Even though I'm not part of the Red Pill anymore, I still fear for being falsely accused.

Comfortable_Intern57 · 2021-05-26T17:18:41+00:00

You have a better chance at getting struck by lightning.

minosandmedusa · 2021-05-26T17:13:42+00:00

You can channel that fear of being falsely accused into vigilance about other people's consent and personal boundaries. Instead of thinking of it as a fear of being falsely accused, think of it as a fear of accidentally making someone uncomfortable. Presumably, you don't want to violate anyone's boundaries, and being concerned about being falsely accused has mostly the same remedies. Asking for explicit consent can protect you from being falsely accused, while simultaneously protecting others from having their boundaries crossed.

That is my advice.

Lykah · 2021-05-26T16:13:58+00:00

You do need to get a life. Have you even looked at the statistics for false accusations? Barely 3%. Even if you say you broke out of those misogynistic communities, you obviously still have the same mindset. When you say you maybe need to spend time with some 'good women', you make it sound like most women are a sea of horrible people who just falsely accuse men for fun and there are few of us who are 'good'.

Also, you bring up Amber Heard like she is the norm, when she is an extremely rare case in hundreds of predatory men in Hollywood who have done far worse and didn't get nearly the same backlash. Roman Polanski raped a 13 years old girl and he was awarded at Cannes in recent years.

miss_Aesthetic- · 2021-05-31T05:32:49+00:00

So a few things:

1) Predatory women are a lot more common than the media would like us to think simply because rape and incest definitions tend to be constructed in such a way that make it very, very hard for a woman to be a rapist/child abuser.

2) There isn’t much statistics on false accusations because rape as is has a very low conviction rate. Most alleged victims never get their day in court. FBI stats say 2-10% of all allegations are false, but bear in mind that this could be a minimum given the fact that most rape accusations are never fully prosecuted/brought through the full legal course.

Studies conducted by rape kit testers and other reports have found the rate to be anywhere between 2-44%. Make what you will of that. I haven’t seen a single study over 45% that has serious methods/conclusions that don’t rely on misogynistic/misnadristic notions of what a “real” rape victim is.

At the end of the day, the feminist ideal that it is extremely uncommon isn’t proven nor is it completely correct. There’s still a good chance. Remember, 90% of men are “good people”, yet we are always wary of 10%. So if 90% of rape accusations are true, but there is that 10%, I’m sure you would always be alert.

This doesn’t mean to revictimize the victim, but give victims safe spaces to talk on their experiences and then move on to the bigger story after collecting all facts and evidence.

Something that bugs me about a lot of women commenting here is that they expect men to get over their negative experiences with women because most women are good people. I’m sure they are. But I would never tell a woman who was traumatized by men to get over it because most men are good people - that’s a really shitty thing to do. Sometimes misandry is a justified trauma response to horrible treatment. Misogyny can be too, and I think we here underestimate the trauma one can have with women that leads to horrible subreddits like the red pill and mgtow. These people don’t hate women out of nowhere, even if their hatred is extreme and missplaced.

Yet we tell men to get over their hatred of women after being traumatized because it is uncommon or because women have it harder. Your fears are valid. Your concerns are valid. Domestic violence is still a big issue for men, and lets be real: I’m sure if a lot more men in hollywood were honest and allowed to do so, we would hear a lot of awful stories about abusive women. But the public generally does not enjoy entertaining such narratives.

You are allowed to be wary of women. You are allowed to want to separate for a little while. That is self care and okay.

It crosses over into mgtow and red pill misogyny when you make it your life goal and philosophy to hate on all women, and when you use it to obstruct the basic livelihood and peace of all women (such as in the form of hurting female rape victims and dating manipulation). But choosing not to fuck with them for a bit for your own mental health is justified, as is a woman who chooses the reverse due to her own trauma.

Men and women do not owe it to each other to get over their traumas with the opposite sex.

OneComfortable3508 · 2021-06-07T21:18:46+00:00

Quit looking in the garbage and you’ll stop finding trash to worry about. Quit focusing on the few awful women out there and look at the millions of normal ones. . If you make good choices you won’t end up with a lunatic. I’ve been with over 50 women (both parties drinking wasn’t unusual) and never once had anything close to a rape accusation. Obviously being a creep or getting twisted and pushy with women is what to avoid. Why are you so worried? 99% of the time you have nothing to fear if you are doing the right thing.

Connect-5647 · 2021-05-26T16:23:28+00:00

Hell, I almost got brainwashed by RP and MGTOW when they were trying to tell me that women are the problem, including single mothers, onlyfans models and women in poly relationships (Basically any women that go against RP's outdated viewpoints).

How old are you? I only ask because as you get older and more successful you wont want any of those women to be the mother of your children. And no MAN wants their daughters to be any of those women.

Title	Even though I'm not part of the Red Pill anymore, I still fear for being falsely accused.
Author	whatboi67
Upvotes	5
Comments	28
Date	May 26, 2021 3:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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