I am not beautiful. I am socially awkward and don't know how to flirt. He can do so much better than me. Yet, he chooses to spend his time/energy/money on me. Is this a red flag?

sadcello · 2020-07-04T18:28:24+00:00

Even if he's genuine, you'll end up pushing him away with your pessimism and lack of self esteem. Learn how to love yourself first, if you don't feel you deserve things, you'll not get it. Even if you do get it by luck or chance, you'll not be able to sustain or keep it. It's a self fulfilling prophecy.

PaciencaYFe · 2020-07-04T19:36:57+00:00

You are the red flag in this situation. Just work on having a good opinion of yourself because clearly he thinks you're worth it ♥️♥️♥️

Wkndwhorechata · 2020-07-04T19:35:12+00:00

You're creating an abusive dynamic in this relationship now.

Sounds like he's not trying to take power from you, control you, dismiss you and put you down... BUT YOU ARE. Who is this dude? He's an interested party. Who are you!? An amazing woman hopefully and he is hopeful to get to know!

Howslap · 2020-07-05T00:09:46+00:00

A lot of NVM are decent men who have severely low self esteem and PTSD. Having these things is NOT what makes them low value. Ite the fact that they are unwilling to do the work to heal their trauma, level up, and seek help. Instead they seek a mommy/bangmaid who is expected to do all the emotional labour. Dont be the low value person that enters into a relationship with an emotionally healthy person and expects them to "fix you". You are a wonderful person and I'm sure he sees that. But until you see it too you will be unable to have a truly meaningful relationship with any man. Sis do the work to truly love yourself. Because If you dont love yourself, how in the hell are you supposed love anybody else? .......can I get an Amen up in here?

RiteWriter · 2020-07-04T19:16:42+00:00

Can verify that I did the pushing away

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