Tired of the bullshit "women do all the emotinal labour in relationships"

DamnYouSun · 2021-06-01T02:25:30+00:00

The problem with rom-coms is that they only show the first little portion of a relationship, idealised for your viewing pleasure, where both parties are trying to impress each other and not come off as insane. They don't show the next how ever many years of them getting sick of each other, at least not until the sequel. You can see how people can get the wrong idea about relationships.

And I'm not sure about where you are from, but the generally used idiom is "you can't have your cake and eat it too". Not sure if you have a preference for cookies, but it's up to you.

FinallyReborn · 2021-06-01T07:12:53+00:00

The idea that women do all of the "emotional labour" is laughable.

It's a fact backed up by academic literature that in relationships women are drastically more likely to leave their partners if they share a shred of emotion and weakness. It's men who have to be the "rock" in the relationship - she complains, he listens and supports her.

It's also a fact that women emotionally abuse their husbands more so than the reverse. Nagging is a form of emotional abuse for example. And it's almost expected that a woman is right to nag a man, because people think men are defective and need to be trained and controlled by women.

Wingflier · 2021-06-01T04:54:37+00:00

I think you nailed it with this point here:

Just walk out the door and find some emotional sap that wants to talk memories and have date nights 5 times a week. I promise there are loads of guys like that (tho rarely as buff and manly but hey, you cant have the cake and eat it too honey).

Modern women (especially Feminists) DO want to have their cake and eat it too. They want the strong, stoic, masculine, brave, dominant type but they also want a sweet, compassionate, kind, loving, gentle man who's in touch with their emotions.

Generally, you aren't talking about the same person. These are two different archetypes of men. Modern women overwhelmingly seek the alpha type because it's what's in vogue, and then are inevitably dissatisfied with the results.

They then blame all men, claiming that "We have to do all the emotional labor in the relationship", while every single one of them, as you pointed out, know men who would be much more emotionally available and open to them, they're just not interested in those kinds of men.

And as a man, I can tell you, this behavior from Feminists is extremely infuriating and gaslighty. Claiming that "All men do this" or "All men treat us like shit" is absolutely dishonest because for the most part, they're ignoring the vast swathes of men that would treat them right, worship them, and cater to their every need. All women know men like this, they just aren't attracted to them, so they simply pretend like they don't exist. Gaslighting.

This entire enterprise that you've observed is just another of an endless plethora of examples of how Feminism teaches women to absolve themselves of all responsibility for their lives and decision-making, and instead blame men for everything.

stunspot · 2021-06-01T11:05:15+00:00

In my experience, women create emotional labor then spend hours talking about it.

hawknose33 · 2021-06-01T12:14:37+00:00

My ex would have definatly felt like he did all the emotional labor in the relationship. He also has this very weird idea about romance and had this idea of the perfect relationship and how to achieve it. And the weird part was bro we're still in highschool. When we went to college thank god we where states apart cuz it got even weirder.

My thing is that I want a partner who I can be bros with. None of this chick flick non sense. I never got all this self imposed high maitaince stance women take. I suppose this a lot of the reason I didnt become a feminist. As a young child I saw that women made a lot if thier own problems and refused to fix them.

antifeminist3 · 2021-06-01T13:41:16+00:00

How does the woman who does emotional labor know that it is wanted or even expected? She doesn't. Women do 'emotional labor' because they want to.

Often, this 'emotional labor' is unwanted, especially by men, who call it 'nagging'. You do not hear that much any more because feminists think you shouldn't say it.

NorOne2020 · 2021-06-01T05:46:24+00:00

Holy shit this was well written. Thanks for posting.

Egalitarianwhistle · 2021-06-01T05:44:51+00:00

mic drop. Thanks for your post. This is great.

zeepoopholeloophole · 2021-06-01T09:41:19+00:00

Women aren’t happy unless they’re complaining about something so when things are going well they have to invent problems

Psychological-Key101 · 2021-06-01T02:08:12+00:00

Surprisingly most women I've met too followed up with their emotions

clique34 · 2021-06-01T07:32:05+00:00

I’m glad at such a young age you’re able to see thru the bullshit that feminists say. There is hope

YesAmAThrowaway · 2021-06-01T08:42:22+00:00

I'm so damn glad I'm gay

adrenozin · 2021-06-01T22:26:37+00:00

Well written and on point. Congrats!

baronmad · 2021-06-01T22:37:34+00:00

This instantly forgets that men has to do the job to pay for everything. So they also has a lot of serious emotional labor because people they love depend on them.

Title	Tired of the bullshit "women do all the emotinal labour in relationships"
Author	darlingindanger
Upvotes	282
Comments	22
Date	June 1, 2021 1:38 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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