I want to have women in my life but I push them away out of fear and hate, what should I do ?

DullIntroduction · 2020-07-09T18:06:23+00:00

7 years? How much do you bench? How can you still be in the anger phase?

BluzzKill · 2020-07-09T20:17:53+00:00

Fear of living isn't living

halleluiaiaia9292 · 2020-07-09T17:47:05+00:00

You dont let your guard down

telploit25 · 2020-07-09T18:22:15+00:00

This is getting extreme. Enjoy women and their company. Just take precautions and don’t be surprised when they let you down. Also vet your women thoroughly to decrease the chances of any of this happening.

Musicgoon · 2020-07-09T20:25:13+00:00

Here's some tough love for you bro.

First off, you say you want to have women in your life. I hear that. Your actions, or inaction say that you don't really want that. When I want something, I go after it.

Second, you can say you don't trust women, but what that means is you don't trust yourself. You have to have a backbone. If women are treating you like shit, you're a guy who let's them.

My ex was BPD. She abused me, tricked me with a pregnancy and faked miscarriage, stole from me, cheated, and finally murdered my two dogs. I spent 2.5 years homeless and then in a broken down RV. I built myself back up, started lifting, and got a new life. Multiple women are a part of that. And I don't tolerate bullshit.

You need to get over your fears and create boundaries. Or go to the gay side. The choice is yours...

SERPMarketing · 2020-07-09T18:22:10+00:00

Are you retarded? You got hurt in a relationship 7 years ago and you’re casting all woman as evil natured?

Use common sense, have fun and don’t be so absolute in your views on the world.

Grow up.

chazthundergut · 2020-07-09T21:19:56+00:00

A very abusive relationship led me to discover (insert female subreddit) 7 years ago, and I have completely avoided men since.

No relationships, no sex, no interaction with men beside what’s strictly necessary at work or the mechanic at the auto shop.

I hate them because I came to understand their nature: controlling, aggressive, selfish, and needy.

I fear them because I know they can harm me: they can physically overpower me, impregnate me, abandon me after impregnating me, or rape me.

On one hand I want a man in my life and a healthy relationship, but on the other hand I push them away out of fear and hate.

What should I do?

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2020-07-10T01:57:50+00:00

I hate them because I came to understand their nature : not loyal, cheaters, manipulators… they disgust me and I despise them.

OK. Pretty sure women aren't the problem here.

Why do you disgust and hate yourself?

Why are you disloyal to yourself?

Why do you keep cheating yourself?

That's the real problem right there. Those are the questions you need to be answering. Women ain't shit. It's the guy in the mirror and you only hate them because they remind you that you're not at peace with yourself.

Fucking take a good look at that guy and ignore women for a minute.

Then decide to forgive and accept yourself for having normal human weaknesses and shortcomings, which you fail to control despite your efforts.

Blaming women for being childish and hating on them is another way you're cheating yourself out of getting the intimacy, sex, companionship, and connection you really want. It's self-pity and self-sabotage behavior.

It's just the same with racists, they blame "those other odd looking people" for all the shitty behavior and shortcomings they themselves have always been guilty of.

Projection- it ain't just a kind of TV.

I fear them because I know they can harm me : they can get accidentally pregnant,

It's called a condom. Yeah seatbelts are uncomfortable too at first, but people use them because they're not drooling retards. Wrap it up. You'll do OK.

they can manipulate me psychologically,

Victim mentality.

The issue is you paid too much attention to the noises women made with their mouths. Listen to their actions instead.

Remember if you don't like how you're being treated, you can always leave. That's on you if you chose not to. That's not on them. They didn't force you to stick around and listen to their drama. You chose that. They didn't force you to stay on the phone. They didn't force you to respond to that Women't aren't the police.

they can file a false rape accusation, etc…

Yeah, and you could have a sudden heart attack or stroke. Or you run into a tree while talking on the phone, hit your head and turn into a vegetable. Doesn't stop me from walking down the street.

Stop being afraid to live.

michael1962-01 · 2020-07-10T11:25:21+00:00

1-get a vasectomy 2-lift 3-build a life 4-learn to handle them

I feel you in one point.

Once you've gone RP you cannot see them the same way again. Once the curtain is away they are naked and all behave like in the textbook.

But even if AWALT not all are spoiled.

Get a young virgin who is not fake (no blue hair/tatoos gross makeup etc) and train her at your side.

As long as she is faithful you can give her a lovely home.

Title	I want to have women in my life but I push them away out of fear and hate, what should I do ?
Author	violetmonstermunch
Upvotes	4
Comments	17
Date	July 9, 2020 5:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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