This is why we need manditory DNA testing for every birth.

gtowerthrowaway · 2020-11-30T06:48:15+00:00

Imagine how much of this happened before 23andme that we just never knew about.

Zealousideal_Solid57 · 2020-11-30T07:28:24+00:00

"she spends her days staring at a wall" how poetic

silly_birb · 2020-11-30T08:09:05+00:00

Ofc the mother acts like a victim.
It's all acting for damage control.

bfte2 · 2020-11-30T08:23:44+00:00

I'm surprised most of the people in that thread didn't find the way to blame the husband, and cannonize the wife.

CyberSmith34 · 2020-11-30T09:08:30+00:00

Jesus, this is heart wrenching. And then there are those politicians who try to outlaw paternity tests. Fuck the whole system, never believe a woman.

Dorinus2 · 2020-11-30T09:30:56+00:00

OP's husband should check if the kid is his

pluvoaz · 2020-11-30T19:57:37+00:00

Courtesy of removereddit:

23andme revealed my mom(59F) 11-year affair which drove my dad(59M) to end his own life

This is gonna be very long, sorry about that.

My parents were high school sweethearts, they started dating when they were both 16, they dated for 4 years and then my mom(59F) got pregnant with my oldest sister(39F) then my dad(59M) did ''the right thing'', he dropped out of college (he was on the path to medical school, it was his dream to become a doctor), married mom and started working at a desk job at my grandpa(80M) company, my parents later ''had'' three other kids, my older sisters (35F),(33F) and me (30F).

My childhood was pretty normal, dad worked, mom stayed at home taking care of me and my sisters, dad was always very present in our lives, I and my sisters were always daddy's girls, we were very attached to him, I was particularly close to him, we had a really deep bond, when I was 13 I was diagnosed with leukemia and he never left my side, he held my hand during chemo sessions during the whole time, he consoled me when I had my first heartbreak and assured me that everything would be alright, he taught me how to drive, he walked me down the aisle 3 years ago when I married my husband and told me that was one of the happiest days of his life, I was always his favorite as well...

My parents were happy, I never saw them fighting or anything like that, my dad took my mom on date nights at least twice a week, he spoiled her a LOT and they seem really in love. My parents were the perfect couple, everyone saw them as something flawless, an example of true love. My mom was my dad only one, and dad ''was'' mom only one, it was something that he was very proud of that it was really special for him, I felt really bad when I lost my virginity to my ex-boyfriend and realized that I couldn't ever have the same thing as my parents.

My dad's mom died during birth and grandpa raised him as a single parent, he never remarried (or dated anyone after her death as far as I know), grandpa refused to talk about grandma, it was very painful for him. he never met anyone from grandma's side of the family and grandpa didn't talk much about her. In June I bought a 23andme kit for me and dad, I thought that would be cool to see if he had any relatives on grandma's side and we did the tests together.

We did the tests, I found out that I had 2 half brothers and that we shared the same father. We were honestly confused, I and dad didn't understand that, we thought that this was a mistake when we told mom about this she froze, she started crying, we pressured her a bit more and that's when she confessed about her 11-year-old affair with one of my dad's friend, he was our neighbor at a certain point of our lives and he was in the same class as dad and mom, I remember seeing him around when I was a kid, he was a close friend of the family. Dad was in denial, he thought that it was a mistake, I and my sisters ended up doing the test at a hospital, 8 days later the results arrived, neither of us was a match.

For the first time in 30 years of my life, I saw my dad cry, not a normal cry, sobbing, like a kid. We tried to talk to him, he got up, grabbed his keys and left, we tried to call like a hundred times and he didn't answer, my mom was having a panic attack so my oldest sister took her to the hospital.

We didn't hear from dad for 3 whole days.

We searched for him everywhere.

Eventually, my grandpa found him at the family fishing cabin, he had hanged himself.

He didn't leave any notes or anything like that.

In 9 days I discovered that my mom had an 11-year affair, that my dad wasn't my biological father and that he took his own life.

It.

Broke.

Me.

His funeral was another mess, my dad's side of the family got into a fight with my mom's side of the family, my grandpa and uncles ended up kicking my mom out of the funeral, it was a disaster, the first time I saw my grandpa crying as well, it was something I wish I hadn't seen it. He entered a really deep depression after that, he barely speaks anymore.

After the funeral, neither I or my sisters could look at mom anymore, we just couldn't. I can look my sisters in the eye as well, and I blame myself every day for suggesting that fucking stupid test.

Thanksgiving this year was the first time we didn't celebrate as a family (in 33 fucking years), I can't look at my mother anymore, she spends her days staring at a wall, her side of the family is pressuring me and my sisters to reestablish contact but I just can't (my sisters are also not speaking to her since the funeral).

I found out that I am pregnant last week (I and my husband have been trying for the last two years) and I not even happy, I feel hopeless, I feel broken, sometimes I start to think about dad and my heart looks like it is going to explode I fucking miss him so much.

Have anyone been in a similar situation?

How do I survive this fucking guilt?

How the hell I move past this?

Any advice is really appreciated.

Rajbl · 2020-11-30T12:11:57+00:00

Not a single one was his... daaamn

Makhmalak · 2020-11-30T10:13:58+00:00

This story just shows that being the most perfect and wonderful husband will not stop a hoe from cheating. Lesson learned.

Chakra_Devourer · 2020-11-30T12:24:44+00:00

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jasonrodrigue · 2020-11-30T06:12:05+00:00

True.

ironmonkey45 · 2020-11-30T13:50:30+00:00

that whole fucking thing is just tragic..

Legs2big · 2020-11-30T16:25:29+00:00

This is why I never interact with women altogether 😂. Why even bother with the hassle of checking if a garden tool is not constantly on Tinder and Instagram when my back is facing her... No Hope Strategy for me. 🙅‍♂️

catch-a-penny · 2020-11-30T17:34:53+00:00

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rublous · 2020-11-30T17:48:26+00:00

What happened? The post got removed

ghesi · 2020-11-30T19:07:44+00:00

Post removed. Any backup?

2020-12-01T02:01:49+00:00

A woman’s only regret is getting caught. That all any woman ever feels. The tears that flow for women are getting caught.

gongodoudan8 · 2020-12-01T09:06:11+00:00

Just remember men women are ENCOURAGED by the government to do this. They face no legal repercussions whatsoever, and even if a man can prove the child isn't his he is forced to pay. Women can legally scam men for hundreds of thousands of dollars and in some countries (like France) it is illegal for men to paternity test to see if they are being scammed. Remember this next time someone tells you women are oppressed.

Title	This is why we need manditory DNA testing for every birth.
Author	LongTimeOn
Upvotes	90
Comments	33
Date	November 30, 2020 5:53 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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