I frequently see 80/20 rule being mentioned in threads

Would like to know what to expect if i'm unable to break into the top 20 percent of men (due to being really ugly and 5''7), because from what i've inferred from responses, i get the impression that if you are not in the top 20 percent,you are basically invisible.

Now,i would like to clarify that I'm not trying to seek validation for myself to stop focusing on being a better version of myself( I've been lifting consistently for the past 5 months, taking care of my skin,talking to random people i come across just to have a good time, when it seems appropriate) , I understand that even if i'm not doing these things to get laid, people will have a better perception of me because i look better and am more sociable/outgoing.

I get that i shouldn't make women my goal in life,but the dread that i'll stay a virgin and not get any action is really debilitating to my mental state.

I keep trying to remind myself to take pride in the fact that i'm being a better version of myself with each day (becoming more sociable, more yoked), but the dread that I won't be sexually desired even after i become the best version of myself keeps haunting me ( due to my looks and height).

Let's say that my limit is the top 40 percent of men

So, should i just lower my standards?does that even work because HB5's think they're HB8's due to instagram? ( I'm 20 and pretty much all the girls my age use instagram)

will flirting ( push/pull,negging) seem out of place/ creepy because i'm low smv? Will they expect me to 'know my place' and not even bother hitting on them?

will i ever be able to spin plates and get an abundance mentality? i'm under the impression that your smv needs to be much higher than a girl for her to accept that you're fucking other girls.

what else should i expect from being in the top 40 percent of men?

I apologize if this thread seems really blackpill/incel ( it probably is).I'm not afraid to put in the work, i'm just worried that I won't be able to have a fufilling sex life( being able to have plates) even after all my efforts.