Dear spinsterhood cysturhood, am I too damaged to ever find a man?

silly_birb · 2020-07-26T07:15:03+00:00

Men are slowly realizing that the phrase "i had an abusive ex" is a red flag.

She can enjoy a cat on a stroller

altair43 · 2020-07-26T06:36:39+00:00

Is financially secure. Lost her job and 50k in debt. Moved in with parents to save unemployment money. But, other than that, she's financially secure. Amazing!!

Also ex abused her etc. etc. Where have we heard that before?!

kerty7 · 2020-07-26T05:56:37+00:00

I don't understand why you would get a degree for a career that you don't want. If you want to be a housewife, 50k of debt is a lot, especially because whoever you marry will have to pay it.

DavisR001 · 2020-07-26T06:42:17+00:00

women think being a SAHM is oppression, while working 10hrs a day as a coporate drone is freedom.

many women are about to find out the harsh lesson of being a man. Enjoy your freedom ladies.

RxCubed · 2020-07-26T07:35:18+00:00

Going to have to call BS on the 4 body count at age 28.

TheApricotCavalier · 2020-07-26T06:32:08+00:00

I read the first paragraph & then quit. Its all bullshit. I'm sure she is ruined, but none of what she said is true.

ZealousMaths · 2020-07-26T05:00:27+00:00

That body count excludes so much more ahe won’t remember or can’t remember at this moment. All sex under the influence of drugs or alcohol can’t be fully recalled. Bjs, handjobs, anal and oral are discredited. And many a plenty gangbang is probably counted as one sex session. So all in all 4 is probably 40 min.

I use the 10x-100x rule after seeing stories of women reducing by one or two digits their N count.

Oh and I looked at that actress.

I can safely say what the womanly poster likely looks like.

Scourmont · 2020-07-26T09:58:22+00:00

He was an anxious and insecure alcoholic who dated the trashiest women out there which really skewed his approach to relationships

And I suppose you either didn't know this before you started dating, he changed after you were together or you knew he was broken and decided you could fix him.

Blogginginvicecity · 2020-07-26T06:17:53+00:00

I relate, but it's time to pull one's self up by the bootstraps. The fight starts in our mind.

Now on the topic of relationships and dating!? Good luck lady! The relationship market be fucked up!

loneliness-inc · 2020-07-26T04:45:55+00:00

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mr_kuk · 2020-07-26T08:35:09+00:00

Feeling like I am ruined

Because you are.

Ok this is kind of a rant.

From a woman? On dating? NOW I have seen everything.

I'm 28 and I feel ruined. I have a "body count" of 4, $50k in student loans, am financially secure, attractive but not fit, have a bunch of fun hobbies that I worry make me "masculine".

Student loans and financial security is like prison and "roof over the head" security.

Attractive but not fit with masculine hobbies. Are you sure you're not an incel shitlord?

For some reason I feel really bad about myself and worry that I will never find anyone who will want me as a wife.

Is it because you are too attractive and financially secure?

Important disclaimer is that my last relationship was borderline abusive with a man who really wrecked me mentally and emotionally by accusing me of selling porn behind his back (I would never, it makes my skin crawl) and then insisted on going through my phone and checking my body for "identifying marks" to compare against porn videos he found online. He was an anxious and insecure alcoholic who dated the trashiest women out there which really skewed his approach to relationships - I constantly felt like he was projecting those fears into me while I acted like a housewife to him.

Dated the trashiest women you say? As a woman you say that? An attractive but not fit woman you say?

For most of my 20s I pursued my career dreams because I had no idea what I wanted and my family had expectations -they all have advanced degrees and millionaire jobs. So I ended up with an MBA and an ok job but I hate that my career requires me to change locations every 1-2 years. I feel homeless.

Sounds like patriarchy.

I had a domineering mother so I always thought I didn't care for children. Worried I would be a bad mother because I had no template for being a wife or a mother.

NO! It's still patriarchy! The mother suffers from internalised misogyny.

Yet I find myself looking at pictures of pregnant women on social media and feel this sadness and bitterness burning inside.

The you describe is most definitely internalised misogyny!

Secretly I dream of being Anjelica Houston in The Royal Tenenbaums.

Secretly I dream of being rich but refuse to work for it. I'm going to hold my breath until someone gives me a lot of money. Come gais, I can't hold it any longer...

Because of covid I lost my job and moved in with my parents to save all my unemployment money. I now have the opportunity to move and get a job anywhere I want but I don't even care to. I feel aimless and old.

Financially secure! With debt. I read earlier today that Steve jobs had to move in with his parents because he was too financially secure. He was unable to buy a new house because of COVID.

I guess what I'm seeking is reassurance? Advice? Where would you go if you had the opportunity to start your adult life from scratch?

You are living the feminist dream. Why would you want to ruin your life that?

Jdamoftruth · 2020-07-26T10:01:26+00:00

You lost me at financially secure with 50k in debt....and I have an be MBA too...

Dinomiteblast · 2020-07-26T10:45:04+00:00

“My last boyfriend dated the thrashiest of thrash women”

Well he is dating you as well...

_Nequis_ · 2020-07-26T10:48:54+00:00

You know a story is made up and full of lies when the teller is a poor liar and insults himself without noticing, "he dated the trashiest women out there" ,no woman who can do 2+2 would say something that discredits her indirectly aswell by throwing herself in the trashy woman lot.

Imagine a man saying,oh yeah i work for X company,they enroll the dreg of society,the worst felons and incompentent individuals,anyway i was saying...

OarzGreenFrog · 2020-07-26T10:13:05+00:00

I almost read that n count as 4k

good god.

fagt69 · 2020-07-26T10:59:17+00:00

See if a man was in this situation he'd just write: "I have my MBA, I'll pay off my debts eventually, I'll adapt to the itinerant nature of my work. I'm satisfied.". That would be that.

Instead women measure their self worth based on the type of man they can get. Seriously what is wrong with her life apart from that?

Porphyrogennetos · 2020-07-26T12:37:57+00:00

At the risk of upsetting someone, or even getting banned?

I'll say this: This one isn't as bad as some of the others I've seen posted. There's some really fucking awful people out there and we see them up on the sub constantly.

This girl seems like she made some mistakes. Women always choose their partners. The abusive ex is absolutely a red flag.

But these women are definitely misled in adolescence and adulthood. By friends. By teachers. By media. By bad, lassez-faire parents.

Women need to be guided, and they're being misguided by... shit you could say it was the devil, because how untrue is that really? The people that own the media worship the devil. Quite literally. They abuse and sacrifice children in weird rituals, they have done so for centuries, and they use weird codes to communicate with each other over every communication medium, and we're still trying to figure this all out. That's how deep and intricate this web is.

No wonder their lives are torturous. Their shepherd is Satan. Literally Satan.

LowWafer8 · 2020-07-26T15:07:09+00:00

How can you be $50K in debt and still be "financially secure??"

lgmdnss · 2020-07-26T12:23:56+00:00

"attractive but not fit"

We get it hun. You're attractive to those 'feeder' guys, but not to the rest.

UltimaterializerX · 2020-07-26T12:32:36+00:00

“Abusive ex” more often than not means “a man had standards”.

madriverdog · 2020-07-26T14:24:33+00:00

upper-middle class

MBA, world-wide employable job skills

slightly overweight (i.e., healthy)

financially secure, collecting unemployment, living rent-free

So many First-world problems. “poor me!”

Picks “bad” boys. So I should care? Pfftt.

My advice? Get off your butt and do something for the rest of the world.

Redhood616 · 2020-07-26T17:51:52+00:00

Checklist for posts made by strong, independent, empowered women:

-Describes ex as abusive ✅

-Says she’s not attractive but not ugly ✅

-Describes herself as financially secure when in reality she’s not ✅

-States she never wanted kids/spouse but now wants them due to all her friends having them ✅

OniiChanStopNotThere · 2020-07-26T12:31:28+00:00

$50k in student loan, am financially secure

lolwut

The amount of people I run into on reddit, in real life, in random discord chats, and all other walks of life that don't understand finance is mind blowing. I would wager 99% of people don't have basic financial knowledge.

cutt88 · 2020-07-26T13:56:12+00:00

"Am attractive but not fit"

Choose one bitch.

CentralAdmin · 2020-07-26T14:16:10+00:00

He dated only the trashiest women...and he dated you?

Does that not say something about you or at the very least the type of men you're into?

The_Whorror_Show · 2020-07-26T14:54:49+00:00

Yeah every bitch has a fucking abusive ex don't they? They love that shit, this is why it's no relationships, no commitment. They spend they're best years with these trashfuck guys like that in their youngest and best years, and then they get to the wall, and start predating on younger men to ruin their lives next from all the shit they learned in manipulating through her past relationships.

This shit is disgusting. They wanted free sex and all that, well there you go, no one said there wouldn't be consequences though.

MGTOW_BEASTMODE · 2020-07-26T15:33:24+00:00

50k in debt! GROSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

MrUnknownorNobody · 2020-07-26T13:35:35+00:00

Am I a bad person for enjoying the misery of so many old hags?

viking_canuck · 2020-07-26T14:30:25+00:00

I'd go in the woods!

itsokaytobeknight · 2020-07-28T00:34:52+00:00

Attractive but not fit

The word is fat. And that’s your answer, get fit

dorballom09 · 2020-07-26T12:30:38+00:00

I read body count of 50k at first. I was like so escort/hooker/only fans now count by the amount of money they earned 🤔

Title	Dear spinsterhood cysturhood, am I too damaged to ever find a man?
Author	loneliness-inc
Upvotes	193
Comments	101
Date	July 26, 2020 4:36 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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