GF of 4 years broke up and wants to be friends until I get my mental issues sorted. Need some advice.

alphakari · 2020-06-16T06:58:59+00:00

Yes.

Staying with the bitch will just remind you of mistakes you made and make you stagnate.

Also girls just want that so that they can ween themselves off of you without their weak ass frame being shook. It's an in-between point for transitioning to another cock, assuming she's not already bouncing on a new one. Also might just be to give her time to get promoted from plate to gf without feeling adrift.

agoodcrayon · 2020-06-16T07:07:51+00:00

You sure you have mental issues and she didn’t just diagnose you to save herself?

Majority of women don’t take any responsibility for failed relationships amongst other things in their lives. It’s always someone else’s fault.

She even put the “lets be friends” in this unwritten contract agreement just so there’s no anger involved lmao.

To me, it seems like she’s been waiting for the perfect moment to leave and this was it but you didn’t provide more details.

They’ll gaslight you and use other manipulative tactics until you’re broken down.

Seems like you weren’t on top of your game. Time to rebuild yourself.

If I were you (because I went through this similar situation), I would not rationalize what went wrong or create other theories as to why this happened or how it happened. You’ll spiral down into darkness.

Just tell yourself it is what it is. Start moving on. You always have to keep moving forward. Go no contact unless she reaches out first (very small chance she will). It doesn’t even matter if it’s salvageable. She may come back in 3 months but most likely she won’t.

Save yourself time and stress and start working on yourself. Don’t let this paralyze you.

MindlessCalendar · 2020-06-16T07:10:59+00:00

Sidebar. Block her and don't look back.

drevenx13 · 2020-06-16T07:16:56+00:00

Seems like she is having some superior sausage elsewhere bro. Sorry. Women usually don’t pull out these kind of moves if they didn’t have a safety exit prepared.

MisterRoid · 2020-06-16T08:45:51+00:00

At first I thought she was accusing you of being controlling/angry or some bullshit like that, but feeling anxiety for any reason is a serious mental problem and needs to be addressed. How bad is it?

As for the relationship, it is over. She has lost attraction and trying to fix it will decrease your chances even further. Only way to get her back is to get a new girl and make her jealous. Still, she will probably always see you as a beta bitch for having anxiety problems, so better to focus on a new girl where you can be alpha from day one.

ay-fuh-q · 2020-06-16T12:35:45+00:00

So basically my gf of 4 years told me she was unhappy in our relationship.

Highly likely, by this point, she's already landed (or fucked) the other guy. Yes, there is one.

I then recently found out I had mental issues that caused her unhappiness and I went to seek help for it.

It took 4 years for her to tell you? Maybe you do have them, but that was the excuse she needed. She sucks other dick..... "because you have mental issues."

After a month she told me that she wants to be friends until we I am better and she has healed and found herself.

Cheating bitches have buzzwords or buzz phrases. When a girl needs "time" or "a break" or "some space" or "needs to find herself," they are all euphemisms for her fucking another dude, but wanting you to still be there as the shmuck who will take her back when the other guy ultimately discards her after using her for the whore she is.

This was a major shock to as me as didn't want us to break up.

To you? A shock. To us? Cliche.

How do I proceed now? I still want this girl to be my gf but I also don't want her to get the idea I am okay with us being friends.

Recognize the truth for what it is. You won't, unfortunately.

Is it too late to salvage this?

It was too late before she broke up with you. Women are calculated. By the time she hit you with all this, she was already guzzling other cum.

Smooth-Notice · 2020-06-16T15:11:45+00:00

Look.

I'd say 90% plus of girls won't come outright and tell you they just don't like you anymore or just don't want to be with you anymore. They don't want to feel guilty or bad and will usually give you some bullshit reasons such as:

"You're too good for me, I dont deserve you."

"I'm really busy with work and want to focus on myself."

"I think we should be friends while you work on your mental issues, I do think you're a great guy."

This leads to a lot of guys thinking there is still hope. Which she wants. What if that new guy she is interested turns out to be a loser or just pumps and dumps her? What if she changes her mind and the grass isn't always greener? She wants you there as a backup plan.

Then the question becomes, are you okay with being a backup plan?

I'll let you decide that. But me, and most men here, are not. Don't disrespect yourself like that. Start crushing life and enjoying the shit out of it, she should be nothing more than a memory to you at this point. It'll be okay.

cracksniffer666 · 2020-06-16T09:33:13+00:00

It's over. She's bored and lost respect for you once you shown her your cards.

She might take you back after hitting up Chad for a while. All the signs are there, sorry bro.

2020-06-16T13:48:59+00:00

Its over man. You might find the sidebar useful though, and it's worth a read if you haven't already.

IXseed · 2020-06-16T13:59:28+00:00

I'd break up with her.

If you are truly having mental issues you don't want your support structure to include an ex who left you for said issues. Kinda goes against the logic of getting better because you're gonna hold onto hope that if you present better that you two will reconcile.

TxnyMontana · 2020-06-16T14:09:09+00:00

As we always say "don't date crazy girls , or girls with OPD, depression, stuff" Same applies to her.

Being with someone with mental issues can be quite difficult. But hey, it's not the end of the world. You shoul instead try to fix it. Start therapy or psichiatrist. There's nothing wrong with it. Wrong is to have a problem and not try to fix it.

About the girl, I'd strongly suggest you to move on. Your frame is weak now, and in the future, even if you're ok with your issue, she will try to manipulate you with this episode of weak frame. New is always better.

When you get fixed of your problems, then you can think about a new GF wich you will make her happy since the begginig.

Don_Draper27 · 2020-06-16T17:27:19+00:00

Never take what a woman says at face value.

Based on your post, her translation is: Your SMV isn't high enough for me to be exclusive with you so I'm going to ride the CC and keep you in my orbit in case I probably decide if I want to be back with you, but things aren't going to even be the same because you're displaying even less value by taking me back after I dumped you.

lordGwynx7 · 2020-06-16T18:08:57+00:00

I broke up with her. Thanks for the advice bro’s

r3art · 2020-06-16T09:15:41+00:00

I then recently found out I had mental issues that caused her unhappiness and I went to seek help for it.

You're sure you didn't want to post this on askbluepill?

Title	GF of 4 years broke up and wants to be friends until I get my mental issues sorted. Need some advice.
Author	lordGwynx7
Upvotes	4
Comments	26
Date	June 16, 2020 6:46 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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