I’ll try keep this short, for a couple weeks I’ve been “sleeping” with a girl (no sex or any oral given to me) who I’m living with. Bunch of excuses as to why we haven’t had sex but she always holds it over me, she’ll initiate but I’ll have to escalate on her and she’ll never give back and will always stop it before it reaches sex (she said sometimes she stops it for fun). She always taunts me about how she does/doesn’t want to have sex (to be fair, I do give it back to her).

So anyway tonight it happens again, she mentions that earlier in the day she thought we were going to have sex (I had to leave to go work) and went on to say we should stop this for good as she “gets attached to everyone she has sex with” BUT she still wants to sleep with me tonight (as in a grade school slumber party), so at this point I’m like fuck it, this is a toxic environment and I haven’t busted a nut once from this chick, so I called her out. I said she can’t sleep with me tonight, and said we’ve created a toxic environment where we (her) hold sex above each other and use it as a manipulation tool and it ain’t healthy. She thought I called her toxic and left my room in a storm.

Am I in the wrong? Like honestly the only thing I think I’ve done wrong is scarcity mentality and not hard next the fuck out of her. I mean who the fuck holds sex over someone’s head like this? Or am I missing out on something