This ended up a bit too lengthy for me, but after the TL;DR it's just some over-explaining for the newbs.

Field-Report flair because this contains examples of frame, and Gender Roles

TL;DR: Women with good fathers, alpha mates, traditional upbringing all have something in common.

They know WHEN to switch gender roles.

Women are masculine when they feel that they NEED to be. You ever notice that the "assertive" boss lady is a tender kitten at the holiday party when her masculine husband is within ear-shot? She no longer feels that no one else is there to protect, or lead her.

Body: There was a post about women being generally angry towards men that I 100% didn't relate to. I recognize why i didn't get it:

I do manual labor. The PEOPLE I've worked for hire me because I'm MASCULINE. Not because I'm stronger than them. It's because they don't know wtf to do, and they need someone to step in and lead.

I'm not saying that JUST to humble brag, but to point out where gender roles become VERY clear.

Example: I had a lady the tell me to open a package because carrying the whole thing would be too heavy.(It was maybe 50lbs max)

I said no, leave it in.

That situation went down like this:

She, being feminine, tried to help. Good.

She, being a modern woman, tried to lead. Bad.

I nudged the package to see how heavy it was before it was time to move that package. (The map given wasn't the territory)

I went to move the other stuff.

She, being a modern woman, tried to open the package after I said it wasn't too heavy. Bad

I stopped her from opening the package.

When it was time to move the package, she FINALLY saw me lift it, toss it on my shoulder, and start casually walking with it.

She, being feminine, went to make sure the path to where it needed to be put down was clear. Good!

Another example: I was hired by a woman who had her brother and boyfriend helping her. I woke up late, and rushed there because they "needed" me to move some of the heavier items...they thought it'd take 3 people.

I get there are start moving these items alone, while they watch. I see this all the time.

The woman stops leading, lifting, SHE STOPS BEING MASCULINE.

Now she's saying "I want this to go here" (In a suggesting way, not in a "It makes the most sense here" way), "Could you please..."

Now she's being a girl again "maybe i don't want this" she runs to her husband to "talk". No matter what they're talking about, in most situations it's the "it's ok baby, he does this a lot he's just used to it" talk. The feminine man stands down, and becomes feminine.

Last example, I swear A MAN hires me. He knows his modern young son isn't strong enough to be the only person helping move this fragile item.

I get there, he has a game plan. He knows where we're moving it will be difficult to maneuver, and it was. (The map given was the territory) I am now within his frame (You can call it being more feminine if you want; That's the language I established here)

He is leading with competence, and confidence. As a good leader he switches his frame whenever there's a problem he didn't for-see, and asks for my input.

We start moving it, and run into trouble. Here's where women and a lot of men start saying "I don't know if this is possible", or "Maybe we'll just toss it". His son starts doing this. His son's seemingly geeky friend starts helping, and thinking of good solutions.(Masculine without being Mr Stoic Liftzalot)

We move it TOGETHER as men. The son's wife goes outside to watch the van (rather than watch her husband be helpless). When we reach the point of it being easier. The son starts being feminine. Pointing "This goes here"(Though it's 10lbs, and he can move it after I'm done. I'm hourly) but Hell, he's paying, I can't even blame him there. The other men start helping. Doing the lifting, figuring out the situation.

Summary: Masculine frame is earned, and used as a tool. It's not something you claim, and use as a toy. The world will call OSHA on your ass if you play with your tools