax him back home.I’m so sorry to hear she went through this, that sounds like a truly horrible experience, what a vile man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/22 07:27 PM |
| 3 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.I would be mortified and outraged if my partner did this to me. This is the opposite of supporting someone’s achievements, by having to make it all about you or ‘the two of you’. Just let her have her fucking moment to enjoy the attention and praise for a job well done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 10:02 PM |
| 3 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.What a quote: For these shall forever be remembered as the Games of horrifying publicly-sanctioned entrapment under the guise of romance. Ie. the public marriage proposal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:35 PM |
| 12 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.And the boyfriend said if she had won then he was going to wait to propose! So he made himself the prize because she lost? But if she won she would have been too good to marry yet? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:34 PM |
| 6 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.She did accept | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:32 PM |
| 8 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.It frustrates me so much, why not do this back at the athletes village after the cameras are off? Because it’s not about her; or them; it’s about the public seeing it, for his validation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:32 PM |
| 24 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.That’s even more gross. Only planning to propose if she lost? But if she won he would wait? Talk about considering yourself the prize. Marriage > personal achievements. Doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:30 PM |
| 11 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.Can’t get more low effort that that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.In that situation she would be the worlds biggest asshole and not him for putting her on the spot while interrupted an amazing life moment of her own merit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:29 PM |
| 3 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.She said yes to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:28 PM |
| 6 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.That’s so much worse now. I don’t like anything about this situation whatsoever the more I learn about the backstory. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:27 PM |
| 5 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.High doubt, he’s also her professional coach. I can’t say I know the circumstances of their relationship at all. But this moment snapshotted in time tells me about his ego in needing to take the focus off her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:26 PM |
| 8 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.This proposal is cringe - it takes her out of the spotlight, moving the focus of a very important moment onto him, it’s manipulative, it’s low effort. I hate everything about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:25 PM |
| 7 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.I blame Hollywood and western media with those over the top scenes romantic of acts of grandeur and draw out monologues professing love… but that’s not reality and that’s not what most women would enjoy happening to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:23 PM |
| 7 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.I hate that it takes the limelight away from someone in their professional moment of achievement. You could literally propose any other time - within the many years you have been together - and you chose NOW? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:22 PM |
| 6 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.He’s also her coach, so it’s a professional and personal relationship entwined. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:20 PM |
| 6 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.And right in the middle of an interview all about your personal achievements - he’s also her coach so not only is it inconsiderate but it also feels very unprofessional that he really needed to make it all about him in the moment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:20 PM |
| 4 | Man chooses to propose to his forever GF of 18 years finally, on live TV, after her participation at the Tokyo Olympics. Overshadowing her literal moment in the spotlight.I’m just so annoyed with him doing it publicly like this, in a moment that should be solely for her and about her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 07:19 PM |
| 25 | Happy to be here !Reframe the ‘obsessing over flags’ to ‘confidently filtering’. Those flags you encounter allow you to decide who you allow to have access to you. You’re an important person with previous time and energy resources - and you no longer waste either on people you aren’t compatible with. It’ll all become more second nature the longer you practice the principles. The other thing I see here is some self confidence issues (waiting for shaming language). Definitely something to work on for yourself - cha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 08:51 PM |
| 4 | Not wanting my SO to post photos of us and not wanting to post photos of him- is this okay?Go by his actions, not other people’s words. If he’s not showing you behaviour that he’s cheating then just keep vetting and vetting. As for social media, my partner and I don’t share each other or our relationship at all. We actually don’t share our individual personal lives on there either. Social media isn’t real life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 04:07 AM |
| 22 | Not wanting my SO to post photos of us and not wanting to post photos of him- is this okay?There is nothing wrong with not wanting to be on social media in this - or any - regard. Tell him Instagram is a no go, there is no need to share on there with complete strangers seeing intimate details of your lives. Your relationship is for you to enjoy, not the greater public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 09:47 PM |
| 153 | “More good women have been lost to marriage, than to war, famine, disease, and disaster.” - Cruella De VilJohn Hughes was the screenwriter - but the character was written to be a villain and of course a woman being career focussed and anti-marriage is an evil trait. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 08:28 PM |
| 13 | Denial and censorship on pornI see it now! Everything else was present tense and I missed it. Removing the earlier message, thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 03:45 AM |
| 12 | Why I forget things at his place.Dip the earrings in petroleum jelly before inserting - a fucking lifesaver for someone who always had allergies to cheap earrings. The petroleum jelly act as a barrier and now I can leave the same set in for a month or longer if I really want to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:29 PM |
| 10 | Post title says this queen asked for a proper date, but his description then labels the request as a demand. Why is this man outing himself as low effort?This screenshot really needs the username and the subreddit of origin blacked out - as per the community rules. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 10:23 PM |
| 15 | When you ask a question on reddit, you are asking (more or less) 80% men, 10% females, 10% other.Titles are not able to be changed after posting - and mods can’t alter your post in any way (besides flair) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 08:32 PM |
| 4 | Is this romantic or cheap?Cute relationship date for sure - my partner and I just did this for Melbourne Cup day this week. Sandwiches, charcuterie board and salad and headed to the local nature reserve for a few hours. We had a gorgeously relaxing day in the sunshine and then hit the beach for a bit. We tried to get in for a drink at a couple of venues on the way back but everything was fully booked (we’ve just come out of lockdown here). So then we headed back to my place for a movie and we cooked up a roast for dinner… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 06:05 AM |
| 11 | Have a delicious Tuesday 😘Personally I don’t regularly say thank you in response to a complement (words), usually only to thoughtful actions or to convey appreciation in order to reward a desired behaviour. Compliments can be cheap talk and rarely genuine when given by strangers - I will generally reply with something along the lines of ‘that’s lovely of you to say’ or ‘I agree, I love [subject of compliment] too!’ Edit: a word | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 11:21 AM |
| 5 | I started making lunchboxes. I always wanted to and couldn' wait to have a partner/children, so I can express my love this way. Just recently I realized that I already have a loved one, that I can make food for! (And who will always appreciate it) It's silly but it never came to my head before :DI adore this - some of the best forms of self care include being mindful of what we put into our body. Taking the time to prepare such fresh and nourishing food daily is the ultimate self love ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 11:34 PM |
| 4 | Feeling frisky? Get laid by yourself Queen! A thread on some sex toys that will rock your world, teach you about your body, and give you the confidence (and strength) to abstain from the abundance of low value dick options that will use their eloquent words and tricks to try to access your body.Best 👏 clit 👏 vibe 👏 ever 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/09/20 03:53 AM |
| 4 | What does it mean when he says, "I make him feel calm"?I always take that kind of language as a red flag that they are using you for emotional labour. I used to have a boyfriend who would be angry/upset/stressed and ask to see me as it would ‘calm him down’ or ‘make him feel better’. How about you calm down and make yourself feel better and then you can come and see me? It’s like the men who say ‘you make me happy’ - ahhh that’s literally your job to make yourself happy. You do you, I do me and then we both come together and happy, healthy, whole pe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:17 AM |
| 2 | Straight from the horse's mouth, what garbage low value mgtow 'men' thinkhttp://np.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/igux4k/she_knew_the_cheat_codes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 08:40 PM |
| 37 | AirfareOk so let me list everything that would worry me if I was in your position: Long distance - very hard to build a connection when you physically cannot spend time together between meetings Effort - why is if your job to go to him - little effort in his part, he can fly to see you if he really wants to get to know you Money - large potential financial output on your part (accomodation and possibly airfare) on the slim chance you hit it off and want to take things further Safety issues - you will b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 07:57 AM |
| 2 | Once you’re in a relationshipI’ve been dating someone for six months now and we are at the stage where I spend most weekends at his house (not mine as I like to keep my space just for me). It’s been a tricky situation as we are in stage four lockdown here and cannot go outside except for shopping (one person, one time per day) or one hour outdoor exercise (thankfully allowed to do this one together). This has been the case for three weeks, and is ongoing for at least another three weeks, with four more weeks of slightly les… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Let's go! List of HV actions in the time of Covid-era social distancing(Fortunately, I see an end date in sight for where I live since our curve has flattened and they’re declaring tentative success. Maybe within the next two months.) That’s fantastic to hear, I wish it was as clear here atm 🤞🏻 a return to normalcy is on the way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 10:01 AM |
| 1 | Let's go! List of HV actions in the time of Covid-era social distancingThey are definitely maintaining contact and showing you interest, but I’ll have to agree to disagree that this is ‘dating’ in the truest sense. What they have shown is that their priorities are with their families and I think that’s awesome to see in each instance. I would include the kind of contact you have described as examples of the pausing of dating, while leaving the window open to continue and pick things up later. It’s not dissimilar to a long distance dating - which I am personally not… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 09:36 AM |
| 4 | Let's go! List of HV actions in the time of Covid-era social distancingNot that ’it doesn’t have anything’ on it, but that a HVM will be taking the current circumstances seriously and be prioritising his a) health, b) financial circumstances, c) family connections during these very uncertain times. If he’s prioritising dating then he has issues with needing attention/validation or poor short and long term planning capabilities. This is a period of hibernation - forced introspection and slowing down to focus on our own needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 08:43 AM |
| 13 | Let's go! List of HV actions in the time of Covid-era social distancingBiggest HV trait in my opinion - is that he is not looking to date right now. Using this time to improve himself and his circumstances. Depending where you are (Australia here), we have social distancing guidelines up until June 2020. If he’s really high value he’ll understand that dating is not a priority/possibility right now and pause things until a meaningful connection can be established and maintained. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:34 AM |
| 34 | How did I do in this interaction with a LVM?So, reading between the lines - and fuck me is he verbose jeeeeez: ‘He’s not interested’ That’s really all he needed to say. Block and delete. No need to respond or banter with him about it. Also don’t allow yourself to be in casual dating situations in the first place. That’s too low value for you and he just went along for the ride until he got bored. Covid19 is a great time to pause dating and let these idiots weed themselves out of the dating pool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 07:31 AM |
| 9 | Male Friends?The majority of my friends are men, and it’s always been that way. A lot of my hobbies are usually more popular with men and so I have lots of face-to-face and online contact with men more than women. Of all these male friends, I dated one for several years (defacto relationship) and eventually we found out that a friendship connection was better for us. He was my partner and when it became platonic it then transformed into him being my family instead. | /r/askFDS | 16/03/20 03:34 AM |
| 18 | Fucking on First DateIt sounds like the mindset hasn’t been fully replaced by more a more productive and healthy one yet. So make the choice to have a healthy and respectful interaction and tell yourself now that sex is off the table completely. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/20 08:20 PM |
| 23 | Fucking on First DateYou’re going on a trail walk - how has you mind jumped to her wanting to have sex today? Oblige her? Cancel the date and get your mind in order. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/20 08:14 PM |
| 7 | If your gut is telling you something might be off with him, something is off.And this is why I keep a ‘red flags’ list in my iPhone Notes app. I actually often type into it right in the middle of the date when something questionable pops up that I might gloss over otherwise. Mask it as having to check my phone as I’m on call for work. Write down that ’moved back home with mum and dad’ or ‘thinks anime is really cool’. Get out of the date, go home, read the note with a clear head. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/20 07:15 AM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThat’s a shame 😕 hope something similar pops up to fill that food desire! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:28 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageI buy some from Coles here in Australia but there’s a wafer brand sold worldwide (I think) that has lower calories for a generous serve - Loacker Quadratini They do a milk, dark or hazelnut chocolate 🍫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:22 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageYou are amazing, thank you for the kind words. I really appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:16 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageAbsolutely true! But oh man I hate when I discover how many calories are really in my favourite foods 😢 Are you also on r/1200isfineiguessugh ? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:16 PM |
| 1 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageYeah the motives are definitely off, he’s had a week to say why he wants to meet up and a week to tell me directly he’s dating someone. That hasn’t happened and instead during that time he’s told me he’s been thinking of me and texting me with his pet name for me. It’s all just rotten and I want no part of it. It just solidifies that he’s not well and he has a whole lot more healing to do. I was very right to break up with him months ago. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:13 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageI adore my food scales, they certainly get a workout at my house haha I love that you hand write it too, pen and paper has a certain energy to it I believe. It’s like journalling, vs typing. There is power to it in making things a habit when you write it down. As for the subs I ended up leaving most of the progress ones now and follow most of the low-calorie food subs instead - r/1200IsPlenty and r/1500isplenty as well as /r/1200isJerky for a laugh when I need one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:09 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageAre you using MyFitnessPal for counting? It’s a lifesaver that app and keeps me so accountable haha Lots of cool subreddits on here too that I like to follow to keep me on track and inspire me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 11:01 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThat sounds like you’re doing awesomely over there! I feel you about the counting calories, I’m 5’0 and I’m going to be a calorie counter for life 😝 Very exciting about exam time and your clothes shopping celebration afterwards! Smash those exams, you’ve got this!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:57 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageAgreed, he’s very obviously a serial-monogamist who judges his self worth by being attached to someone. And that’s just not a heathy way to approach relationships at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:54 PM |
| 3 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageYep, he’s a bloody mess still obviously. Moving onwards and upwards again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:53 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageI will never allow myself to play therapist ever again. Exactly, your time and energy is too precious for a project-person. As for the ‘I never meant to hurt your feelings’ - any time someone says anything along those lines it’s just totally bull shit, they knew what they were doing I don’t want to hurt you - ‘but I will, I just don’t want to’ I never meant to hurt you - ‘but I didn’t nothing to stop it happening’ I’ll never hurt you - ‘if I say it enough times I’ll believe it, until it’s not tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:52 PM |
| 3 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThank you! I’ve woken up feeling much better about it all today, once the fog of emotions lift it’s so much easier to see again. And this is why I love posting here, your insight lifts up a little veil to see something I missed. He’s a serial-monogamist, he can’t be alone as he sees his worth in being someone’s partner. He chooses women who aren’t suitable for him (cheaters, high drama women) and he love bombs anyone who shows interest in him. I remember him telling me I was ‘hard to gauge’ emot… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:48 PM |
| 2 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageIt’s so very similar to that tweet! I was very happy when he was entering therapy - he acknowledged he needed help and he sought it thank goodness. I’m no ones therapist and I was about to type ‘looks like the therapy worked quickly’, but I don’t actually believe that when I look at his pattern of behaviour. And I’m so sorry to hear about your past situation, that sounds so hurtful and frustrating. Some guys just have no respect whatsoever - what a horrible person he was to drag you through that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 10:39 PM |
| 6 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageI don’t know why you’d be upset over an idiot who’s so obviously confused Absolutely true, it’s not rational to be angered by this at all. And a lot of that has already worn off after writing out this post and going for a long walk thankfully. Consider him written off, I’m so annoyed right now that he’s now blocked everywhere I can think of and couldn’t reach me unless he physically turned up at my door - which I don’t wish for or expect. Thank you for your bluntness, i really appreciate it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 07:11 AM |
| 8 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThank you, this was really helpful to read. If I’m completely honest, I don’t think he’ll ever get over his wife. They were together for 22 years, childhood sweethearts, and since then he’s a fucking mess emotionally. But this feels more like a pattern of artificially inflating his feelings toward someone, and then those big empty feelings deflate when reality sets in, he bails I think you put this beautifully and thank you for the very kind words. I’ve cancelled a date for tomorrow as I don’t t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 06:53 AM |
| 8 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThen after all that you find out it really was nothing. You were right the first time and now you’ve wasted all this energy thinking about a moron who decided to waste your time for no real reason. You reached into my mind and collected the words and emotions I couldn’t find right now. It’s exactly what it is. I made mental space to have this conversation with him and find out he’s deeply in love with someone. I didn’t wait around for the call on purpose of course, but the thought was there abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 06:49 AM |
| 11 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThank you so much 💓 he was telling you, without hesitation, exactly what he ended up doing Anytime someone warns you they will do something wrong, you always have to believe it’s coming. I totally believe that. And I saw the unintentional love bombing after the fact, he falls hard and he freaks out about it. As for the unfaithful bit, one of his great qualities is he only desires long, monogamous relationships with people. He’s been hurt deeply by a cheating wife and a cheating ex, so at least t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 06:38 AM |
| 21 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageI think you dodged a bullet and I know you know that This is why I posted, I need to hear this and it’s never the same as saying it to myself. It’s ok to feel like shit but remember to get up and be the badass woman you know you can be. Thank you so much, you have no idea how much this helps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 06:34 AM |
| 11 | No Contact Broken: Seething With RageThank you so much for your comment, I feel ridiculous for being so worked up about this and your response has made me feel like it’s ok for me to feel like this even though I feel irrational. You’re right that ‘this wasn’t it’, which is why I was breaking up with him in the first place really. When we broke up he got upset and wanting assurances of friendship eventually, so I can only assume that’s what his plans for catching up were about. I do hope he’s happy, absolutely and truly mean that. I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 06:32 AM |
| 14 | 31 year old man is trying to date me (20 year old), red flag or nah?So you weren’t special in garnering his attention - he’s trying to connect with anyone who will allow him. Please block him, he’s toxic and creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 04:34 AM |
| 6 | "You can pick our second date"The point of the date is indeed for him to take you out and have a good time - if only one of you was going to enjoy it then it’s just an obligation for the other person. He just wanted a game buddy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 04:29 AM |
| 11 | Help wanted...I would do it on the phone, but if he’s away and you won’t see him then drop it by text and let him process it ‘[FWB], I’ve been thinking about what I’m looking for and I’ve decided that what I really want is to find a serious relationship. I know it’s not what you want so it’s best that we stop sleeping together. Enjoy the rest of your vacation!’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 04:27 AM |
| 13 | What are your biggest pet peeves from men’s OLD profiles?If probably rather hang out with the cat, and drink the beer tbh 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 04:17 AM |
| 10 | "You can pick our second date"Ok, so I do like that he invited you to join him to enjoy a passion he has. But, after turning it down I certainly don’t agree with him putting the onus on you to forfeit your time and then make additional plans. If I invite someone out and they aren’t into it I would be coming up with an idea that everyone enjoys. I don’t force the other person to do something they won’t be into just so I get everything I want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 03:42 AM |
| 30 | Should I continue seeing this guy?No no no no Do you really want to see this person again? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 03:25 AM |
| 40 | What are your biggest pet peeves from men’s OLD profiles?Oh goodness... you do not want to get me started on this question... I’m at the point now I go on OLD just when I want to feel angry as these bios really do piss me off: no photos photos where face is covered all their photos have a hat all their photos are group photos (which fucking person are you????) photos with women, photos with kids no full body photos no bio bio says ‘just ask me’ talking about sex, wanting it, how good they are at it, how they want to ‘please a good woman’ bios talks ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 03:14 AM |
| 26 | 31 year old man is trying to date me (20 year old), red flag or nah?Ding ding ding! We have a winner! OP, never mind that he slid into your DMs on Facebook through mutual friends - how many other 20yr women do you think he went through until you responded favourably to his predatory behaviour? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 02:32 AM |
| 1 | new hvm dateIt’s a hard situation for sure, especially if there is a component of anxiety as well as a result. I would suggest working with a therapist regarding the control issues, as this will help with those feelings of being overwhelmed with fear of not having control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 02:25 AM |
| 13 | Why is every man interested in me as fucking weirdPersonally I think it’s because all guys are weird - they are all just different brands of weird. The LVM, the HVM, they all have something. Other than that I think we all attract what we are putting out for some degree. What kind of man are you looking for; how do you vet for the ones you don’t want? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 02:01 AM |
| 5 | new hvm dateI understand, we all have behaviours and traits that have become ingrained from our upbringing and environment - whether they serve us or cause harm is another thing. Is it something you’re willing to work on and change? You recognise it’s an issue and I’d guess it could possibly be affecting other parts of your life too? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 01:58 AM |
| 24 | new hvm dateMaybe it’s time to consciously choose to relax and let someone else take the wheel - let them plan and execute something fun for you to do together and just be excited by it. Part of being in a relationship is creating space for another person to come into your life - if you are too rigid and controlling of the pattern and routine you don’t have room for them to come in. Let them take control and show you what they are capable of. If they are really a HVM then they will enjoy planning and treati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 01:47 AM |
| 4 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessI really want to message them and tell them: Your audience is adult women, we fucking know sex exists, you don’t have to keep plastering it all over your fucking bio. We know you think with your dick 99% of the time, you don’t have to keep talking about it! Bonus: while typing this comment reply at the bus stop a gross dude just got me to remove my headphones and told me I look pretty.... I can’t even get it this today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 01:35 AM |
| 64 | May just send a screenshot of this to the next well-meaning family member who asks me why I’m single. It’s rough out here.‘Yeah.. I’m allergic to guys that are allergic to not using condoms, have a nice life!’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/19 01:23 AM |
| 42 | May just send a screenshot of this to the next well-meaning family member who asks me why I’m single. It’s rough out here.Hopefully many will see your comment here and realise there are options available for true latex allergy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 09:21 PM |
| 35 | I found this sub a few months ago and since then I’ve weeded out and blocked no less than 5 lvm fuckboys due to the advice here.Oh god.. my count of fuck boy blocks? No way to tally that up the way I sort through suitors 😂 Now that I’m writing dating recaps I’ll attempt to start counting it 2020, I actually think it will be empowering to see how many good choices I make. Sorting through them for my diamond in the rough 💎 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 09:07 PM |
| 228 | May just send a screenshot of this to the next well-meaning family member who asks me why I’m single. It’s rough out here.I snorted when I got to ‘allergic to condoms’ 😂 What a fucking surprise! Can I tell you, the only man I’ve ever met who was actually allergic to condoms went out of his way to special order the lamb skin ones and never once complained about it or saw it as an issue. Even putting the word ‘condoms’ on a dating profile is almost vomit-inducing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 08:42 PM |
| 3 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessNot an idiot at all! I’m always coming across acronyms I don’t know and feel silly too hehe And thank you 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 08:19 PM |
| 3 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessOLD = On-line Dating And this is from OKCupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Slap some sense into me: should I (25F) text him (26M)? 4 days with no communication from either side.We’ve all fallen into that trap of liking the potential of the person and not seeing them for who they actually are, and it really sucks at the time. Keep talking to others and just focus on detaching emotionally about the outcome, you can’t force something to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:49 PM |
| 8 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessGuaranteed it’s an old nude pic he’s sent someone, and then just cropped it down for his dating profile later lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:47 PM |
| 16 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessIt’s to distract from the lack of hair that’s been cropped out probably 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:45 PM |
| 1 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessOn-line dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:44 PM |
| 6 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessSounds like a whole lot of self-armchair-diagnosis here putting labels on what essentially will add up to ‘I’m a project person’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:44 PM |
| 3 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessI’m not attracted to younger guys, but I’m going to have to force myself to be if everyone around my age keeps existing in this manner 😝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:42 PM |
| 6 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessI reckon selfie stick and whoever first received this image saw a lotttt more originally. Guaranteed it was a full body & dick pic that’s been cropped to be more ‘appropriate’, ick. And unfortunately the shower pics are pretty common, followed by the shirtless in bed photos, double ew 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 07:40 PM |
| 2 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessThank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 06:40 PM |
| 41 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessYep, non-existent primary female relationship? Shocking revelation here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 10:35 AM |
| 19 | Slap some sense into me: should I (25F) text him (26M)? 4 days with no communication from either side.Flip it around and think if it was you in his shoes - if you’re interested in the woman you would keep pursuing, texting, calling, bringing your energy towards her on an ongoing basis. He’s putting you into a holding pattern and he’s on OLD looking for other people to talk to. Next him and get a rotation of men going to take your focus off him, see who rises above his level of effort so you can see the difference between what you’re experiencing and what you deserve | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 10:28 AM |
| 137 | OLD profile of the week - come along for the smorgasbord of mental illness, stay for the conflated sense of sexual prowessShower selfies are the dick pics of OLD profile photos. Put your damn clothes on, I don’t want to even think about the possibility of you being naked let alone seeing it as your first impression to me. Kudos to him for throwing all the red flags straight up though; OLD is a weird place in that people can be so brutally honest about themselves sometimes 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 10:04 AM |
| 31 | The Humiliating Dance of ‘Pick Me’! - ChumpLady.comThe more you chase a cheater, the more they disrespect you and revel in your resolve to self blame. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 05:10 AM |
| 39 | Why can't reddit stay on topic?It’s all Blessed Spinster, Mother of a Thousand Cats time in your future now 😝 I love how much of an influence they think their message will have. Oh no this random internet person has found me! The horror! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 05:01 AM |
| 39 | I just tried to be niceIf he missed you so much he would have contacted you to wish you Merry Christmas Hold off making first contact on the holidays, they know your phone number and they can contact you if you’re important to them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 04:55 AM |
| 100 | Is a “meeting phase” code for looking to hook up?Buhbye 👋 He’s just in the ‘meeting phase’ As in his genitals meeting another persons genitals | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 04:52 AM |
| 17 | Made some mistakes. Not taking that energy into 2020.Do not engage with newly separated or single men Absolutely agree. They do not know what they want, they freak out no matter what kind of relationship they fall into straight after the separation. You become the stop gap while they figure out what they are doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 04:44 AM |
| 39 | It was going well, then he waited til 7.30pm to wish me a Merry ChristmasWhen it’s that late in the day I’d feel like a total afterthought and be very disappointed. Not good enough at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/12/19 01:24 AM |
| 86 | First he asked me to dinner, then "dinner and Netflix", to finally just "hang out at my hotel". This bait and switch bullshit has got to go 👋🏼👋🏼✌🏼️I think that’s the best part of it, not only does he want her there for two occasions (before work and again in the morning) but obviously no mention of actually sleeping there. If some poor woman agreed to this situation she’s not even slightly considered sleepover worthy. Tossed out and then called back like ordering hotel overnight dry cleaning services. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 02:19 PM |
| 40 | First he asked me to dinner, then "dinner and Netflix", to finally just "hang out at my hotel". This bait and switch bullshit has got to go 👋🏼👋🏼✌🏼️They really do and then they get really get their back up when you disagree about it being a terrible date idea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 09:54 AM |
| 171 | First he asked me to dinner, then "dinner and Netflix", to finally just "hang out at my hotel". This bait and switch bullshit has got to go 👋🏼👋🏼✌🏼️Hang out at his hotel.. did he suddenly have a stroke and have you confused with a prostitute somehow? What a deranged idiot thinking that suggestion was going to get an enthusiastic response | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/19 09:53 AM |
| 2 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019Absolutely true. If they can’t show you day one that they are a provider and serious about treating you right when they are making a first impression - it’s never going to happen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019Recap queen! I love it haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 08:01 PM |
| 3 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019Very disrespectful, if he was having an issue with paying he should: not invite me out to dinner, especially to an expensive restaurant where you insist on three courses and wine, and don’t not have a conversation about who is paying and then dick around in front of the staff when the bill comes If I am having a tight money week I don’t make plans, simple. Don’t overbook yourself - time wise, energy wise or money wise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:58 PM |
| 3 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019Ryan’s on the fade right now for sure. I’m not 100% sure if it was manipulation either, it felt like he was just expecting to split it and then he got flustered when I was standing behind him waiting for him to sort it out. I would have had more respect in this situation if he just asked or announced he wanted to split. Use your words! Instead he made it a whole situation where he forced me to rescue him and therefore put himself in the friend basket. Very ungentlemanly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:55 PM |
| 3 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019The Hinge Collective ™️ It’s like a swirl of same-same men with no standout features, who may just be copy-pasting the convo as they all follow the same formulaic q&a. Well except maybe for this gem who proceeded to tell me I didn’t really like sci-fi and futurism and should delete that from my profile if I didn’t resonate with what he was asking. He stands out a bit! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:50 PM |
| 4 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019Yeah in what universe does that actually sound fun to me? It also makes me feel pressure that I have to perform once the clock strikes midnight - a kiss... more... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:41 PM |
| 8 | Dating Recap: W/E 22nd December, 2019I’m just glad you enjoy it 🙂 Ryan’s inability to pay the bill or speak up about wanting to split it frustrates me. I always carry cash on me so I’m not caught out when the situation arises but I also don’t want to set a precedent of showing my time isn’t valuable. When it was time to go he didn’t even request the bill, he went straight to the servers table - so no chance for the gesture of him just putting his CC or money in the folder. Instead he flustered around for a good few minutes with the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 11:01 AM |
| 3 | To the woman who recently went on a date with a man and shared her reddit with him:Fake fake fake. Having said that, my reddit is private, ain’t nobody getting my username that I actually know in real life. Reddit is one of my safe spaces and no one I know is invited into it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 07:18 AM |
| 22 | There’s a big difference between privacy & secrecy. If you’re in a “secret” relationship - understand you’re in NO relationship. Period. Cut that shit out. It just wrecks your self esteem & diminishes your self worth. For what? Exactly.Nah fuck that. You’re either in or you’re out. If we aren’t dating loud and proud then I’m taking dates on the side until I find the guy who wants that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 06:57 AM |
| 9 | LVM like this are so exhausting. I don’t care if you have a ‘high sex drive’, if you don’t respect my boundaries then you can go.Jesus fuck I am sick of guys saying ‘sexual compatibility’. The next one that texts it to me I’m going to go and snap his penis right off Entitled little fucks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/19 02:31 AM |
| 3 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.I’m sad too, it’s just completely turned on it’s head over a 10min exchange of messages. Even though I’m disappointed I’m just glad the convo was over with quickly and he excused himself from the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 09:17 AM |
| 2 | Dating Report: W/E 15th December, 2019Thank you 🙂 sorry it’s not as in depth this week | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 08:22 AM |
| 6 | Dating Report: W/E 15th December, 2019Happy to hear, it helps me frame my thoughts immensely by writing things out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 05:41 AM |
| 9 | OLD profile of the day - 26yr old who messaged me this morning. Porn Sick, Limp Dick.Hahahahaha!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 01:32 AM |
| 10 | Dating Report: W/E 15th December, 2019Yeah he tanked it horribly I’m afraid, ah well! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 01:25 AM |
| 19 | Dating Report: W/E 15th December, 2019I did too! Unfortunately this was the follow up. Very disappointed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 01:08 AM |
| 9 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Well he picked the wrong woman for sure. I already know that 99% of men are shit in bed Any man who needs to ‘test compatibility’ is probably going to be a total let down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/19 12:42 AM |
| 19 | OLD profile of the day - 26yr old who messaged me this morning. Porn Sick, Limp Dick.Hahaha 😂 or the ’My love language is...’ Fishing on the weekend with the boys. Sorry what? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 11:56 PM |
| 16 | OLD profile of the day - 26yr old who messaged me this morning. Porn Sick, Limp Dick.So many profiles where they just write ‘.’ as the answers to prompts, it’s pathetic Quicker experience for me than OKCupid to sort through the zero effort dudes at least haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 11:27 PM |
| 20 | OLD profile of the day - 26yr old who messaged me this morning. Porn Sick, Limp Dick.You do not want to see the screenshots folder on my phone... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 11:09 PM |
| 41 | OLD profile of the day - 26yr old who messaged me this morning. Porn Sick, Limp Dick.They think that some horny ‘mature’ woman would love to take them by the hand and satisfy them properly. Because I just search OLD looking for little sex projects to take on of course. He also had another section about finding his ‘forever pussy’. Gag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 11:03 PM |
| 61 | OLD profile of the day - 26yr old who messaged me this morning. Porn Sick, Limp Dick.Porn really has ruined several whole generations of men - I find that incest porn in particular is a fucking blight on society | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 10:52 PM |
| 12 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.A guy who wants to show off with a fancy pool in his fancy city high rise building I guess lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 10:30 PM |
| 9 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.4 years - he’s right in the age zone I look within. I’m 37 in January and I date around three years under my age, and up to four years older. And yes, that’s exactly the convo we had over several messages. We just have ‘different views on life’ as he so curtly put it lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Partially disagree - I’m very open in telling men straight up what I want - verbally and on my dating profile. As I don’t want to spend days-weeks-months figuring out that we don’t want the same thing. Telling them what I am available for and not available for allows them to know I’m not going to be putting out and if they are not serious then they are done. I’ve had a high amount of terrible dates this past 3 months which is not my normal, but generally this approach allows me to meet the men w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:48 PM |
| 11 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Oh god no, I can’t think of anything worse than stripping down to a bikini with someone I don’t know at all. I wouldn’t be able to be comfortable the entire time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:44 PM |
| 12 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.At least he saw himself out after he sent me that comment, like he knew he had exhausted the connection already and ruined it. The point of no return. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:43 PM |
| 4 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Depends on the situation; with him we had already talked about some of this stuff and had built rapport over a six hour period. If it was someone I didn’t know it wouldn’t have even been a conversation at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:42 PM |
| 9 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.I can guarantee he would have - he’s flying out of the country on Sunday for Xmas so he’d had the perfect excuse for it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:40 PM |
| 9 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.It’s true, can’t meet any man without continually wondering what his big problem, flaw or manipulation will be. Approach every dating situation with emotional detachment - they have to prove they are worth being interested in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:38 PM |
| 18 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.And today I learnt a new word - my god that’s exactly what he was!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:41 AM |
| 28 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Always better to get those red flags out of the way early I say! Polite and thoroughly annoyed and then a satisfied deep breath before deleting his message history and phone number and then blocking altogether. As for the miscommunicating message I asked what he was talking about as he was trying to talk over my stated preferences. I wasn’t asking his opinion, but he was going to give it to me anyway to try and win me over I suppose | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:33 AM |
| 20 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.37 next month | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 09:08 AM |
| 29 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.41 - and very much acted like a mature man for his age when I met him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 08:41 AM |
| 37 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Buttttttt it’s part of a complete perspective (not only emotionally and socially) He’s just checking all of the things! Argh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 08:33 AM |
| 48 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Everytime a guy says he wants to check sexual compatibility I feel like correcting him that he must have meant he would like to prove that he can make me orgasm first. But all those words actually tell me is that he’s more interested in his sex than me as a person and I don’t actually want him anywhere near my pussy at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 08:32 AM |
| 65 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.And I only half answered your comment, yes, entitled as fuck. They can all hold up the appearance of being a good guy for a while - he made it through date one but couldn’t maintain past that point at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:57 AM |
| 58 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.I should have worded it your way. I was at work while we were texting and had a friend reading the responses with me - I don’t think we could have possibly yelled out ‘what a tool?!’ any louder in unison when his ‘viewing life differently’ text came though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:45 AM |
| 35 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.We’d had a short prior and very pleasant history. I wouldn’t have entertained it otherwise at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:35 AM |
| 134 | Blah blah blah - so many words for ‘I just want sex’ after turninf down a Netflix ‘n’ chill second date because I don’t have casual sex.Disappointed by this one - we had amazing first date at a very expensive restaurant that we extended by a few hours as we got along so well. Deeply questioned me about my life and what I was looking for in relationships and talked about what he had been looking for - ready to settle down, looking for a long term partner who wants to get married. No red flags at all coming up to, or on the date at all. He asked me for a follow up date before we finished dinner, also asked to take me out on my upc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/19 06:34 AM |
| 3 | It really do be like that...I understand what you’re saying and how important that would be, it’s nice to be able to welcome people into our homes freely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 02:51 AM |
| 13 | It really do be like that...I’m sorry to hear about your experience and very glad you’ve been able to pull yourself out of that and reflect in such a way. And I don’t think it’s a small thing, cleaning out our immediate living area can have such a profound change that it literally can be the first step in improving someone’s life front that point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 08:32 PM |
| 20 | It really do be like that...I should never have clicked that last subreddit link. That sub should not exist and they should not be proud of making those posts... Edit: ok not all of them are celebrating their mess, but omg I am thoroughly disgusted that anyone could live like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 07:16 PM |
| 2 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.This is my stance as well, I won’t go to their house and I also don’t let anyone know where I live until I know them well. All conversations and personal details are screenshotted and saved to my hidden and password protected folder in case I need it. I’m so sorry to hear about your friend’s friend, it’s a horrible situation and distressing to hear that nothing they could do to help her or prosecute him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 08:54 AM |
| 1 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Agreed and taking the advice on board as of this very minute! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 12:04 AM |
| 3 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.He’s not that desperate, yet is also apparently that desperate as he can’t think of anything better to do And yeah I’ll take the dog, I’ll become the woman who adopts the pets of every man she meets - their guaranteed to be better company! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 12:03 AM |
| 2 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Completely agree with everything you’ve said; thank you again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:47 PM |
| 56 | 31 Yr Old Man Harasses 19 Year Old Girls at A Birthday Party. Gets outraged when they call him “R.Kelly” and tell him to take a hike. Is further humiliated when they start singing the “Remix To Ignition” to his face and cackling loudly. These Queens 😭🙌Imagine being that fucking delusional, even to type the whole post out and not know for certain that yes, YTA. It’s either a troll post for karma, or OP really is a clueless creepy predator that doesn’t realise how being attracted to teens is a problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:13 PM |
| 4 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I think maybe a bit dense too, totally didn’t get it. And ahhhh well, chance to report missed on this one, blocked and released back into the wild already | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄From the post though she apparently thought she WAS thinking about his feelings - she seemed to think that surprise was what he was after and she went into it with gusto. This wasn’t a FDS woman knowing her worth and walking away, she escalated the situation. And yes he 100% brought it upon himself, any man that wants to open the relationship shouldn’t be in a committed and exclusive relationship in the first place! I’m still not disagreeing with this and everyone keeps arguing that I am defendi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:05 PM |
| 5 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I get the emojis comment a lot, it’s a habit I will have to train out of myself as everyone I know uses emojis liberally here. I can see how their use would be softening what I was actually saying to him, so he would have thought I was being friendlier than I actually was. Awesome advice, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:01 PM |
| 4 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄It doesn’t bother me. I just think that group sex, polyamoury, open relationships and cheating in all forms is just deplorable and the whole situation in that post is a train wreck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:59 PM |
| 2 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Only some of them thankfully! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:57 PM |
| 3 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Thank you for taking the time to write this, I love the insight you’ve provided here. My biggest mistake was seeing he was vague early on and opening up my time up try to encourage him to set plans - he was never going to set plans whether I said I said one day available, or a whole month available. As for the phone part, I get there one of two ways once I establish it could have potential they ask for a date a few days away, we swap numbers and I tell them to call me to talk they ask for the ph… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:56 PM |
| 9 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Very good feedback thank you! I’m definitely in the habit of using emojis in texting and it’s often a way of ‘softening speech’ that I fall into sometimes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:46 PM |
| 4 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Thank you for the feedback and advice, I was trying to help him towards making a plan and it was obviously never going to turn into a real date as he had other ideas all along. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:45 PM |
| 8 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.No he was just extremely disorganised and truly thought I would enjoy helping him choose gifts for children I hadn’t met. Extremely clueless about the whole situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:43 PM |
| 11 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Haha I saw the same post and it’s totally what those guys think, they can use an app for food, why not use an app for a booty call? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 11:27 AM |
| 11 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.👋 👋 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 10:35 AM |
| 22 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.It’s a shame when it’s easier to block someone than to be truly listened to. I consider myself very straightforward in stating and enforcing my boundaries, as well as in respecting other people’s. Some people are just too dense or have their own agenda that overrides your needs and wants | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 10:26 AM |
| 36 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Nothing makes me wetter than helping men out with their last minute grocery and shopping trips! Why wait for a ring on my finger when I could do your miscellaneous chores for you NOW! Also I work 9-5 in a shopping district, the thought of going there in my free time makes my eyes roll right out of the sockets | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 10:17 AM |
| 25 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I even gave him a chance to course correct early on, but sometimes lazy is just lazy is just lazy 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 10:15 AM |
| 29 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Even more gross 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 10:04 AM |
| 1 | What’s with guys who are 40+ still talking about “wanting kids someday”. With who, exactly?Settling down at 52!!! No thank you, sperm quality starts degrading way earlier than then (>35yr), leading to much higher risks for implantation failures and miscarriage, abnormal pregnancies and higher percentage of genetic disorders and autism occurrence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:37 AM |
| 37 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.Sounds like fun right???!!! Fun fact, two years ago I went on a second date with someone I really liked who sneakily turned it into a shopping date for his kids as he had to get something last minute- he was frazzled and it was a disaster and I left him at the centre before we even made it to dinner afterwards. Never again. And yep Melbournian here too 🇦🇺 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:34 AM |
| 36 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I’d say a solid 7/10 - tall, looks fit and healthy, good head of hair and a nice smile. He’s very much my ‘type’ in terms of looks - but still not attractive enough for me to fawn over when he can’t get it a basic date plan together | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 09:10 AM |
| 44 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I haven’t even been to the house of some of my close friends - no way I’m going to a strangers house! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:17 AM |
| 94 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I legit hate being called ‘babe’ or any pet names by someone I don’t know, it’s so condescending. As that’s totally how he was planning on that going, come help me with my groceries... and unload the car with me... now come and relax on the couch... Six months from now, no worries I’m up for the shopping trip, but not on a first meeting mate 👎🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 08:17 AM |
| 85 | The zero effort date - invite her to tag along while you do your errands.I often look for people who live closer to my area for dating (as I love where I live and I plan to stay in this area forever if possible). Sometimes dudes are way too chill around here though and I get hit with the drinks-at-the-pub or the walk-at-the-beach dates instead of a planned event. Started talking to this guy last week and at first he offered up a dinner date ‘soon’, so I left that arrangement up to him. In this convo that offer instantly became much more loose - coffee this afternoon … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 07:51 AM |
| 30 | To get exactly what you want out of dating you need strong boundaries. The minute you’re not having fun with a man, drop him. If you ever feel uncomfortable, immediately correct him. Do not spend ONE SECOND more on nonsense than you have to. You only have one life and These dudes are entertainment.Preach 🙌🏻 life is too short to spend time doing things or being around people that don’t bring you joy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 05:08 AM |
| 7 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄Maybe that’s how I should be interpreting it too, honestly the whole situation utterly grossed me out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 05:06 AM |
| 11 | oofI can see that now too! If gamer dudes sit in this thing for hours on end each day they will probably end up looking like the people from Wall-E 😜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 04:24 AM |
| 7 | Nothing But the TruthThank you :) will see how it goes. In the meantime had another date today and another one tomorrow 🤞🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 03:22 AM |
| -5 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄I’m not saying he did the right thing - a man pulls that shit to me and I’m out the door before he can even finish the sentence! I’ve got zero tolerance for that polyamory bull shit. And I’m not saying she’s the bad guy in this situation - he very obviously is. I’m saying that her participation in this scenario doesn’t make her a good guy. Honestly any woman who even tries to indulge her partner in allowing him to fuck other people is a desperate pick-me, as what HVW would entertain that idea? T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 03:16 AM |
| 43 | Woman proposes to her boyfriend and encourages more to test the waters!Hmmm no, I don’t think I will be doing that 😜 We are already prone do so much more than guys in every regard in a relationship, I’m not going to go full pickmeisha and do his job of proposing as well... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 03:04 AM |
| 43 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄Total douchebag, who in their right mind thinks that’s these two statements fit side by side. It honestly looks like they were both looking for the green light to cheat and he didn’t reply expect it to go the way it did AT ALL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019Sorry /u/TheLastUBender, Ken turned out to be a big nope 👎🏻 post update coming tomorrow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 02:57 AM |
| -4 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄There’s always details left out, all we know from that post is that he’s disgusting for suggesting they become polyamorous and she’s disgusting for surprising him with that impromptu group sex session. Neither of them are HV people at all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 02:55 AM |
| -21 | Male wanted to try “nonmonogamy” with his girlfriend then flips out at her when she shows interest in another guy. They’re always mad when “nonmonogamy” isn’t exclusively in their favor. 🙄Cheating as in making out with the guy right in front of him without his permission? I get what you’re saying about suggesting polyamoury and then being a hypocrite about being upset, what I’m saying is they are both totally shitty people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 02:54 AM |
| 20 | I am learning so much from you all. How do I handle such foolishness?Great decision 👍🏻 even if there was some kind of situation he was legitimately wanting to remove himself from, it’s never your job to wait around patiently | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 01:20 AM |
| 66 | I am learning so much from you all. How do I handle such foolishness?Nothing to suspect or ponder on here - the complication is that he’s a scumbag who’s looking to cheat. He’s either single and ready to mingle, or he’s got someone who considers he’s their boyfriend/partner. There’s not really an in between to consider. And why would you want to wait for him to ‘uncomplicate things’, he’s a man and men do what they want to do. If he wanted to be uncomplicated then he would be. Don’t tell him you can’t be friends, that’s a waste of your precious energy. Just block… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 01:02 AM |
| 15 | Schrodinger’s DB‘It’s only a joke, you have no sense of humour’ 🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 12:35 AM |
| 12 | oofAbsolutely true - it’s about priorities When you’re putting yourself out to date someone I believe you have to be able to make room in your life for that potential person to come in to it That chair bang smack as the centre of your home is not an invitation to a potential romantic relationship. It shows that you are in a different headspace and your priorities for money are probably very, very different to mine. Buhbye 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 12:18 AM |
| 43 | Nothing But the TruthMy new No. 1 in the dating rotation is a man who asked me out and then set the time and the place in a ten minute time span. When the original plans fell through (overbooked) he had the new venue organised without an hour after calling several restaurants to secure a table. During the date he wasn’t wishy washy about his intentions either - he wants only a serious relationship and then immediately requested a second date for this coming Thursday which I accepted this morning. He has also asked p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 12:09 AM |
| 23 | oofI was chatting with a guy who’s recently bought and moved into his new house - I may have noped out on him instantly when he mentioned having just ordered one of these one of these for pride of place in his living room. I’m a video gamer in my downtime, but this was just a big fat red flag for me if this was his vision for the home he eventually wanted to bring a partner into. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 11:59 PM |
| 3 | Men are like waterThank you! Makes a bit more sense now | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 07:30 PM |
| 3 | I refuse to kick my dog out of bed for a low value male (Never settle--even in your 50s!)You’ve made the right choice - and I was especially triggered by him kicking the dog out! I would react the same way, my dogs are like my family and they bring my great comfort by sleeping in the room with me. He doesn’t like it? He’s gone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 06:34 AM |
| 3 | I refuse to kick my dog out of bed for a low value male (Never settle--even in your 50s!)Preach! If only men put in as much work and actually lived up the standards we value so much. It sounds like a lot of things when you list them here, but it’s just basic self care and they can’t even manage half of it! Onwards and upwards from this dude 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 06:32 AM |
| 3 | I refuse to kick my dog out of bed for a low value male (Never settle--even in your 50s!)I’m 36 and play video games as one of my favourite hobbies, I love the escapism in the same way as watching a movie or reading a book. I saw a lot in your post that I would agree he needs to work on, and I don’t agree that he should be playing them wrote going to bed with you - but saying his hobby specifically makes him a loser was rather iffy and judgemental even for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 06:30 AM |
| 8 | Men are like waterI feel like I’m missing part of the analogy? ELI5? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 06:19 AM |
| 5 | Boyfriend/Girlfriend for 16 YEARS and looking pics of other girls daily to jerk off... and he’s been caught sharing pics before...That sub is such an echo chamber, they all just tell each other to rationalise and accept the shitty behaviour Rarely someone will suggest counselling - which has it merits - but not when someone has cheated or they don’t want help for their depraved behaviour. It’ll just be a coping mechanism until the next blow up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 06:50 AM |
| 4 | Boyfriend/Girlfriend for 16 YEARS and looking pics of other girls daily to jerk off... and he’s been caught sharing pics before...16 years ago when he was starting on this behaviour too, I would have never normalised that or the porn use 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 06:48 AM |
| 17 | Boyfriend/Girlfriend for 16 YEARS and looking pics of other girls daily to jerk off... and he’s been caught sharing pics before...Exclusivity for him - their sex life is great in her words - but he’s mentally banging dozens of chicks a day in his mind. He’s the only one getting any benefits here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 09:35 PM |
| 25 | Boyfriend/Girlfriend for 16 YEARS and looking pics of other girls daily to jerk off... and he’s been caught sharing pics before...I’m not sure if this is the place for me but I need to talk to someone. My boyfriend and I have been together for 16 years. In the early years of our relationship, he did some hurtful things like texting sexy pictures with another girl. He apologized, admitted that it was stupid and we were young so I let it go. He has not and does not do anything like that anymore. He’s actually been wonderful for the last 7-10 years of our relationship. However, I ended up snooping through his phone not too lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 09:25 PM |
| 5 | Update: first first date since subscribing here. I feel good.I had a pleasant afternoon and met a new person. Whether or not he likes me is his own issue. I like myself. Couldn’t have said it better myself. The best feeling after a date is this sort of content detachment. You went out, you had a good time and you don’t attach any of emotional outcomes to it - you just go along with your life as normal. Glad you had fun OP! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 09:09 PM |
| 1 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻It must be a guy thing to just never delete people from their list - I remember scrolling through an ex’s phone and he upwards of 200 people going back to high school, while I have a tight 20-30 of people I actually need to talk to. While the high school one sounds like a no-go, it sounds like the other two could be fun if you get what you want out of the situation 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 06:59 AM |
| 3 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019I love it! Hopefully ken’s recovered enough to come out on the weekend in that case - but I have a feeling it won’t be until after New Years. And yeah I actually ‘unmatched’ is you Jeremy today, he’s really on another level of pet owner excitement I’m not quite sold on 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 06:56 AM |
| 4 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻He waited a decade to ask you back out and thought he had a chance 😂 how delusional! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 07:47 PM |
| 5 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019Yep, classic way to put yourself in danger too as if you get in their car you will have no idea where you are actually going. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019🙌🏻 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 07:42 PM |
| 4 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019Thank you 🙂 onwards and upwards! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019Fantastic post! You have a great abundance mindset for dating Thank you! I definitely try to approach it in that manner Damien is in your friend group and no one really knew has a secret adult child! 🤯WTeverlivingFuuuuuck???!! No. Just absolutely not with any type of “I HAVE A SEEEKRIT LIFE” shit. That is quite honestly one of the bigger red flags I’ve read about up in here. I am still speechless about this one 😬 there is only one other person he namedropped who knows so I sent them a quick mess… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 07:33 PM |
| 11 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019Hahaha thank you 😂 gotta make jokes at the things that really piss us off, right? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 10:59 AM |
| 9 | Dating Report - W/E 8th Dec, 2019Haha love this comment! No idea if he was nervous about being one-on-one in person, or amped up from work but he was being super weird and it was fascinating and horrible all at once. Tanked it 👎🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 10:54 AM |
| 22 | If guys who look like this can manage to be polyamorous and have multiple girlfriends, do you really think women are the more superficial gender?If he looks like this then what do the women look like / behave like? He’s trash and she’s LV too. Let them have each other (and each other and each other) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 09:56 AM |
| 2 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻Hopefully only people we want to talk to 🤞🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 09:27 AM |
| 3 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻Two years! Man he must have been lonely as fuck to put those feelers out and expect a positive response. Sorry he wasn’t polite about it, sounds like he’s always been a dick 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 09:19 AM |
| 3 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻That’s the important part - you are immune to their drama and enjoy your social life fully 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 04:00 AM |
| 9 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻That’s disappointing as a group of all adults for them feed on that kind of behaviour. It’s just so draining for everyone else to be around, those aren’t fantastic people either tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 03:39 AM |
| 9 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻Hopefully the group can all wisen up and see that it’s time for them to block and delete him too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 03:30 AM |
| 14 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻It’s just such a toxic cycle, extremely happy you could extricate yourself from it! He’s sitting there collecting passing tumbleweeds from now on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 03:14 AM |
| 14 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻100% agreed and duly taken care of | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 02:56 AM |
| 17 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻I actually did respond this time, against my own better judgement. I told him I never got his message and the conversation died all over again as expected once he got his validation of my replying to him What I should have done is just block completely the first time around (I only deleted his number and all our text history at the time) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 02:51 AM |
| 43 | Be vigilant during the holiday season ladies - the ghosts of suitors past will be making their visits shortly 👻This is the third repeat-vanisher to pop up this week. It happens like clockwork this time of year, every year as everyone starts to panic about spending the holidays alone. They aren’t thinking about you, they aren’t wanting to step up for you, they are just bored and lonely. I originally stopped talking to this guy after he disappeared for two weeks, a week or so after a first date. His original returning message above mentioned I would ‘get it’ and I did - I got that I wasn’t a priority at al… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 02:42 AM |
| 6 | OLD Profile Of The Say: A self aware LVM with this photo and no bio. Thank you for advertising your worthlessness for dating upfront 🙏And dammit, typo in the title - *profile of the Day I meant, sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 11:30 PM |
| 21 | OLD Profile Of The Say: A self aware LVM with this photo and no bio. Thank you for advertising your worthlessness for dating upfront 🙏I almost feel angry when I see these bios, what woman actually swipes on these and starts a conversation? It’s going to go one of three ways: absolutely nowhere as he really is lazy as fuck - he even got the ‘hey you’ convo message out of the way on the bio page. Then he’s probably out there whinging in real life about getting no matches, oh the humanity 😭 he’s ugly as fuck and not worth a profile pic as it would have broken the camera and your eyes to look at it he’s married/partnered up and lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 10:17 PM |
| 1 | OLD Profile Of The Day: A self aware LVM with this one photo and no bio. Thank you for advertising your worthlessness for dating upfront 🙏. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 09:18 PM |
| 13 | I’m trying to figure out why you would have an intro like this? Manager at Target 😂I dunno, that wispy half-beard half-can’t be fucked shaving properly look doesn’t do it for me at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 10:14 AM |
| 1 | Weekly dates Round Up 12/1 & Hello!!That’s awesome hear 🙂 I love when a guy steps up, I hope the restaurant experience was lovely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 10:06 AM |
| 34 | I don’t know who needs to hear this, but...Fuck, I used to acquiesce to almost all of these things as a child and a young woman. Makes the walls and boundaries stronger when you eventually learn you don’t have to endure these social expectations 🖕🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 05:54 AM |
| 19 | I’m trying to figure out why you would have an intro like this? Manager at Target 😂So he’s sad that the bar scene isn’t working for him and he’s ‘getting fucked over’ = he’s exhausted the pickmeisha supply at his local and the HVW women aren’t having a bar of this dude hitting on them instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 05:51 AM |
| 2 | Weekly dates Round Up 12/1 & Hello!!Oh yay, I’m glad my post encouraged you to share too! Loved reading this - interested to see what happens with Adam at your next date 😁 The rest all sound like their not a great match for you or whiny man babies, NEXT! As for the ghosting thing, it’s not just on the OLD platforms - a past match smsed me today to complain about how I ‘ghosted’ him in early November. I had to point out that the convo got boring and he stopped putting in effort after we had a date so I just matched his approach at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 05:00 AM |
| 8 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️Dating these days is like a series of intense elimination-style tournaments. Massive number of competitors and I’m utilising brutal knockout tactics to weed them out. If they can see themselves out all on their own? Happy to wave them off 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 03:19 AM |
| 6 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️Yeah I’m not on a dating app for new friends, I always read that’s as ‘friends.... with benefits’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 02:49 AM |
| 8 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️The number of people who select ‘open to non-monogamy’ baffles me though. Blatant flashing red flag that they’re always going to be looking for the next woman to fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 02:45 AM |
| 8 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️Absolutely, any mention of ‘hookups’ or ‘non-monogamy’ and I know they aren’t my kind of person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 02:20 AM |
| 48 | High Value Men on Dating Apps Success Stories?I’ve met a few HVM on OKCupid, one of which I dated for a few months last year. We chatted for a week on app, moved to texting and went out for a 5-6 dinner and movie dates before deciding we wanted to be exclusive. He was courteous and an absolute gentleman, passionate about his work and friends/family relationships and he encouraged me to set the pace for everything. It didn’t work out, but these things happen unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 01:51 AM |
| 24 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️He ripped his head so far back for the photo that the hairline fell right off his head It’s like hatfishing, but just with camera angles. The Schrondinger’s cat effect for hair - it both exists and doesn’t exist unless you see the truth yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 01:03 AM |
| 21 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️I dunno, I like the look of a man that could snap at any time and punch a hole in the wall if I say the wrong thing /s And have to say the best thing about OLD is the amount of men who are brutally honest and allow me to discount them immediately. Thank you kind sirs 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:59 AM |
| 24 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️Liked; messaged; read his reply and then blocked him. Ahh well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:53 AM |
| 17 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️Red-pill women types who like their men to do the deciding for them 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:48 AM |
| 35 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️The pose with him literally looking down his nose at the camera really isn’t helping him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:48 AM |
| 62 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️‘Oh, you’re so cute and edgy, I also believe women shouldn’t have choices’ coy giggle I gagged a little even just imagining what it would be like to be attracted to that level of wankerism | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:29 AM |
| 21 | If your sense of humour could be summed up as ‘sexist’, it absolutely make us incompatible 🙅🏻♀️And how’s that long term success working out for you buddy? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/19 12:04 AM |
| 9 | Strategy for bumble?Bumble is a no-go 🙅🏻♀️ also any profiles on other platforms where the guy says ‘can’t see likes’ (bullshit), or ‘I’m not here much, message me and I’ll reply’ (nah, I’ll pass) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 11:51 PM |
| 5 | Please share your favorite FDS-approved media below! (IG, books, Youtube) We are expanding the wikiWatched this the other day, loved it!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 11:48 PM |
| 2 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Omg that burn is brutal, amazing 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 10:52 AM |
| 1 | How do care for yourself after a man hurt you?I go full scorched earth - block and delete, and treat it like they never existed. Every time they happen to creep into my mind space you have to force yourself to focus on a competing thought that makes you feel better. My competing thought is to think about my sweet little dog and how appreciative I am that I get to love him and take care of him. Eventually it becomes easier to mentally revise the time of your life they were present in so you question if they actually existed or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 07:14 AM |
| 37 | The fact that I'm still having these conversations with my girlfriends in the year of our lord 2019 is a fucking nightmare. You don't owe ANYBODY, ANYTHING. You NEVER have sex out of pity or obligation or coersion. I don't care if he gave you a kidney, you say thanks and keep trucking. The fuck.Oh no no no. That breaks my heart to read, no one owes another person their time or energy, let alone their body in the most intimate way possible. I hope you were able to snap her back to reality 🤞🏻 he needs the good old block-and-delete combo immediately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/19 05:56 AM |
| 12 | “Sir, this is a Wendy’s.” This sub was created to help empower women and mangry Redditors call for it to be banned. Meanwhile, dorky “dark triads” like this openly monetize and plug their shitty ebooks and seminars in the Manosphere and subs like TRP to spread misogynistic filth.THAT GUY thinks he’s ridiculously good looking? Hard pass thank you, he looks like an unwashed and ungroomed Afghan Hound | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:43 PM |
| 4 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻Someone found that the profile pic is a stock photo, chadfishing at its best here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 08:46 PM |
| 3 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻Good bye clitoris - it was good knowing you funeral dirge playing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 08:45 PM |
| 1 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻I’m in Australia so I don’t really know about elsewhere 🤷🏻♀️ pmed you some of the original screenshots too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 08:32 PM |
| 1 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻They are most certainly standard questions, and it’s edited in that I took screenshots and made a collage in PicCollage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Haha I tried the same thing and got very confused | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Read your message as soon as I woke up today and I’ve decided to take care of #7 as that’s extremely true. #8 is calling me tonight as he still wants to set up a date for the weekend, so I’ll ponder on that one today. Thank you 🙂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:37 PM |
| 3 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Absolutely yellow flags there, he’s juggling a lot at the moment and he has the emotional intelligence to know he doesn’t have much time right. Will just see if and how he steps up if he’s actually interested Otherwise he’s in my peripheral friend circle so we’re friendly anyway which is nice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:35 PM |
| 1 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Thank you 🤞🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:33 PM |
| 1 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Agree with you, a lot of this is early getting to know convos atm and I’m not into continual all day texting/talking as I have a busy job. Generally over the space of a week or two I usually know all I need and then a hard decision made - we meet or I say goodbye and delete. Then on to talking to new people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:32 PM |
| 1 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻It crosses my mind when I see one of these profiles, but so much effort for no reward for me. She married him, she can work that one out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:26 PM |
| 1 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻What do you mean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:24 PM |
| 3 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻And you’re right! Someone elsewhere in the comments found the original photo! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:24 PM |
| 4 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻Agree on this one point, I’ve long said that OLD is great for that - the men are often brutally honest in their profiles, in a way that can take months to unravel in person. Very helpful for weeding out the incompatible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:23 PM |
| 5 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻Nice investigating! Makes so much sense now 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Wild speculation is always warranted at face value I believe - I think we’ve all been on the tail end of some very tall tales! And thank you, he’s got at least another week bed rest and I said I don’t want to meet up until he can walk again (for his own health and because I don’t want to be someone’s nurse), so it’ll be awhile atm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 01:02 PM |
| 4 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019I love it! I feel so honoured 😁 glad you liked the post, I adore this community! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 01:00 PM |
| 12 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻I maaaaay have done a location search on Facebook for him briefly but then decided it wasn’t my job to chase cheaters down. Who knows, maybe she’ll see the post here | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:59 PM |
| 21 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻Allllll of the hair gel. Tub a day addict lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:58 PM |
| 20 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻My housemate questioned if it was a troll account overall tbh to catfish women. But would women respond to this drivel anyway? Maybe I have more faith in us than he does lol Edit haha hairymate! Housemate I meant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:57 PM |
| 3 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019The motivation comes and goes. I was in a short relationship with a wonderful man up until three months ago, and I took a long break to just reset after that as I was tired Got the urge to meet some new people again, and I’ll do that until a strong connection forms with someone; or the desire fades away and I just want more alone time again Agreed about the insight into the male psyche, but it batters you down to have to deal with so many weirdos and sift through them all | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:56 PM |
| 9 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Not sleeping with anyone, never outside of a committed relationship and I tell everyone that up front or ASAP when the conversation comes up. If I was at the point where one person stepped forward and wanted to make things official, everyone else would get the ‘goodbye and thank you for your company’ talk This is just the getting to know someone stage of dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:53 PM |
| 13 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻I wasn’t even surprised by that point, it all had to lead to married fuckboy in the end lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:49 PM |
| 30 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻First reaction: *ooooh hottie! * Read bio: *ohhhhh no * Read survey mismatches: *oh no no no no trash fire person alert * 🚨 🚨 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:48 PM |
| 14 | OLD profile of the week: pickmeishas - just because they will marry you, doesn’t mean they are a catch 👌🏻Just my cropping to get it all in the collage I’m afraid https://i.imgur.com/pydvmYR.jpg | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:46 PM |
| 3 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Ken’s definitely in hospital, he’s sent me photos of the surgery progress (I work in healthcare so I’ve provided a little advice). I normally avoid project-men but it’s an extraordinary circumstance in his case so I’ve given a little bit of leeway. He had invited me to come to the hospital to visit but I very politely let him know that was a bit outside of my comfort levels for a first meeting. And Cameron update being prepared as we speak; four dates this week eek 😅 I’ve very much over booked m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:45 PM |
| 2 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Oh he’s long gone now, the trash took himself out on that one. Total crickets and tumbleweeds after that date 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:27 PM |
| 2 | Sisters, why do you keep LVMs and fuckboys around in any manner?All of these examples just make me question why women sleep with men they don’t even like? Like you knew he was a fuck boy or better as a friend, why not just get cosy in bed and get out your favourite toy and get a guaranteed orgasm and not have the drama? Men have to earn the keys to the castle. Stop fucking then if they aren’t worth it. I don’t care how hot they are or how hide them seem or how much they plead for it. Don’t have sex with them until it’s worth it for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:15 PM |
| 5 | OLD Red Flags #2: Pics that don't make sense & flipping off pics.100% married; though I have to wonder how much success they get with it people actually swiping on these pics? Single or not; I’m not physically or emotionally attracted to a barcode sorry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 12:08 PM |
| 4 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Young at heart and a face filled with deep lines of wear and tear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:40 AM |
| 37 | If they don’t compensate you, they don’t get your attention.I feel fucking embarrassed on his behalf - he organised a date with you, he knew you were going to meet him, put your side of the effort in. He knew you were going to dress up, put your best self forward... and he turned up like THAT? What a fucking twit. He’s either stupid, naive, or has some real big dick energy going on. Sorry he wasted your time 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 11:37 AM |
| 9 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019I mean, why lie? Lots of people are looking for people in whatever age range you are in - why not let them find you? It’s insecurity and it’s unappealing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 10:15 AM |
| 11 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019And he wasn’t even ‘young at heart’! He was so morose about social life in general it was a tedious date at best 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 10:10 AM |
| 5 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019I’m glad it gave you something you needed right now 🙂 I have had a habit of overthinking it all getting and overwhelmed too in past so I feel like I know what you mean about freezing up! Through my career I have had training in counselling and clinical consulting skills so I’m at the point that I almost treat every date as a piece of research and it’s made me much more analytical and detached 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 10:08 AM |
| 2 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019I can send Richard up! He’s extremely lovely, such a gentleman and very friendly. Has his own house and car and very passionate about his work. Great relationships with his friends and family! He’s just not my cup of tea so far :) Edit: I really can’t type tonight after a couple of wines! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 09:59 AM |
| 8 | Dating Report - W/E 1st Dec, 2019Awww I’m glad you enjoyed it 🙂 Yeah I’m too old to be sneaking in and out of men’s bedrooms like a teenager, fuck that! The other dude is a weirdo, I can accept everyone has their quirks but he was just totally anti-fun 👎🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/19 06:52 AM |
| 19 | Some men really do not realise how much male attention women get on a daily basis. This is my date's explanation why he was too pushy with getting physical and didn't respect my multiple "no"s. He really thinks complimenting a girl is enough for her to get all horny about him lol (after going dutch)Fuck I love this comment, got an actual lol out of me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 09:04 PM |
| 3 | This last line speaks to my soul after my last post 🙌🏻 I don’t have to look pretty or smile for youThat’s absolutely horrible! I’m sorry you had to endure that, it would warp your mind so badly to be under that pressure 😕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!Hah love the tactics they take, backtrack or really knuckle down to try to rattle you. Fuckers! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 09:46 AM |
| 3 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!If it’s anything like my experiences they’ve so far looked embarrassed/shocked that I would say anything at all and backed off | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:32 AM |
| 1 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!I was pissssssed! And you can saying anything really, I was just venting and that’s what came out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:31 AM |
| 21 | This last line speaks to my soul after my last post 🙌🏻 I don’t have to look pretty or smile for youIt’s the only reason you need 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:23 AM |
| 18 | This last line speaks to my soul after my last post 🙌🏻 I don’t have to look pretty or smile for youThis would leave me paralytic pretty quickly lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:19 AM |
| 9 | This last line speaks to my soul after my last post 🙌🏻 I don’t have to look pretty or smile for youMy pleasure, we only preen for our own self worth! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/19 03:19 AM |
| 41 | How to get rid of low effort males 😂Lady Liberty liberating herself of fuckboys and LVM - You go girl! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 09:08 PM |
| 9 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!It’s like we have to be meek and warm and friendly 24/7, but smiling is not my default setting I’m sorry, especially if I’m focusing on something (like work). We’re not little stepford wives made for their enjoyment. It’s something so mild in terms of the catcalling I’ve experience, but it enraged me more that day than other things that have been called out to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:44 PM |
| 9 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!That’s it, who are you to deserve a smile from me? Friends and family and friendly customers get to see this dazzler, not you mate. And that’s so rude! She’s there to do a very important job, not to entertain people argh 😖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:42 PM |
| 5 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!Sorry you have gotten this kind of attention too, it makes my blood boil so much that I don’t think I’ll be quiet about it ever again now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:37 PM |
| 14 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!Maybe I’ll start commenting on all the men I see ‘Why don’t you go the gym?’ ‘Pulling your pants up would make you more attractive!’ ‘Stop leering at me, it’s creepy’ And that’s very creepy of the coworker; it reminds me that we’ve recently stopped wearing uniform at work and it’s neat casual now so I’ve been having fun dressing up. But it’s for ME and while I get some lovely compliments from women coworkers and customers, it’s always the guys that have to be weird about it with some of the comm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:36 PM |
| 7 | Take your ‘smiling’ catcalls and shove it!I don’t know if it made me feel better, I’m still angry now when I think about it, but I just couldn’t ignore it that day as my filter was all worn down. Who does he think that’s he’s entitled to say that to me, or entitled to my smile? As for work I go the opposite route and I’m extra nice and polite and ask condescending and clarifying questions back at the nasty ones until they feel bad and apologise in front of other people their behaviour finally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/19 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arseIt’s a food date, we’re having lunch together on Sunday at a cafe in my area | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arseBesides the fact that he’s obvious to the existence of cafes, there’s a lot of common interests around art and creative hobbies that we’ve been connecting over. He’s been slow to want to meet up in general, and he’s displayed saposexual tendencies in how he talks about approaching relationships. I don’t think it’ll be a disaster but I am wondering how our texting and phone chats will translate to an in person connection as I prefer a man who can take charge and don’t see it here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 06:49 PM |
| 18 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arseAnd it will probably also be my local haunt, making it super uncomfortable when I chat to the waiters who know me really well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 11:11 AM |
| 37 | I’m dead 😵F And block lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 10:55 AM |
| 39 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arsePrevious to this screenshot this guy had suggested going for ‘a walk’ as a first date and I corrected that I go for a walk with my dogs and we would be going out for a meal if he wants to take me out. So I’ve so far communicated two standards and I’m now fully done nudging this person along. Happy to report that after this convo he’s sent a couple of messages to set up concrete plans. We have a date, a time and he’s actually called the place to make a booking 👍🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 10:40 AM |
| 8 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arseSame, just crickets and tumbleweeds for them sometimes as I unmatch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 10:37 AM |
| 32 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arseOh this made me ugly, snort laugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 09:40 AM |
| 19 | Communicating standards - light a 🔥 under his arseHehehe that’s the thing with emojis, a couple can be cute and fun, too many and it turns into emojis are my personality-ville He’s harmless though, just not enjoying his lack of planning capabilities hmmmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/19 09:22 AM |
| 3 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)It crossed my mind, but eh, effort lol 😆 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/19 03:27 AM |
| 7 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)I’d probably say she’s not having sex with him and so he’s out there trying to get some strange because she’s wizened up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:06 PM |
| 6 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)They are just so oblivious to how they actually look and come across it blows my mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:05 PM |
| 3 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Hahaha 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 6 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)I get Rasputin vibes haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 24 | Added “values” to my profile. Where’d all the men go? 🤔They never keep it up for long though, the desire to out themselves overcomes all else Whether it’s a cheeky sex joke, or a comment about another woman they’ve seen, or talking about a crazy ex. They always find a way to let you know they are a dirtbag; and we’re always listening 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 41 | Added “values” to my profile. Where’d all the men go? 🤔I’d be so grateful for all those messages haha , like ‘thank you so much for showing me upfront who to block immediately so I don’t waste my time’ 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 07:48 PM |
| 21 | Added “values” to my profile. Where’d all the men go? 🤔You’re just giving the dating app algororithms a helping hand 🙂 it can never get it right so now your bio will sweep all the LVM into oblivion where they belong! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 07:46 PM |
| 75 | The shit 'nice guys' pull when you tell them you only value you them as a friendWah wah wah, woe is me; this is so incredibly painful and cringe to read 😬 I never understand how they can actually type this out and press send without reconsidering somewhere in the process about how desperate and manipulative it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 07:43 PM |
| 22 | Disrespect me and eat aloneThree hours later! And he actually expected you to want to see him? Sorry buddy, in my eyes you turn into a giant pumpkin after you’re 15min late and then I’m going to go back to my daily routine | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:13 PM |
| 6 | For those of us dealing with stuff we can't talk aboutBeautiful, thank you for posting. Gave me goosebumps just reading it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:06 PM |
| 3 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)OKCupid | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:04 PM |
| 17 | Had a date yesterdayYou might not have any qualms about asking first, but wouldn’t you prefer he enthusiastically ask to see you again? Text him the pleasantries of letting him know you had a great time and let him come and ask you out again. No need to play games, but let yourself be a little detached and get out of your head a little and let it happen organically. No need to push it along | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 02:02 PM |
| 6 | I royally cucked myself (how to recover)?Edit: I noticed from another comment of yours that he has paid every date so far, my sincere apologies, the wording in your post made it sound like he was saying HE should pay next time, not you. That changes the story quite a bit and you’re fine I think. Definitely need to work more on getting concrete plans though as that stuff would annoy the crap out of me. I’ve left my original comment below, even though it was based on my comprehension mistake, but you might still take something away from … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:41 PM |
| 1 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?Agreed - no plan, no date You need to know the when, the where, the what well in advance. No plan is not a plan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:27 PM |
| 1 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?Saying ‘lol’ is not a sense of humour, and I’m not offended but people are trying to engage with you and I feel like your replies aren’t really adding to your discussion topic What was your purpose in asking the original question? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 01:25 PM |
| 5 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)As much as I like bitching about this stuff, I know it doesn’t serve me. I think it comes in waves, in the moment I feel so infuriated that I save it like a lesson to myself of what I will not put up with. Like it’s so incredulous that I need to preserve the moment to prove it existed. Eventually I come across it later and just swipe into the trash as the lesson has already been ingrained like five minutes after I’ve been triggered lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 09:39 AM |
| 11 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Haha thank you, that’s gold and you’re awesome 🙂 Oh god there are so many men that use their bio just to rag on about women and ‘hating drama’. Pot, kettle, black, mate. I’ve saved so many shitty bios in my phone because of the rage they induce in me and I then have to show other people when someone questions why I’m not dating anyone atm lol. Your last paragraph reminds me that I should post about the only-in-profile bio photo dude I just fobbed off as he tried to fatfish me by being cagey abou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 09:24 AM |
| 19 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Love that line! So blunt and so totally justified, love love love | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 09:08 AM |
| 38 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Oh oh oh, I forgot, In his survey questions he’s ‘never gotten an STD test’ errrrrgh I feel like these profiles can’t possibly work, as it is I already trash any profiles that state ‘hookups’ it ‘open to non-monogamy’ in sight, and at least 50% of those dudes ARE attractive so they are probably having some response out there. But if you’re out of shape, unattractive AND all you have to offer is free dick, then you had better sell it to me as some kind of magical party penis or wtf are you doing … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:53 AM |
| 22 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Beard, hair, expression, what I’m assuming is a very out of shape body, his very obvious lack of respect for his partner | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 08:47 AM |
| 14 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Surprise surprise haha Oh I also reported him for having a fake name on his profile lol 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 07:53 AM |
| 41 | If you’re looking for hookups, you should at least look fuckable (and not be a POS cheater)Stupid, as well as anti-abortion, anti-feminist and a massive porn user going by his survey answers. This is the profile that has led me to delete OKCUpid again as their stupid algorithm keeps recommending absolute dickheads to me that have nothing to do with my set preferences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 07:50 AM |
| 8 | What to do if guy shows up unprepared?OP your* (stupid autocorrect) answers are all ‘lol” remarks at real and thoughtful comments people are replying to give you insight. I’m guessing you’re either very young or very much a troll and I feel like you’re wasting everyone’s time here as you’re not really engaging or adding back to the conversation. Do you actually want useful answers here? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 06:45 AM |
| 104 | Disrespect me and eat aloneI feel like they do this to gauge how long exactly will we wait, incrementally based on how desperate we must need their attention - how interested in me is she that I can get away with wasting her time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/19 05:33 AM |
| 3 | Let’s dissect what “pick me” actually meansI hear what you’re saying, and I agree that I’ve seen it here as well. I think your approach is the best one. Take what you need from the content and I think it’s sincerely amazing that you’ve been able to add the voice to the discussion as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 09:04 AM |
| 6 | Let’s dissect what “pick me” actually meansIt might just be that this sub isn’t the right fit for your then, and there is nothing wrong with that, plenty of places on reddit where I don’t fit in too. We are all at different stages in our empowerment journey and I’ve definitely feel like I’ve been in your shoes before on sensing I’m on the outside of the discussion too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 01:11 AM |
| 8 | Let’s dissect what “pick me” actually meansThis is a lot of writing to say ‘A Pick Me is a woman who panders for attention and breadcrumbs from a man/men to the exclusion of utilising their own personal power in dating’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/19 12:24 AM |
| 9 | When a pornsick loser encounters the reality of women's bodies: AITA for deciding to ban my boyfriend from the delivery room after finding out him and his brother were placing bets on my labor and delivery?This is why you don’t have babies with someone you hooked up with randomly 😬 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:01 AM |
| 2 | Saw this shirt. Thought of us. Anything you’d add to the end? (I like how it says “Thankful” at the end of the description!)I’d add a transfer of the plenty of fish in the sea meme on the back so I can direct people to the reasons I’m not married every time they ask me 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 07:42 AM |
| 57 | This Guy Made A "Wife Test" For His Girlfriend And It Didn't Turned Up As PlannedShe got one look at his grotty feral home and tightly wrote him off as the man child and not remotely husband material at all. If fact if she was wife material she would pull you up for your filthy living conditions and tell you it wasn’t up to scratch Who the fuck would go to a man’s house and clean? Idgaf about his dishes and I sure as hell aren’t going to go hunting for his cleaning supplies 🚫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/19 07:35 AM |
| 8 | Men dont want woman who are older than 30Amen sister, so very true | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:28 PM |
| 39 | Men dont want woman who are older than 30I’m 36 and I never have issues with men vying for my time, my issue is finding anyone worth of it with my high standards 💁🏻♀️ Instagram is a cesspit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 09:22 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on only counting men who've given you an orgasm toward your n-countHahaha I’m down to 2 then. I love this post so much 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 09:11 PM |
| 3 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I should say that putting it straight into your bio is a fantastic way of getting comfortable with stating your boundaries. Now there’s always the guy who tells me ‘oh I didn’t read your bio’, and it becomes evident allll the time when he’s asking questions on stuff I’ve covered extensively in my bio and survey questions. Well he’s just outed himself as a LVM if he swiped me just on looks and didn’t even use his basic comprehension skills to learn anything about me so he gets Nexted and goodbye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:55 PM |
| 8 | Pick me logic through the roofHe (or she now) sounds like they have no idea what they want or what they are doing so they are using other people to try and work out their broken internal processes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:38 PM |
| 1 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Already on there 👌🏻 ‘Looking for a serious relationship only’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:37 PM |
| 14 | Bad dating coaches and terrible mainstream dating adviceNo the men just need loving and for us to open our heart centres and let them in, that’s all they want so just give it to them and we’ll all be happy and roses and birds singing and rainbows 🌈 😃 💐 They all in one way or another focus on ‘getting the man’, or ‘getting your ex back’ and it’s very destructive to a susceptible person. Someone who might really need to level up and actually look after themselves but instead point all that energy in ‘getting’ something from another person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:14 PM |
| 4 | Bad dating coaches and terrible mainstream dating adviceBut then they can sell you more coaching to heal your broken heart! They are looking out for you, sister! Argh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:11 PM |
| 4 | Just letting ya'll know that I walk the walk :). ONE of my 70+ messages in my inbox. All of them wait to hear from me, and FDS works. FYI "Yesterday" is Nov 18. He's waiting 10 days for a reply, and he's a 10/10 sexy dude. DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN AND MAKE THEM WORK FOR IT!!!!Fucking preach 🙌🏻 if they aren’t fighting for it, then they aren’t a contender, they aren’t even on your fucking radar | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:09 PM |
| 51 | Pick me logic through the roofYour man should have eyes only for you, or he’s not your man and you toss him to the curb 🙌🏻 When I was younger a bf said to me ‘but men are visual creatures’ so I loudly called him a creature in public every time he eye checked someone around me 😂 the behaviour (and the boyfriend) didn’t last very long | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:07 PM |
| 19 | Bad dating coaches and terrible mainstream dating adviceI had this video come up on auto play by Helena Hart and Adrienne Everheart the other day while I was doing some house chores and it was a mixed bag in terms of the content. They talked a lot about having firm boundaries and knowing your worth, how women do the emotional labour for men, yes yes good good yes yes. Then they started talking about submitting to your man and allowing yourself to let him be in charge by connecting to his heart and it was all just a pile of flowery rubbish. There was … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:46 PM |
| 9 | Just letting ya'll know that I walk the walk :). ONE of my 70+ messages in my inbox. All of them wait to hear from me, and FDS works. FYI "Yesterday" is Nov 18. He's waiting 10 days for a reply, and he's a 10/10 sexy dude. DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN AND MAKE THEM WORK FOR IT!!!!Perfect approach 👌🏻’hi’ ‘hey’ ‘morning’ and ‘how are you’ is not a sign of conversational skill, they are just breadcrumbing attention and looking for your validation but have nothing else to say | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:32 PM |
| 6 | It would be more impressive if he weren’t such a looker, but I’m honing my FDS craft.Oh I hope he chooses meeeeee!!! 🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️🙋🏻♀️ I’ve noped out on several guys after seeing how he lives. Gross house = gross person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:24 PM |
| 2 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.“But what about my needs??” allllll the time. Yes sex is part of it in a relationship, but if they stopped watching porn they might actually enjoy real touch/intimacy in a healthy way. Instead they actively ask for the above acts you mentioned, but not even from a gf/wife. Men will ask complete strangers (like me) if they do those things, before even meeting. Their minds are so fucking warped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:22 PM |
| 3 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I’m in agreement with you on so many of these points, and I find that the apps are an extension of the trends happening in dating because of the internet age. It’s a case of finding a diamond in the rough, sweeping through dozens of people to find one genuine man who isn’t caught up in the porn-centric dating view thinking he’s gods gift to women and we should be chasing and worshipping his dick simply because it exists. The internet and dating apps have allowed the very unhinged and depraved ac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 05:17 PM |
| 14 | It would be more impressive if he weren’t such a looker, but I’m honing my FDS craft.You just know that if you ever made it to the point in a relationship of visiting that bedroom it would look and smell as good as you imagine 👌🏻 suiting their personality to a tee | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:46 AM |
| 13 | Should you feel sparks on a first date?I’m not so much looking for sparks as I am looking for an easy flow of conversation, discovering a compatibility of values and a general feeling of ease and comfort. Sparks might mean he’s hot and strong sexual attraction is there, but it’s not explicitly what I’m looking for at the start. I find I need a few dates to feel out the situation and then that flutter or ‘sparks’ starts to build and my interest and excitement grows and grows. This person is a stranger don’t forget, and attraction can … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:42 AM |
| 21 | It would be more impressive if he weren’t such a looker, but I’m honing my FDS craft.Hard pass, Jason. NEXT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:30 AM |
| 320 | Pick me logic through the roof‘I’m such a cool girl, I’m super fine with encouraging my man to behave like a perve, creeping on other chicks. Who needs self esteem or respect from my partner? Not me!’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 11:28 AM |
| 5 | Another silly girl contributing to free emotional labour for a man child.Yep I’ve seen it happen over and over and over to friends and family. Same story just replaying for eternity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:33 AM |
| 5 | Another “My Boyfriend is amazing but doesn’t give a shit if I orgasm” postI hate that if men have trouble cumming the woman will do everything possible to help him through it and improve his orgasm When it comes to her orgasm though the guys are all like 🤷♂️ 🤷♂️ 🤷♂️ 🤷♂️ 🤷♂️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 10:10 AM |
| 10 | Another silly girl contributing to free emotional labour for a man child.if you want a fixer-upper of your own, get a house, invest your money, improve it and make a nice return on it. The same does not work with fixer-upper people. That’s a time and money sink you never get good returns on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 09:38 AM |
| 14 | I bet he thought he really got me typing out this word soup. Just say you want a FWB and go.‘my freak in private’ - so you’ll give me nothing I want but I get the pleasure of being your sex toy? Fucking pass fucking yuck 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 09:11 AM |
| 3 | Sex on the first date... Never again!basically that he didn’t see a spark between us, and that he was sorry if he gave the wrong impression. I am fuming fucking angry reading what he said. No fucking spark but let you sleep with him? I want to punch his face in right now, I’m so sorry you had to go through this. There’s nothing I can say here that you don’t already realise was a mistake on your part, but he’s a total fucking tool in how he handled the situation. Block, delete, learn from it and never repeat the actions again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:47 AM |
| 4 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.👋 👋 👋 see ya, wouldn’t want to be ya 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:43 AM |
| 5 | Can we just talk about the nerve of some guys on Tinder?Holy fuck what a conceited shit head! That is the wildest message I’ve read for a long time and I’m so glad you put him in his place you star you! ⭐️ ⭐️ ⭐️ I would have been fucking fuming if I picked up my phone and saw the entitlement dripping from his words like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:15 AM |
| 4 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I’m going to have to go hard on this one too, it’s happening to frequently and makes me audibly roll my eyes and my interest dies instantly. I’ve blocked a few instantly when what they have said is just balls-to-the-wall feral. The ones who joke in the realm of sexual innuendo I pull them up and tell them It’s not on and keep an eye on how they respond to the boundary. I keep telling myself that they must be saying it because they think it’s attractive? I can’t take them serious when the convo v… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:10 AM |
| 4 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Yeah it’s so much worse, like just come out and say you want hookups. I won’t judge you if you’re honest, if that’s what you want there are plenty of women out there for you! Wording it with this double speak makes weaker people feel like it’s optimistic. He just needs to take it slow! He’s looking for a connection! (In his pants) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:05 AM |
| 6 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Must have been - and while I want to see the guy step up and invest when he takes me out - I am aware that it won’t always happen, so I always have cash on me if I need to pay. This happened the moment the cheque hit the table though, so even if I was the type of girl to offer, I didn’t even get a chance for the wallet- reach. He just jumped straight into the absurd rant about expectations to pay and timeframes of being bought things as his GF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 07:02 AM |
| 6 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Well sign me up! I love being used and emotionally abused 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:59 AM |
| 2 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Yeah he went the loooooooong way ‘round there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:58 AM |
| 8 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.He had previously told me he hasn’t been in a relationship with anyone in about a year or so, and this was his first date in months. Now I think it’ll be his last date for months with that entitled attitude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:56 AM |
| 4 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.In hindsight I could really have just hightailed it out of there with a few choice words. At the time it was all just so ridiculous that my flouncing off with the check to the bar while he was still sitting in the booth ranting away was satisfying enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:55 AM |
| 1 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.OKCupid - generally speaking I enjoy using this one the best when I get the urge for a bout of OLD disappointment (lol). The profiles are usually very detailed (if someone chooses to fill them out), and there are additional survey questions to answer that help you connect with likeminded people. It means you can very easily ‘next’ someone with no bio, no similar interests, only wanting hookups/casual. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:49 AM |
| 9 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Better get behind me, I saw this one first! /s I do love that he wants to take it slow, but he wants a super sexual woman please and thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:47 AM |
| 5 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.If he gives me grief I might post this text back to him 😉 nothing like a bit of psychoanalysis to widen the mind view 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 06:45 AM |
| 5 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.It came out of nowhere, having a great meal and easy conversation, we were getting along great. The date started to meter out so I suggested we should head off as it was getting into the uncomfortable silences. He asked for the bill and then just started whinging about what I said above. I think I laughed almost in horror at the way he worded it. Took the bill off the table and went to the bar to pay my order specifically while he trailed slowly behind me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 04:38 AM |
| 16 | Reminder: Delete, block, move on.Sums it up so succinctly - if they want you then they are already there with you. I have a recent ex where our breakup happened as he really wasn’t over the pain of the breakup with his ex-wife and therefore was honest that he wasn’t ready for the serious relationship he thought he wanted again. We parted on very good terms but I was adamant I wasn’t going to be friends with him (his suggested) and I went dark mode no contact. Two months on and I have a niggling desire to contact him intermitten… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 03:00 AM |
| 2 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I’m sorry to hear that - all I can say is keep going onwards and upwards now - let that baggage go as much as you can and remember you are a goddess and a queen 👸 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:43 AM |
| 15 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.And they all miss the point that it’s about intimacy and not strictly sex because they are too messed up to actually deal with their emotional needs in a healthy way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:41 AM |
| 6 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.This is even really tame compared to what’s guys say to me on dating apps!! Sorry 😐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:28 AM |
| 15 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Panty dropper for real /S | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:25 AM |
| 2 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.But if both parts are not willing to talk about these things, just imagine how much harder big conversations about values, goals, relationships trajectory and arguments will play out? Part of levelling up is being able to communicate clearly; you can do this! 😁 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:25 AM |
| 2 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidNot yet! But he’s been on the app so he’s seen it 😉 hasn’t unmatched with me yet though either 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:20 AM |
| 13 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I love the term word salad - I haven’t heard that one in forever!! Totally agree | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:19 AM |
| 13 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.For further context, in an early conversation I was talking about weekend clothes shopping as we have an all black uniform at work now - his comment was to ask a ‘cheeky question’ what what style and colour my favourite underwear is to wear under all that black. A man looking for a relationship and a connection shouldn’t be asking a complete stranger about her lingerie... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:18 AM |
| 23 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.My guess is freshly divorced from someone who stopped putting up with his crap and he thinks he’s going to win the breakup by getting some action | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:15 AM |
| 3 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:13 AM |
| 3 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.😉 no response yet though, and he’s seen the message haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:13 AM |
| 9 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I like to think of it as practice too! I used to find it very difficult to speak my mind and speak up in general so it’s a low risk way to do it as these people are strangers to me and I don’t care if they get annoyed 😑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:13 AM |
| 6 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Bumble isn’t one I’ve used before, but it would absolutely be my opener if I was forced to make first contact lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 09:15 PM |
| 61 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I read it as: yes please handle his man emotions carefully but feel free to get him off as often as possible. He reminds me of the last guy I went on very pleasant date with who tanked it when he unexpectedly pitched a fit when the bill came and said to me that he ‘would be happy paying for dinner when I’ve been his gf for six months, but that has to be earned’. I practically ran home to get away from him and then he proceeded to hit me up for some sexting two hours later. He was positively shoc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 09:15 PM |
| 15 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.in my experience it just becomes scaffolding for them to hang up their bouquets of bullshit I love this analogy so much! I think I’ve come along the opposite path to you, mostly because I spent so many years expecting guys would show me their truth with their actions and I was a total doormat because of it. In my mid 30’s I finally found my big-girl voice and I started to really enjoy using it and pushing back on guys. I’ll take your approach into mind too and see if find my comfortable middle g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 09:07 PM |
| 28 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.And now I can release him back into the wild, like the feral little animal he is 👐🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:56 PM |
| 69 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.Yep true wordsmith here 👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:54 PM |
| 40 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.That line about ‘explore and pleasure me’ audible sigh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:53 PM |
| 21 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.I do agree with this too, absolutely. In this example, the fact that he ignored the return serve of his question when I told him I’m looking for a relationship was very telling. I asked in plain English and he continued onto a different thread of conversation we had been involved in instantly. I still make sure to ask though, whether they react favourably to my answer or not, I like to have it verbalised to me so I know I’ve read it, heard it, processed it. They may love mystery, but I hate bull… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:51 PM |
| 30 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.It’s just so inappropriate. I figure if they are talking like that to a complete stranger then they pretty much only think with their dick 24/7 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:12 PM |
| 21 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.So true. Now he’s gotta recalibrate the getting-into-panties protocol. There is never anything lost by asking what they want, I with everyone wasn’t so scared of the question | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:11 PM |
| 35 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.No response yet, but I love to ask clarifying questions when they beat around the bush. The way I read it is first half: what they want me to hear and respond to second half: what they really want and bury it at the end as the big BUT this is what they are really after | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:04 PM |
| 72 | For all the people scared to ask ‘what are you looking for?’ - just rip off the band aid ASAP and get the truth. Get comfortable asking difficult questions and weed out incompatible suitors early.It’s not that there is anything wrong with this guy, and I appreciate him being honest (even though he ignored the return question a few days ago after he asked me what I’m after and I told him). The start of his answer is wishy washy but optimistic, but the second half is much more clear. He’d brought up sexual talk twice earlier under the guise of ‘being cheeky’ and I had shut it down. The fact that it came up a third time within this answer tells me just about everything I need to know. I cou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 08:02 PM |
| 23 | Drink Dates: Don’t Do Them if You’re Looking for a RelationshipCompletely agree with you. I’m of the mindset that if you can’t afford to actually go out and pay for the things that dating involves - it is not the right time for you to be dating. That’s the time to work on yourself and level up so then you’re actually in a position to go out and do fun things with people. I matched with a guy this week who asked if he could meet me somewhere to help me walk my dogs as a first date. I suggested dinner and he remarked that he’d prefer something more casual and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Man begins to slowly decline after breaking up with his gf. News at 11.Thank you 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 09:01 PM |
| 1 | When to add each other on social media?I don’t use social media (except for reddit) as I person find it really vapid and a time sink that I don’t need in my life. If a guy asks to add me to Instagram/Snapchat etc I have quite often found they are a creep trying to follow as many women as possible or they want nudes. Social media has obviously become a massive part of our lives and a means of interconnectedness with loved ones, but I much rather a guy who is ‘unplugged’ from it and is able to foster connections in real life with his f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Man begins to slowly decline after breaking up with his gf. News at 11.It’s only a picture, is it a cross post? Because those don’t display properly depending on what platform people are using (Apollo here). Can you post the link in comments? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 08:52 PM |
| 39 | Drink Dates: Don’t Do Them if You’re Looking for a RelationshipIt really frustrates me when they block you from ordering, one guy I met did it twice before I wisened up. We met at a pub for the first date and he said he had just eaten so I just had a single wine as we got to know each other. I was too stupid at the time to drop him after that and gave him the benefit of the doubt. However he got walked out on the second time when he dropped a story about not ordering dinner because his financial advisor told him to stop spending so much money on restaurants… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 05:03 AM |
| 17 | What do y'all think of coffee dates (for a first date)?Great way to approach it I think, make them fit it into your already busy schedule without disrupting your day. And if they want longer date they can organise something special you can both work around, because it would be more worth your time and full attention. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 05:05 AM |
| 8 | What do y'all think of coffee dates (for a first date)?I’m with you, much prefer lunch to dinner dates. Pick a cute little cafe, have lunch and a coffee or a sneaky midday wine. Have a chat, see what the conversation and chemistry and get a good look at then in good lighting lol. Then the best part is to say goodbye and flit away to enjoy the rest of my afternoon without the pressure of them suggesting to go to their house because ‘it’s late’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 05:03 AM |
| 20 | Clueless Dweeb Can’t Understand Why Women Don’t Want to Randomly See Pictures of His PenisSo casually sending a picture if a woman asks what i'm doing and i have a massive penis and say "lol laying in bed with morning wood" and send a penis picture is sexual harassment? Yes sir, yes it is. An imbecilic, massive pervert - what an A+++ package right there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/19 04:56 AM |
| 13 | Have any of you guys came across any genuinely good guys?I’ve met and dated some absolutely lovely, high value men and their presence in my life makes me truly believe even more will make themselves known to me Plenty of frogs out there mind you; makes the princes even more special to you when they appear | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:34 AM |
| 5 | Ever not super interested but go to the first date anyways cause they're offering to take you out somewhere nice? Waste of time or free night out/open to possibilities?I call it off if I’m not feeling it, I don’t want to drag someone through a date I’m not interested in and I’d rather spend the time alone if I’m needing that space | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:26 AM |
| 7 | Book report: how to win friends and influence peopleFantastic no-fluff recap of this classic self-help book, thank you sharing 😊 look forward to the next part! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 10:17 AM |
| 2 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidI hear what you’re saying there, it sounds like we‘ve been through some similar stuff. In all honesty I go through waves where I am really very, truly happy to be on my own for forever if that’s how it ends up being. I love my own company and I try to treat myself really well so I really won’t put up with shit from guys anymore. If that magical prince does come I will be so ready and so happy, but I won’t accept the toads in his stead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 06:05 AM |
| 4 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidAbsolutely agree, I really value my downtime so I only want to spend it with people I know I’ll enjoy myself around | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 06:02 AM |
| 3 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidOh I LOVE bold and confident, however this message was neither of those things. I feel like it was really half-arsed, impersonal and it wasn’t even decisive, like he wasn’t sure anyway. I’d rather talk to them on the phone than a short coffee date too, I can do the small talk on the phone and see if I want to see them in person, but that’s just my personal approach as I’m an introvert and I don’t want to use my social energy on someone I won’t get along with | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 05:53 AM |
| 3 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidHow many times do you have to repeat your standards until it’s a waste of breath? I’ll communicate it once, maybe twice and if it’s not respected then I usually expect they won’t respect me in general and it’s time to move on. I think what you have to remember are that these people are strangers in the early stages of dating and I don’t really care about blocking and deleting them as they don’t mean anything to me until a connection is made. If they don’t what to do their part to make a connecti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 03:35 AM |
| 5 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidBoooooring! Super red flag LVM | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 03:33 AM |
| 3 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidI’m not opposed to blocking someone though, I’m quite adept at the good old block ‘n’ delete, in this instance he hadn’t pissed me off so I was happy to leave a polite message to give my stance To juxtapose I had a lovely gentlemen tell me I am really gorgeous and he would love to take me on a date (awww) we had a phone convo and chatted and he was very keen to plan a cute dinner and drinks date (yessssss), then he proceeded to tank it by asking me if I like anal (ahhhhh whaaaat?) and then telli… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 03:27 AM |
| 2 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidIt’s not that I went out of my way to teach him, I just communicated what my standards are - I need to get to know you more and i only do real dates. I didn’t tell him ‘you’re wrong and you can’t ask people out like this!!!’ because that’s not my job in life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:52 AM |
| 11 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidYeah that one I’m going to stew on a bit before I consider replying, I don’t really have any questions to ask him currently as he’s given me nothing to work with lol 🤷🏻♀️ It’s like, *here I am, woman, entertain me * | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:48 AM |
| 2 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidI’m always willing to give someone a chance to better their behaviour - it’s up to them if they take that cue and step up really. Hence why I stated my standard in a way that invites him to accept it. Mind you, if someone is being repulsive, or overtly sexual to me off the bat I would block and delete as that’s not going to improve | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:46 AM |
| 10 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidVery, very consciously | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:43 AM |
| 11 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidI’ve found a lot of yo ur experience to be extremely true too - I think I’ve seen two main patterns that end up occurring want to meet straight away then: fuck immediately, be exclusive and catering to their every need immediately OR meet immediately, fuck immediately and then ghost. I want no part of either of these situations! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:43 AM |
| 8 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidIt’s so true! I’m keen to do something in person if I feel like there is potential there, but I don’t want to meet someone I haven’t spent time talking to and getting to know first And that’s so poor of him, he could have at least shown some enthusiasm and made it sound like it would be an interesting experience 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:39 AM |
| 4 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidExactly what I was thinking, all the more annoying as he had a very detailed profile and I actually took the time to read it and judge if there was some level of compatibility there | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:36 AM |
| 3 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupid😂 can’t agree strongly enough! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:32 AM |
| 11 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidAaaaand we have the reply message, but still not feeling impressed here. Putting the onus on me to ask him the questions but still no effort to actually make conversation with me 👎🏻 big old meh reply | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/19 02:29 AM |
| 10 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidI’ll keep us all posted 😉 it usually goes one of two ways, that’s for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:41 PM |
| 8 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidThanks 🙌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:11 PM |
| 28 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidThank you 😊 I used to pander and agree to these requests, but I don’t have time for random coffee meetup. I want the real deal and I’ll ask for it these days👌🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:11 PM |
| 61 | My most recent example of a low effort date offer right after matching on OKCupidIt’s a short opening message but there’s a bit to unpack here: This looks like a copypasta message he sends to multiple people - ‘Hey’ and no mention or comment about my profile, which extensively covers who I am and what I’m looking for. He knows nothing about me, except from that profile and my photos, so how could he know he wants a ‘date’ without talking to me yet? Very low effort date suggestion as coffee or something’ - he doesn’t even know if he wants anything - or when - ‘in the near fut… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:05 PM |
| 21 | At least he is showing his fuck it move immediately LOL‘Just wanted to take it easy tonight’ - cool, go booty call yourself then and stop being a deadbeat These guys and their ‘come here and entertain me’ attitudes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 08:17 AM |
| 14 | "My (21 F) boyfriend (28 M) doesn’t like to wear deodorant or brush his teeth regularly. Advice?"Why the fuck is she complaining now? She enabled this to get worse by choosing to accept his poor hygiene in the first place. She expressed that good hygiene is important? Then stop being with this deadbeat, disgusting slob. The original post made me gag eerrrgg now I feel I need a shower Edit: I can’t type properly on my phone argh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:13 AM |
| 8 | YikesSo he wanted a photo of his dick IN the photo with her, to beat his dick to? Why not cut out the middle man and just take a photo of his own junk and leave her out of it. That man needs sex addiction counselling or something, that’s some extreme dopamine chasing going on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:07 AM |
| 10 | Following someone first on Instagram?Everyone on Instagram ‘looks’ attractive and successful - but it’s also a cesspit of incredibly valid and insecure people posting their highly curated lives for validation. What you see is not what you get. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 07:02 AM |
| 31 | Friendly reminderI was a chatting to a guy I met through friends the other day and he wanted to ask me a ‘hard question’ - how and who I vote for in elections - before we worked out if we wanted to go on a date and get to know each other more. No big deal, I’m open with my politics and we matched in views so it was totally fine. Next came my ‘big question’ - for him to tell me about his porn habits or what type of porn he enjoys 👌🏻 I just get the question done and out of the way these days, gauging both their an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/19 02:33 AM |
| 3 | FDS Discussion: How are you working on yourself?Started journalling again and taking daily time for introspection - I’m prone to morning anxiety if I haven’t slept well and this is greatly helping to empty my mind of junk Stepping up the gym program as it gets into summer - going for my self awarded ‘fittest and hottest body ever’ for another year. Joined Meetup and added myself to some fun groups around my local area for group dinner dates and exploring with local hiking clubs Took advantage of the new no-uniform policy at work and bought lo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/19 08:59 AM |
| 3 | How do I let the man know I would like him to pay for the date he asked me on?I tell men, “I don’t really do drinks dates, I don’t think that’s a good way to get to know each other.” Perfection 👌🏻 I had a guy recently who asked me out and when I inquired where he was taking me out he came back with the suggestion of ‘grabbing a drink’ on a Thursday night. I responded that I don’t do drink dates, as dinner allows us more relaxed manner and greater amount of time to get to know each other and connect over a good meal. I don’t make a habit of having alcohol on a first date i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 07:45 AM |
| 9 | How far do you go with men before exclusivity/defining the relationship?My absolute pleasure - the short of it is never do anything you don’t feel comfortable with. It’s your body after all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 07:26 AM |
| 21 | How far do you go with men before exclusivity/defining the relationship?I’m comfortable with physical affection - kissing/hand holding - after a few dates when I start to feel a connection. Anything before that will be a polite hug and goodbye if it feels right. I only meet men who know that I am looking for something serious before we even get to the date. As soon as any talk or joking about sex or sexual innuendo comes up I tell guys upfront that I need to get to know them first before I am comfortable with that. I don’t really have a time limit on sexual intercou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 07:09 AM |
| 11 | Do NOT date...The IT guys also tend to have very disturbing porn habits and from my experience brag about how much work time they can use to browse porn or to whack off while they are ‘working at home’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/19 02:10 AM |
| 18 | Too Good Not To Share 😂Omg that caricature is so freaking disgusting yet also oh so apt 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/19 01:24 AM |
| 24 | Rant: Stop making excuses for dusty ass losersIt’s so true! Stop putting someone first in your list of life priorities when you’re not even on the docket for them at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/19 04:31 AM |
| 5 | Don't settle for a man who sells himself short. Don't be a woman who sells herself short.It’s true! I wouldn’t consider any of that real effort on their side, and who wants to be an afterthought or a boredom-fixer. Cut that shit loose | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/19 01:36 AM |
| 13 | How do I deal with men who want to spend too much of their time with me? As much as I want to spend time with my boyfriend, I feel that he is too clingy and doesn't give me enough privacy.Instigate firm boundaries - you are now only free at ‘these’ times for ‘this type of contact’. You have your own full, rich life and you are only available for x amount of time to spend together. Is the contact he wants more in person or when you’re not together (phone, texting etc). Because whether way you’re going to have to verbalise your needs and set and enforce limits that make you comfortable. It might seem mean, but it’s going to make you feel like you can breathe and have your own space… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/19 12:12 PM |
| 2 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!So frustrating! I feel so annoyed on your behalf right now :( | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 11:01 AM |
| 1 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!It’s just totally a waste of your time and effort, right? Completely disrespectful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/19 12:04 AM |
| 1 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!Completely agree, my time and needs are valuable. I’m no ones last minute thought 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 07:25 PM |
| 3 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!That last sentence really couldn’t be more true - people will always show you who they are with their words. We just really have to listen when they tell you upfront and decide if we like it or not. In this case, I do not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 07:24 PM |
| 3 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!Yeah I don’t need a flaky texting pen pal. I’m ready to spend time in person when they make plans, and continue to invest in each other if something develops | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 11:27 AM |
| 2 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!Haha and even then it would be like a r/ChoosingBeggars situation I feel like I’ve just done a self burn there now too haha 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 08:29 AM |
| 6 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!Glad it’s not just me, I find it so unattractive if people can’t make a decision or organise their lives properly - when it’s also including me in the mix it’s just a head fuck | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 08:05 AM |
| 9 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!That approach might work on some people, but I’m certainly not going to push it along making all the decisions for him 😜 I’m not expecting the world, just a little bit of effort to suggest he has his shit together I offer up the day or the time I am available - didn’t go anywhere so I give up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 08:04 AM |
| 3 | He won’t set and stick to a plan!Completely agree with you, as lovely a a person as he is it’ll just leave me frustrated if it keeps going on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/19 05:48 AM |
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