At 17 I got my first girlfriend and wasn't able to perform due to what I believe was porn-induced ED. This created a negative feedback loop in my head and the next few times I'd try to fuck I'd start getting anxious and couldn't get it up for anything but head. We broke up shortly after.

I've had multiple girls approach me over the past 4 years and had many encounters where I've either avoided sex or I'd give it a shot, get nervous and just end up getting oral.

One girl whom I've had encounters with over the past 3 years has been starting to ask me why I only want head from her. She does not think I'm virgin. Two weeks ago she came over and I couldn't even get hard for head and that inspired me to quit porn and to make this post. I've tried to fuck her in the past but couldn't get it up either. She's really sexually experienced and as silly as it sounds my gut tells me I'm a little intimated by that.

Would telling the girl I got now about my anxiety help? I wouldn't tell her my sexual history, but I'd just tell her I get anxious or something. She'd probably know I'm a virgin if we fuck either way.

Not sure what is the best route here. I'm ready to face this bullshit head on but should I try again with a new girl who might be less experienced or keep trying with this girl I've got ready to go now.

TLDR - 21M with performance anxiety. Trying to decide if I should get a new girl with less experience or try with girl I have now who is very experienced. Her experience increases my anxiety a bit.