Idk how to stop hating myself

_Ding · 2021-05-30T20:28:10+00:00

Are you using every opportunity you have to talk to people? (Refer to the side bar) This will improve your social skills.

Stick to your mission.

Tried using dating apps?

GET USED TO TALKING TO PEOPLE BY TALKING TO STRANGERS IN EVERY OPPORTUNITY GIVEN TO YOU. Eventually you’ll gain more confidence and you can start talking to girls and getting numbers etc. It’s that simple. Don’t overthink it.

Mr-Blonde123 · 2021-05-30T22:13:30+00:00

Look my man, we’ve all walked the path you are walking to some degree at some point in our lives. You are not a special case.

Change will only come when you make it happen, life will pass you by without giving one single fuck.
Realise you are the only person who can pull yourself out of the hole you find yourself in, you have more power and control than you realise.

Some of us have been suicidal, depressed, broke, rich, had siblings taken away from us and had it all and lost it. We keep picking ourselves back up and you must do the same. I don’t know how old you are but life is a never ending shit test, what you are facing is yours at this moment. Realise change is possible but is only actionable by you alone.

First piece of actionable advice is to accept the responsibility of the situation lies squarely on your shoulders, if your situation is caused by a sense of injustice let that fire rage and motivate you to go get what you want from life.

1,6,12 months from now you will look back and see this as a learning opportunity to find out who you are and what makes you.

Don’t not fear, be brave be bold, embrace the hard times. They create the man.

Edit; there’s a post on here look at top posts of all time, I’m unable to link. Think it’s called “ my zerod out story”. I think you’d get a lot from it, read it all the way through, if anyone can link it I think it would be useful for op

bachbozo · 2021-05-30T20:58:01+00:00

A heroic dose of Psilocybin and adhering to Dr Saladino’s nutritional wisdom should sort out your neurochemistry in no time.

ReeeeDrumpf · 2021-05-30T20:24:46+00:00

You stop hating yourself by becoming someone you don't hate.

It's why the red pill advice is the same:

1) Lift 2) Career

No one hates the guy the with 6 pack and 6 figure income.

319Skew · 2021-05-30T22:31:24+00:00

Ok. OP and anyone else on the same boat, I'd like you guys to try a thought experiment.

It may be hard to visualize so try to bear with. It helps if you're alone in a quiet room.

I want you to pretend that you are in a hospital bed right now. You're breathing into an oxygen mask. Each breath is laborious and irregular. Something that you have taken for granted all your life now is perilously difficult.

Around you, you can vaguely see the outlines of friends and family against the blinding brightness of the hospital lights.

You know that they are speaking to you but the cocktail of chemicals that are being pumped into you is making your senses dull.

You feel like you're under water. Everyone is near but so distant that they may as well be on another planet.

You know that you should be in pain and you should be feeling anxiety but even that is being taken away from you. You are constrained and helpless.

All you can do is fixate on the queasy smell of antibiotics and sterilization. You want to hurl but you can't even muster the conviction to do that.

You feel a certain senseless encroaching; like you're at the cusp of falling down a waterfall and you feel fear at that unknown.

In this moment you realize with grim certainty that this is the end. Your life is coming to a complete and utter stop.

There's no continuity into another existence. You will not see another day or dream another dream. There's an abyss that waits you.

The barely compressible faces around will fade, your accomplishments with erode through time and eventually your existence will be as if you never were.

All that is you is about to expire. There won't be any new words from your lips or ideas in your mind.

This is an absolute and complete end.

If you are sincere in this exercise then you should be in a state of terrifying fear or objective serenity. Maybe both.

Regardless, you should now be able to reflect on what you wanted to accomplish if you had one more day. You should have some idea as to what you desire.

If you don't then that means that you don't really understand yourself.

Every living sane thing carries a healthy fear of death but we rarely conceptualize that certainty and give it form.

When you do, it gives you a greater perspective on the truth that you're on borrowed time.

T00kTheRedPill · 2021-05-30T21:18:49+00:00

You’re putting unrealistic expectations on yourself. You give too many fucks. Take the limited fucks you have to give and keep them for things that’re worth giving a fuck for.

Once you stop giving a fuck about needless things, you’ll get a feeling of liberation like you’ve never felt before.

trppr · 2021-05-31T00:16:22+00:00

Everybody has their own path, and success can come sooner or later depending on the foundational stuff you are working with.

Don't worry, you're not the first retard around here and aren't a special snowflake.

The first issue I see is believing that anything is possible, including change. That's why you've come here. You want to outsource that belief with proof from others. However, I believe this is just a form of avoidance in dealing with your own emotional issues and negative beliefs. I will say this however, you are young and therefore don't know much. Since you don't know much how can you know that you are unchangeable etc...

By adopting a stance of humility you may be able to engage with your negative beliefs in a more productive manner. After all you are retarded, so wtf do you know?

Otherwise, life is change and you are malleable and changeable. If you don't take a firm hold of the steering wheel you will be changed in ways that are not beneficial...and in fact, that's part of the way you got to your current situation.

The emotional issues need to be dealt with in parallel. You gotta deal with your mama issues. The self hate for a lot of guys starts with mother issues that then extend into social issues which create a big negative feedback loop. Its pretty catastrophic, b/c it requires you to superman the situation and kickstart your own emotional well being. The problem is likely something regarding how your mother sabotaged your emotional well being, and then in social groups, school, etc... you did not receive validation and positive feedback, thus creating the aforementioned feedback loop. And actually you received bad feedback and people invalidating you, which explains your current mentality - which is a total reasonable and expected reaction.

But, now you're about to be an adult so FUCK EVERYBODY. Do your own thing and never look back.

brave_snow02 · 2021-05-31T03:10:52+00:00

Meditate and read stoicism

KurkTheMagnificent · 2021-05-31T01:05:39+00:00

Hate should be the source of your power, like Sith.

Vegetable-Ad5980 · 2021-05-31T02:56:37+00:00

Unironically get therapy and meditate and work on being in the present moment and not the past.

Your chaining yourself to the past when that’s not you anymore you’ve grown and evolved. Your probably more interesting than most people due to the fact you changed your life and actually have discipline instead of playing video games and smoking weed all day.

Also The only way to be truely interesting is to have life experiences. Go travel, Go to concerts festivals, try new places meet new people experience different cultures etc.

You will never be a interesting person if you sit on your ass all day And never socialize.

Gbeyoungboy · 2021-05-31T03:29:43+00:00

It seems like you care way too much about that is your issue .... you also need to stop looking at others and comparing yourself. “Comparison is the thief of joy”.

You should really focus on developing your overall self confidence and self esteem because without these your insecurities ruin your mental health. You also need to network diligently in whatever field you want to get in but make sure you have some sort of value to provide whether it’s knowledge, money for a consultation , or an extra pair of hands it doesn’t matter get out there and work with people

immatonton · 2021-05-31T05:13:31+00:00

You sound young, not to offend. You'll get there. Keep working and be patient with yourself.

Keep doing well in school, study TRP, force yourself to think in new ways, approach and talk to people (not entirely women), and generally building yourself up, inside and out, whether that is lifting, reading books, maybe an art, like poetry or painting, or another cool hobby, like rock climbing, etc.

I know a 60 something year old man who tells me I'm lucky to have discovered TRP at my age, where his poor ass just discovered it a couple years ago.

I think you're gonna be fine. Keep it up. 7/10 overall? Up your game a bit and you're golden. Don't care that a girl is "pretty" or whatever. I try not to use those words anymore, honestly. She's "interesting" now.

unique_leek_critique · 2021-05-31T01:25:26+00:00

I feel like i hide behind it to hide the fact that I am not interesting/ have no charisma

Read How to Win Friends and Influence People and follow the instructions in that book. It's perfect for the specific issues you're having and was a gamechanger for me.

BoogieWOOGIEdoo · 2021-05-31T02:30:36+00:00

Please check DMs

NexusReflexX · 2021-05-31T04:50:11+00:00

Well, who do you want to be? Cause trying to be someone other than who you are now is the issue. Youre the only person whos gonna be there your whole life. Learn to love you. Be the best version of you.

You're 20 years old. Make small improvements and in 5 years you will look in the mirror one day and not recognize yourself, cause youre better. Youre better then better, if you put the work in now. Do the right thing a little bit each day

isomar1998 · 2021-05-30T22:37:29+00:00

Look into 75 hard. Done deal. If you don’t do it , you deserve what you have and tink

Title	Idk how to stop hating myself
Author	TortugaPirat
Upvotes	13
Comments	24
Date	May 30, 2021 8:17 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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