I've been a lurker through my main but wanted to let this off my chest through an alt. Just broke it off with my 'bf' of 5 years who was still too apprehensive of a future together. Not sure how long I would've waited for him to be 'comfortable' with it. He's flown over to see me just once. The relationship was well past it's expiration date. Ever so grateful to the queens of this subreddit who've always kept it real. I deserved better.