Do I pull back??

NO_TIP_JUST_SHAFT · 2020-07-29T10:07:50+00:00

Yes, she is losing interest.

I had the same issue with a girl, first she was all over me and once I caught feelings she knew I was interested and she had the certainty her IL faded. It's good you noticed now, might not be too late and you could fix it.

Problem is, it's getting boring for her. The challenge is gone, she has the certainty, you revealed your cards. Women need a constant challenge and they want certainty, but need uncertainty.

You should pull back but make it subtle, don't go from 100 to 0 in a day and don't start acting like the big alpha who is spinning plates. This will backfire.

Be more subtle, first of all limit the time you see her, tell her you'd love to see her but you don't have any time this week. Make her miss you, make her wonder whether or not you're still interested. Make your texts a bit shorter but don't act aloof. Slowly pull back and see if she starts running for ya. Give her the challenge again.

But don't try to overcompensate.

Judging from the latest text it seems like you two are already in a weird place at this moment where the argument is getting overt. Don't be afraid to drop her if she is acting like a brat, some women just want to be dumped, they need to see you have an abundance mindset and are willing to walk away.

Every girl knows it (consciously or not) when she is acting like a b and has crossed the line. If you don't call them out they will lose respect. Respect > admiration > attraction in the end.

deathhandmachiavelli · 2020-07-29T12:18:11+00:00

"But she’s been my best friend of many years."

This is a red flag.

"And always has a attitude and pulls away when I try to show affection. "

Another red flag.

I'll be honest, if she is pulling back and not showing interest THREE MONTHS into the relationship, I don't see this going very far.

The great relationships that I have had with girls, they are literally all over me 3 months into the relationship.

This sounds like a crappy relationship to me, as well as a waste of time.

Start looking for another branch to swing to if she doesn't shape up.

spcparks · 2020-07-29T15:48:53+00:00

You figured out the game my brother. It’s probably too late. The game is over for her.

Before I learned this I would get girls so interested and pushing for me to show interest in them. The moment I would show any feelings they knew it. It was like they subconsciously knew it and the moment they knew it was over.

I tried pulling away but to them they already moved on. They realize you aren’t the abundant alpha they thought you were. The chase is over and instead of trying to get your validation again, they would rather get a new source of validation that feeds their ego

faultywalnut · 2020-07-29T13:41:12+00:00

I did ask if she still interested in me She just texted me “are you still coming with me tomorrow or are you just not going to talk to me”

She’s losing interest and catching on to the fact that you’re losing frame. You went from acting cool and natural, to needy and affectionate, back to overcompensating. At this point she knows you’re acting cold as a reaction to her, not because that’s your true mindset.

Be cool and nice to her, but focus on you. Don’t spend so much time with her, limit your dates and kick her ass out (in a friendly, chill way) when it’s time for her to go. Focus on your purpose, set some goals you’d like to accomplish in the next few days/weeks and make that your priority. Stop asking her how she feels or thinks, let her bring that up to you if she wants to and stop trying to guess. Don’t react to her bitchy behavior in passive aggressive ways. If you’re with her in person and she’s cold and distant, cheerfully and matter-of-factly say something like “we both seem busy and distracted from each other right now, I’m gonna leave but hit me up when you have some time to hang” then go away and go do something worthwhile. Don’t text her as much, don’t be the first to go for physical contact, don’t be quick to validate her or compliment her. Give her shit tests back, let her earn her spot.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2020-07-29T20:16:32+00:00

She's definitely losing interest- actions over words. Pull back yourself but do it gradually until she starts chasing, not all at once. Also, start the whole dread thing of going to the gym more, new cologne, flirting a bit with the waitress/posting a friendly pic on SM with another girl, etc. You do that for you. If she comes around, cool. If not, you increased your value and started to process of getting new women.

2020-07-29T05:10:03+00:00

She is losing interest correct.

Dont respond. Wait and see if she double text you.

If you want to respond say:

" Cant tomorrow, gotta do some kegels"

Also you should re read the sidebar.

Title	Do I pull back??
Author	Black_hammer20
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	July 29, 2020 4:44 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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