Hi guys,

Recently broke up with an LTR. She was making me complacent, I started to mess around with a few other girls while we were dwindling away. Broke up with the girl about a month ago.

Since then I’ve been spending time with a friend of mine (we’ll call him John). I’ve known John for 20 years (we’re both 26 now). My ex has been over John’s a few times prior and John’s wife bonded with my ex. While over at my John’s post break up, I candidly talked about some of the other girls with his wife in close proximity (I know...I was drunk at the time) and she then told my ex.

Word gets back to me in the form of a furious woman calling me to throw shade at me and asking me for gifts back (I told her to fuck off). I let John know what his wife did behind my back; in an effort to avoid any additional fall out, I told him to keep it between us and let things die out. At first he felt remorseful and felt he was at fault for the situation. I told him I’m not mad at him, but I did feel slighted by his wife sharing what I said in confidence.

I opted to not show up to John’s son’s B-day the following week to avoid any weird energy between his wife and I (still sent the lil fucker his gifts). When I told him I wouldn’t be attending, his remorse shifted to anger. I kept reassuring him that I’m not mad at him just needed time away from his bitch-made wife. He texts me a few hours later, night before his son’s b-day telling me his wife cut of my ex (I didn’t ask him to do this, let alone tell her about me finding out).

The day after the birthday, I find out through mutual friends that my ex was at the party, I’m also told John’s wife is not remorseful for what she did and she rationalizes her behavior as justified since i “never made an effort to be her friend”/“my ex was her only friend since she is a stay at home wife”.

Ex also send me a Snapchat the the day after the party to spite me. I’ve tried to call John numerous times to see what the fuck is going on but he’s ignoring me and telling my friend circle that “I made my bed and I need to lay in it”. Mind you, his wife has cheated on him in the past and I kept it between the him and his wife.

I’m furious at my ex for doing this much damage to a major pillar of what I considered to be my support system. Trying my hardest to hold frame and let her rot, but she took one of my closest friends with her. I feel betrayed by my friend for taking sides and despise his wife for being a piece of shit, losing this friendship is taking a mental/emotional toll on me.

I’m trying my hardest to be rational but I’m spiteful and on the verge of lashing out at both my ex and my cuck best friend, what do i do?

Tl:dr: Broke up with ex, best friends wife tells her I cheated on her. Ex gets mad I tell her to fuck off. I tell friend his wife has loose lips, he feels bad at first. I tell him I’m not coming to his sons bday to avoid weird energy, he gets mad and tells me his wife cut off my ex. Ex is invited to party and shows up, spites me via Snapchat. Best friend and his wife take her side and ignore me