I recently stumbled on redpill and find it interesting as an ideology, but I'm not sure if I think it pans out (for myself anyway). I like the parts about self betterment and having interests and hobbies for yourself and do find these things important. However when it talks about how to be more attractive as a man I'm really not attracted to what it tells men to do, so that's already funny. (I'd much rather be with a smart nerd than a gym rat who only cared about working out), but my biggest question is about "dread game". Does this actually work on most women? I don't understand why or how it would. I stumbled accross it and realized it sounded pretty familiar and then it clicked that an ex tried this with me a lot and is one of the reasons I ended things.

Examples would be like if he tried to make me jealous with someone (and it was painfully obvious) like showing me a pic of a girl he worked with who was pretty getting drinks with coworkers after work. I'd just go along with it and be like "she's pretty" and he'd say something like "yeah I guess so" and then I'd just say cool or whatever. One time he took it further and tried hinting he could fuck other people if he wanted to. He was attractive and funny. This is probably true, but even still my response was just "ok why aren't you out doing that instead of dating me and waisting my time?" He didn't like that and we didn't end up working out. He often got annoyed that I'm not very emotional either.

I'm now married to someone who doesn't do that and is incredibly honest and direct. I much more prefer this and find it attractive instead of games that come off passive aggressive to me.

Of course I do realize that the theory is based on generalizations, but I just can't wrap my head around someone making their so think they could leave at any time being attractive.