Hello all, I have a question about my ltr of one year (which I will be proposing in a few months) getting a 3-4 cm tattoo on her hip. I told her I am not okay with it and I don’t like tattoos on women. This was a month ago. A few days later she confessed me that she was kidnapped by a man when she was a kid and she is getting the tattoo to cover the scar because it is reminding her about the incident whenever she sees this.

After that, I became more supportive and told her to do whatever she likes and it is not a problem for me.

She hit me with the “i am thinking of not getting it done because of you” last night through tezt and i told her the same things i said before that I like her natural but even though she gets it, I will support it and love her as she is. She said she will continue to think about it.

What the fuck does this mean? Does she want me to say: “no, don’t do it”. I also have that option but I don’t want her to pull the “you are too controlling” card in the next years. Does she actually want me to control her? And if it will obviously make her forget about the trauma, then of course I don’t mind her getting it since i want her to be happy.

As a side note, I dominate her on any decision in our relationship and I told her this is her decision to make. I don’t think this is a shit test or anything important but I am just confused.

I should add that we both come from conservative families and I have been reading the sidebar for the past 2,5 years.