Got a job as a bouncer. I have some questions.

Tommy_407 · 2016-11-23T17:38:48+00:00

I was a bouncer for 7 years all over NJ, Jersey Shore, and parts of NYC.

I could write a book on this. You can assume all of the below, if you are really have the body you say and are a 5-7+ looks wise. I've been told I'm a 8.5-9.5 by most women who are vocal on the subject, plus I've always lifted, so this is how my experience was.

Girls hitting on you alot? Understatement . Be prepared to make out with up to 4 different girls during the course of one shift, all of them approaching you first and offering their number as well as insisting on making plans with you.

You will get an insane amount of phone numbers that you will have trouble keeping track of.

Atleast once in a while, a hot chick will approach you with the lure of you going back to her place to stay over when the shift ends. This may tend to happen more with older girls (28-35+), or "cougars" to you, at 21.

My advice is for you to watch WTF you're doing at every second and who is watching you, be very mindful bro. This is NOT a job you want to lose.

Here are my best guidelines I can give you:

the number one rule of bouncing is "never go in there alone", there meaning a big brawl. Signal the other bouncers to go in there and drag everyone out with you.

A good bouncer has rapport with the customers and is respectful as well as respected without showing unnecessary force or dominance. He can talk customers out of a bad situation and diffuse the two parties whilst making his job easier. Also, pick and choose times to swallow your pride and realize when it is or isn't worth it to brutally enforce your power on someone.

There are certain things youre going to have to let go, ESPECIALLY if you are working at "Hip Hop Night", or "Latin Night", the gang bangers DO NOT fuck around once shit pops off. They will fight all of you and break glasses in the club and will not relent until the police show up with guns drawn. Pick your battles.

Stand your ground. DO NOT LET any customers, especially pretty girls punk your ass into violating your authority. They will get you in trouble and/or make you look weak. When you say "smoking area is closed", that means it's fucking closed, nobody gets outside. No drinks outside means no fucking drinks outside, and you can assert this without yelling or being nasty. If you are one to let forceful men and pretty chicks bend or break the rules the manager will complain and you will be fired eventually.

DO YOUR DIRT ON THE LOW. I cannot stress this enough. Never ever be making out with a girl when the owner/manager/head bouncer can see you. Same goes with flirting or talking. Tell them to back off when your superiors seem to be watching you, especially the head bouncer.

NEVER EVER be the guy who missed a fight, or didn't see someone doing something they shouldn't have been because you had your head up some girls ass. This will get you fired.

If a girl is chatting you up like crazy, and all over you touching your muscles, keep her in check. If she's about to get you in trouble, or you've gotten the message and it's getting to be too much, what I used to do is take out my phone and goto "New Contacts", hand it to them and say "put your name/number in here, then text me so I'll remember".

This is a good game tactic and always worked, and it absolves you of the guilt of being seen using your phone on duty. They will be the ones holding and using your phone, then take it when they're done. This is also a good way to close and silence the ones who are flirting with you to move on for more later on in the night.

If a girl wants to kiss you, she will express it to you vocally and be direct. She will ask you or in some cases surprise you suddenly and make a pass with her mouth. Never return the kiss if you are in the plain sight of any superiors who have the power to get you fired.

Instead - tell them to stand by you and wait for a few minutes. Look around for the opportunity and then steal it away quickly - take them into a dark corner, behind the fence, behind a door, etc. Hurry the fuck up and get your tongue session in, and resist the urge to linger. Your job is at stake here, but doing this discreetly and properly should pose no threat.

You are the bouncer who has the power and authority. Let pussy chase you. Do not get sidetracked with chasing pussy yourself. The girls will come to you believe me, and when they do, it will work high in your favor versus you being the annoying staff member who was chasing them. Never try to kiss a girl or ask her to make out. SHE WILL ASK YOU. This may sound obvious but it's easy to get caught up in the pussy and let it get to your head.

Mixed Martial Arts? No. Not at all. As the bouncer you will have a sense of legal liability towards the customers, and the owner will stress this. MMA is the last fucking thing you want to ever resort to. Most head bouncers will tell you never to punch or kick anyone unless it is a LAST RESORT. Grab them by their shoulders or torso and drag them out the door. Unnecessary violence will get your fired. If they attack you or hit you first, and you wish to punch them back, only do so OFF camera and very discreetly. Some places will tell you never to use physical force until necessary.

Always be on point and remember your job as security comes before anything, don't let pussy or anger get you sidetracked. Have fun bro, and be sure to make friends and go there on your night off.

Last but not least

Don't get caught drinking or drugging on the job, meaning, don't drink or do drugs. Ignore all the free coke, E, Special K, and people's offers to buy you drinks. Fuck that shit. You do not want to lose this job. Your SMV and social proof especially will be increased from this gig. Don't fuck it up.

What kind of place you working at?

fnordsnord · 2016-11-23T17:03:47+00:00

I think so formal self-defense training is in order, but I would ask a cop what kind. Most self defense training focuses on disabling your attacker. And as a bouncer you won't last long if you injure the people you're trying to deal with.

Social engineering is more important than getting physical for a bouncer. You want to defuse, then intimidate, and only when BOTH of those fail, do you get physical.

TheRedStoic · 2016-11-23T18:39:06+00:00

Learn judo and jujitsu.

Judo takes a lot of size out of the equation, jujitsu to stop any real heavy threats.

I think though, the biggest benefit will be the calm and control you exude once you've realized your own abilities. Most fights can be avoided once you've learned enough martial arts and had your face pounded in enough.

Pro tip, don't every enter a mosh alone. (Any group fight). Also don't ever bend rules for your authority. Everyone follows your rules. Period. No exceptions.

LordThunderbolt · 2016-11-28T03:06:36+00:00

Krav Maga, so u only have to deal once with the same asshole. You want to permanently physically disable any jackass who doesn't respect your authority. Take no prisoners.

Title	Got a job as a bouncer. I have some questions.
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