Can an introvert ever be looked at as the Alpha of a group by women?

benethorpl · 2021-04-27T20:02:58+00:00

If you ever have to question yourself whether you're "alpha", you most definitely aren't.

BigBallzzz21 · 2021-04-27T19:12:30+00:00

Doesn’t matter, I hang round with loud extroverted guys and I’m the opposite. I can get girls but obviously they prefer the arrogant dudes, don’t worry about it what so ever it only applies to hoes anyway.

themostgianthorse · 2021-04-27T19:11:02+00:00

Not if he worries about being seen as “alpha”.

NYCSPARKLE · 2021-04-27T20:50:58+00:00

Taking the lead and maintaining frame does not mean one has to be outspoken or gregarious.

That said, no girl was ever turned off by an assertive / talkative / friendly person.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-04-27T20:47:47+00:00

Right question, wrong words. Protector/provider is what they're looking for, ideally. Just by looking like a protector you get into their bed. After they learn they're going to be a FWB for life and you'll never be a provider to them, they jump ship. There's autistic guys that get laid left and right but never have a girlfriend and now you know why. So the whole social phenomenon really only plays out in the provider qualities. The provider is taken over to meet the mother, be the groom in the wedding, meet all her friends, etc.

sanholo14 · 2021-04-27T22:56:42+00:00

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Musicgoon · 2021-04-28T00:56:05+00:00

No introverts are usually beta bux. They aren't seen as leaders. Their social circle is usually small because they don't put themselves out there and their social skills usually suck.

You can land girls as an introvert, but if your smv isn't drastically higher than hers, you will eventually get cucked.

tetrachromancy · 2021-04-28T05:25:09+00:00

This is a very shallow view of the social matrix.

The loud guy who is trying hard to get attention is such a textbook ‘is this alpha?’ example.

It’s going to be the guy who has the most influence over the social group. You’ve got your quieter mob boss types, and your douche bag beer guzzling frat boys.

Live in your own frame and stop caring about whether or not you’re ‘alpha’.

For cold approach:

See the social matrix and identify who is the shot caller that people listen to.

Now walk over and initiate a conversation with them, charm them, and win them over.

Once you get their approval, you now have access and influence over the group.

Over time you will eventually usurp them if you’re actually more interesting and have more to offer. They’ll get butthurt. So it goes.

Leave with one or two of the women for good measure.

Title	Can an introvert ever be looked at as the Alpha of a group by women?
Author	themasterg69
Upvotes	2
Comments	11
Date	April 27, 2021 7:09 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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