Views of men with mental disorders?

AvocadoCrabs · 2018-06-10T06:28:16+00:00

Well, my husband has aspergers and ADHD (I also have both conditions). I don't really think much of mental disorders, aside from probably avoiding narcissistic and borderline men. I would just advise men and women to be educated/informed before getting into a relationship with someone who has issues.

[deleted] · 2018-06-10T10:24:54+00:00

I would tend to put ADHD in the category of depression and anxiety - schizophrenia and autism are not things which can be easily managed with medication, therapy, diet, etc. But ADHD can be treated.

Regardless, mental illness and disorders run a wide spectrum. I would say it's important to see how much they impede someone's ability to function. Some people have been diagnosed with mental illness, but learn to manage it and are still highly productive. Some people are never diagnosed, and are destructive of themselves and others.

It's not something to ignore - I'd say the best way to judge is to look at his life. Is he able to hold down a job? Friends? Relationships with his family? If he isn't, that's a problem.

lespetiteschoses · 2018-06-10T07:24:18+00:00

I'd avoid at all costs. Good mental health is a must for me.

NewMindRedPill · 2018-06-11T02:47:16+00:00

Both my parents had mental disorders, issues, etc. and my life was hell.

I avoid signs of mental disorders or signs of feeling suicidal (my dad killed himself) in guys. I look for guys who are very strong emotionally, strong mental health, and no apparent issues. My bf has eventually had some very small issues we worked on (but who doesnt?). My first bf had autism and it contributed to us breaking up (among many things) again not an experience I would willingly go through again.

I look for mentally stable guys in part because I am still healing and need a steady guy and in part because I never want my kids to go through what I did or inherit anything.

There are exceptions where it can go well but it takes a strong person to be able to handle it.

likeaprometheancurse · 2018-06-11T22:41:58+00:00

Personally, most of the people I know have a mental disorder, including most family members. I go to therapy just for someone to talk to but I have no diagnosis. It seems like most of the people that I find interesting, engaging, and kind struggle with something. I think that's due to my interests though - weird sense of humor, alternative music, art, taxidermy, etc eclectic interests draw lots of different people in IMO.

None of them are irresponsible, shortsighted, violent, mean, or anything like that - My boyfriend is diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder and ADHD, my best friend has Bipolar 1, another friend has Schizophrenia, and so on. I've known each of them for about 7 years or so when I started middle school and they've been great, whereas I've had countless people be crappy to me who I don't believe had any mental disorders. It's understandable to be hesitant of dealing with someone whose brain chemistry is flawed but IME they seem to often be more understanding and open individuals due to their struggles, if that makes sense?

My boyfriend has times where he feels crippled by his mental state but he always pushes through. He's a brilliant worker and has many complicated jobs with lots of physical labor and long hours and no matter what he's going through he perseveres. I look up to him for that. I find that a lot of men, especially those who are traditionally very masculine, have trouble talking about their issues, he's very open and I love that about people. There have been moments where I feel overwhelmed and afraid when he is doing badly - it seems that every day someone new has committed suicide and I do get afraid that he could hurt himself which is incredibly stressful (he doesn't threaten or anything, but knowing it's a possibility for anyone with a serious disorder can be scary).

So I wouldn't write someone off BASED on that, just look out for any negative signs that they don't manage their disorder well. People who really try to do as well as they can often don't come off that different as neurotypical people. I'm not put off by it at all but I would avoid someone who cannot control themselves regularly - they need professional help before a partner can come along and be there for them.

PMOTM · 2018-06-10T07:54:01+00:00

1 in 3 people will experience mental illness of some sort in their lifetime. If not you, it will likely be your partner or someone close to you. Mental illness can often not present itself for years. You awful self centred women demanding perfection in your men will be alone for a long long time because spoiler alert - the perfect person doesn't exist. People have faults. Find someone you love in spite of their flaws, who supports you and loves you and fights alongside you and for you like a warrior. I am lucky enough to have my champion, he is amazing and strong most of the time, but sometimes he suffers from depression. When he does, I take care of him like he takes care of me the rest of the time.

Title	Views of men with mental disorders?
Author	ThrowingTTK
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	June 10, 2018 5:05 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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