Bitterness a year on

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flyinglime · 2016-11-16T17:15:30+00:00

Meditation meditation meditation meditation.

Seriously meditate every day. You write like someone trapped in their own head. Just like you do reps at the gym, you have to do reps of clearing your mind. You've conditioned your brain to be critical and intense 100% of the time. Now you must condition it to be calm. It takes real focused practice, but it will change your world I promise.

Thewelshpill · 2016-11-16T08:47:35+00:00

hows your diet?

Swelldritch · 2016-11-16T09:56:29+00:00

I'm no expert in TRP but I'll give you what little I can. Honestly, I have every sympathy for you, because in some ways I'm in a similar mood as of late (replace anger with apathy and lethargy and a horrible ex with a series of garbage relationships, and no debt here).

The problem is that you are holding yourself accountable for your past mistakes, as you should, but instead of realizing that you fucked up and moving on you're allowing your self-hatred to control your entire life. Here's my opinon on all of your points.

Shitty jobs are the worst, the absolute worst; but for the moment you need to focus on gaining financial stability so that your debt can't control you, as soon as that's mostly gone, go do whatever you want.
Forget her as best you can, it's hard, maybe impossible but you have to try. Do not let one dumb bitch fuck up your perception of yourself, you work hard, you seem like a good guy, you deserve better. 3.Forget girls/women for a bit, just until you've gotten mostly over your ex. I'm aware that that is about the least RP thing anyone could ever say but as far as I'm concerned you should worry about women you've got your shit in a row, not just whenever.
Just don't think that way. Hindsight is 20/20; yeah, you fucked up, in fact you made a horrible mistake. So what? You did what you thought was the right move and you were wrong. Now the only thing you should think about in regards to that situation is how you can take what you learned and move on. You have an entire life ahead of you, don't spend dwelling on an easy mistake you made a year ago.

I know this probably sounds cheesy or maybe it just sound like shit-talk, I don't know. But all you should be thinking about is the future , just improving your body is not going to help. Get out there, hang out with some guys, get a drink, go to a coffee shop, pick up a hobby. What, I personally think you need most, is activities that are satisfying and make you excited to get out there and enjoy what life has to offer.

Sorry if I rambled, I've had a long day and all. I wish you nothing but the best, bro.

Cheers

CullyBJJ · 2016-11-16T10:02:32+00:00

Maaaaate you will be dead before you know it..decomposing in the ground. Dont let circumstances dictate your happiness. Be assertive and proactive in making yourself happy. Do you enjoy BJJ? Smash the granny out of it! Do you want to trust again? Stop being a pussy open your gaurd and sweep the next girl in your life off her feet.

Nobody wants to hang around with that guy who dwells in self pitty.

wild_deer_man · 2016-11-16T16:04:15+00:00

I don't know what is TRPs stand on this, but I would suggest some kind of psychotherapy might help.

I got to my shrink (who I no longer see today) because I was filled with frustration, anger and anxiety, and by helping me to deal with them it actually opened the door for the RP ideas to sink in, in a healthy way.

All those emotions need attention, and there is a big difference between spilling them all around blue-pill style, and actually facing and listening to them for your own benefit (and maybe with some professional help.) Otherwise they will keep dragging you down no matter how much you lift, read and practice.

SetConsumes · 2016-11-16T16:57:42+00:00

2 You can hate and love her. No need for either or, both make sense together. Really, anyone you love, you also hate something about, and those that love someone know best what is despicable about that person too.

3 Yup. It's hard holding them to a double standard instead of holding them to the standard you hold men to. You hate women for not acting like men.

4 It is far worse to be reactive to the world vs proactive to the world. Make your destiny, do not give in to fate. Yes you may be punished for being you and doing what you want to do, but you will regret suppressing yourself and not standing up for yourself more as you do for when you've done this in the past.

Some people can come out of seeing rp and not be bitter and hateful and angry. I'm not there yet. In a way I don't even want to be okay with the situation and act like it's good or pleasant.

Once you see the world there's little to smile about.

PM-ME-YOUR-SEXTAPE · 2016-11-16T17:56:31+00:00

I found a spiritual answer to the hate. I've realized that we are mere animals struggling to make sense of reality, and the only thing I can control is myself.

It then makes no sense to be angry about things outside of my control, like women. I can attempt to influence them, but getting mad is like being mad at a lion for being carnevorous. What's the point?

Title	Bitterness a year on
Author	sergeantbbbbs
Upvotes	10
Comments	20
Date	November 16, 2016 8:38 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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