Dating w/o alcohol

redhawkes · 2018-12-01T22:02:52+00:00

Stop using alcohol as a crutch. Go out and have fun, do some other activity instead.

Also, chicks use 'lets drink together' as a plausible deniability for a hookup.

gregoire_ · 2018-12-01T22:01:36+00:00

You’re overthinking it. Alcohol is a major crutch. Just have fun without being drunk.

ElegantCyclist · 2018-12-01T22:16:11+00:00

Nash: http://daysofgame.com does it. Search his blog for "alcohol" and "drinking." Or ask him directly about it.

renateco · 2018-12-01T22:17:11+00:00

Own it. If you don't drink just hold your frame. Also there are a lot of options in dating that don't include drinking. It's only an issue if you take it like an issue.

Ansec · 2018-12-02T06:26:42+00:00

It's not hard. Go do things that don't involve alcohol. There is a massive list of things you could do. Just get creative. If you suck at social interactions without alcohol, I'd suggest doing more social things and talk to people for practice. Go to meetups.

shinywhitedarkness · 2018-12-02T13:31:30+00:00

I stopped drinking alcohol for a whole year when I was 19.I really drank a lot, sometimes every day of the week.

I learned how to party sober, how to have fun without any substance abuse and that you're in control of any situation. Conversations are way better and sometimes you meet girls that don't drink either and sometimes that's a plus for them, seeing that you can have fun like that.

After that year passed, I didn't start drinking again. I rarely drink now and believe me, having no hangovers makes your life a little bit better.

Best way to explain is to simply tell them the truth. That you don't need alcohol to have fun.

When people that aren't important ask why you don't drink (in social setting) then just tell them something like, I have to drive or you've got to work tomorrow. There's nothing I hate more than having to explain my decision to stop drinking to 10 different people in one evening.

DorkAssKid · 2018-12-01T21:59:11+00:00

Find a circle of friends and eventually you'll get introduced to new people. You could also cold approach girls during the day if you don't have any friends though.

SirKolbath · 2018-12-01T22:04:39+00:00

There’s no need to reframe anything. Just start ordering something different. If anyone asks, tell them you don’t feel like it.

Aralant · 2018-12-01T22:05:19+00:00

Drinking isn't the problem, being drunk is. If you openly refuse to drink you'll be seen as a bore or a prude.

Learn to give the illusion of being slightly drunk while being entirely conscious in your own head.

That turns drinking from a disadvantage into an advantage.

Blakrov · 2018-12-02T21:57:45+00:00

I went out to my local last night for the first time without drinking. For someone with a dependance on alcohol, was surprisingly easy, just made conversation. Just went with it, eventually got asked over by friend of a HB7 to introduce myself, ended up making out with her in my car, but didn't pull because I'm a pussy.

Just go out, drink soda or non alco beer, and have a good time. I live in a country where you only not drink if you're on antibiotics or sick, and was surprised how nobody actually really cared. Was handy also to be able to drive home for once.

Title	Dating w/o alcohol
Author	warlordchad
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	December 1, 2018 9:56 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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